You Should Never Write THESE Things On Your Dating Profile
Things men should not write on a dating profile include sharing their Myers-Briggs results, telling women to "just ask", and writing how they have limited time to date.
Your written bio should highlight your strengths, show confidence, and create a desire for women to meet you. Unfortunately, most men use approaches that do more harm than good.
Here are 10 things you should not write on a dating profile. If any of these apply to you, remove it from your bio immediately.
1. Your Myers-Briggs results.
More and more men put their Myers-Briggs personality test results on their profiles. The idea is it gives women an idea of their personality.
There are 16 types of personalities, according to Myers-Briggs. INTJ, INTP, ENTJ, blah, blah, blah... You should put WGAF, aka Who Gives a F$ck!
I am on dating apps constantly. Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, Hinge, etc. I start hundreds of conversations, and no woman has asked me what my Myers-Briggs personality is. NEVER.
When you write your Myers-Briggs personality results on your bio, some women may make a negative assumption based upon your type. So, you are hurting your results. Do you really want women to place a label on you based on some test you take on the internet?
People are a little more complex than the test. And by sharing your personality results on your bio, some women will prejudge you based on it. I consider myself more than the results. Don't you?
Why not put your astrological sign on your bio as well? For me, there is no difference between that and a Myers-Briggs personality. Don't get me started about that. Seriously, don't put that on your bio either.
2. Literally writing nothing about yourself.
For whatever reason, some men write nothing about themselves in their bio. I'm not sure how you can expect to do well if you share nothing about who you are.
Putting zero effort into your bio shows women how serious you are about meeting someone. You appear lazy and don't care.
Don't expect to meet women if you put zero effort into your bio
Women want to get an idea about your passions, interests, hobbies, and goals. Your bio is key to showing these.
A well-written bio acts as validation that you are looking for a relationship. It shows women how much of a potential "match" you are. A full fleshed out bio is key for success on any dating app.
Also, don't leave your bio bare and write how you'll "get back to this later." You don't want to start contacting women if your bio is empty.
You can't expect to find a partner when you share nothing about yourself. Keep this formula in the back of your mind; Half-assed bio = half-assed results.
For tips on how to write about yourself effectively, visit my blog post, 10 Critical Online Dating Profile Tips for Men.
Always fill your bio completely.
3. You have limited time to date.
Don't write how you're very busy or have little time to date but will, "Make time for the right person." It's not necessary and makes you seem unavailable.
Think about it. Why would a woman looking for a relationship want to date a guy who has zero free time?
You shouldn't write how you are too busy for online dating. It sends a terrible message to women reading your bio. Take it off.
4. Showing skepticism about dating apps.
Stay away from writing how you have "low expectations for meeting someone" or "online dating isn't really your thing," but you figure you would give it a try.
First of all, these are negative statements. Women don't react well to negative bios. EliteSingles found 22% of members found negativity to be a turnoff.
These types of phrases also insult the women reading your bio. It comes across as arrogant. As if you are too good for online dating but have no other options.
You can't expect a woman to take you seriously if you are unsure if online dating is for you. You are on a dating app for a reason. Own it.
5. Sharing your frustrations.
Never use your bio as a forum to rant about your experiences on dating apps. If you're frustrated, take it out at the gym. Go outside and get some air. Just get off your phone or computer.
Your bio shows you're a man of character, strength, and what you have to offer as a potential partner. You want to show confidence, humor, and intelligence.
Yet, many guys decide to attack women in their bios. This is a huge blunder. No woman wants to meet a man who starts his bio like the one below.
Don't vent in your bio. Ever!
6. Writing what you think women want to hear.
Women roll their eyes when they see men describe themselves as a "nice guy" or a "true gentleman" on their bios. Don't tell women you "hold doors open for them" and know how to "treat a lady."
These types of phrases come across as insincere. Yes, women like being treated with respect, getting flowers, and want a "gentleman." When you meet a woman, you can prove these things through actions!
You need to get to the date first. The best way is with a well-written bio with depth where you share information about your lifestyle and who you are instead of what you think women want to hear.
7. You aren't here for games or drama.
Don't write on your bio how you aren't "here for games or drama" or tell women not to waste your time. This is one of the worst things you can write in your bio. I'm shocked by how many men write these.
Remember, you don't want a jaded, negative, hostile bio. No sane woman will read a guy's bio that says, "I'm not here for games" and thinks to herself, "Wow, this guy is a total catch. I gotta meet this guy!"
Nope, it will send women running for the hills. It's a waste of space. If you write how you don't have time for drama, you are probably the one that brings it.
A profile blunder is writing that you aren't here for games or drama
8. Telling women to put effort into their messages.
You shouldn't tell women to put effort into their messages to you. Dude, most guys don't receive icebreakers from women at all. Be thankful a female sent you an icebreaker.
As I mentioned above, women don't like seeing negativity on dating profiles. Telling women to send you a well thought out first message isn't attractive and not a good first impression.
When you have a well-written bio, some women will send icebreakers commenting on your bio. Others may send "hey" as their icebreaker. Either way, be grateful you received a message.
Never tell women the type of messages to send you.
9. "I can't see likes!"
Any woman who uses OkCupid sees an insane amount of men who write, "I can't see likes." The reason OkCupid does this is to encourage you to become an upgraded member, meaning a paid membership.
It's OK to use the free version, but don't write "I can't see likes" on your bio. You are the man, so go out and seek women and message them. Don't sit around waiting for someone to "like" your bio.
It's usually the first thing men write on their bio, and it's a terrible way to introduce yourself. If a woman is really interested in you, she will send you an icebreaker.
And it's not just OkCupid that has this problem, women on Plentyoffiish often see, "I'm not an upgraded member." Again, it's pointless to add this to your bio.
Whatever dating app you use, don't point out its limitations on your bio. If your bio is good, women will message you.
Never write how you can't see likes on your bio.
10. Tell women to message you first or "just ask."
If a woman is interested in you, she will send you a message. There is no reason to waste precious space in your bio telling women to send you a message if they're interested. Trust me on this, they will.
If you have a well-written bio, believe me, women will let you know, through swipe rights, "likes", and icebreakers.
So, leave the often used, "Just ask" off of your bio. And never tell women to send you a message. These approaches don't help. Seriously, they don't.
To see an example of how to write a good bio, visit my blog post, What Is A Good Dating Profile Example For Men.