How To Start A Conversation On Tinder
Getting responses to messages from women on Tinder is EASY. How do you start a conversation on Tinder with a girl? It's simple; comment on her bio.
Cheesy pickup lines and boring messages such as "Hi" or "How are you?" never work. I've started countless conversations with women on Tinder by mentioning something on their Tinder bio. That's precisely what you do to start a conversation on Tinder with a girl; focus on her profile.
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Stay away from pick Up lines on Tinder
Search "Tinder pick up lines" on Google, and you'll find results like these:
I laugh when I see these results. The reason? You don't need 50 pickup lines to meet women on Tinder. Pick up lines may work every once in a while on Tinder, but more often than not, they fail.
Instead of pick up lines, you need a good strategy to get responses to your messages on Tinder. The ideal approach to get a reply to your message is to comment on her profile.
OkCupid made a key discovery
OkCupid discovered 3 phrases which the highest response rates from women. I covered this with examples on OkCupid here: 3 Good Conversation Starters for Online Dating Messages To Women.
OkCupid discovered these phrases received the most responses for guys:
- Noticed that
- You mention
- Good taste
The phrases work because each shows you read a woman's profile. You took the time to gain a little insight into her lifestyle and interests. Go figure!
That's right; cheesy lines don't work with most women. Boring messages such as "Hey" won't start conversations on Tinder either; stay away from them.
The key to starting a conversation on Tinder with women? Show women you read their bio. It shows you're at least, trying to get to know more about them at a level beyond the physical.
Make sure you have a excellent Tinder bio
Before you message women, be sure you have a solid Tinder profile. Here are a few tips for you:
1. How To Take Good Dating Profile Photos For Men
2. 10 Things Men Should Never Write On Their Dating Profile
How To Start A Conversation On Tinder
Here's how you use the 3 phrases above. The first step is to read a woman's bio and find something to comment in your message. Easy right?
In this example, a woman wrote "Fitness/health is a huge part of my life" on her bio. I used that to start a conversation.
I wrote the woman this opening message:
"Hi Leslie, you mention how fitness is a huge part of your life so how do you keep in shape? Are you a gym person, an outdoors person, or both... like me."
I used the phrase "you mention" and asked a question while sharing a little information about myself as well. The result? I got a response which you can see below.
Anything women share on their bio is fair game
In this example, the woman wrote a lot about herself. I focused on her use of the word "hiking" and then zeroed in on her use of a song by the Foo Fighters as her Tinder anthem.
Here is the message I wrote to her:
"Hi Emily, I noticed that you like the Foo Fighters. Clearly, you have good taste in music.
You mention you enjoy hiking. How often do you hike? I go every other weekend. So many great places to hike in San Diego."
I was playing around her and decided to use all three phrases in my message. You don't need to use all three, but I wanted to show you how you can use them in your message on Tinder.
The result is she responded.
How effective are the phrases at starting a conversation on Tinder?
Do these phrases work? You be the judge:
The phrases show women I read their profile and work. It's as simple as that.
How to start conversations with women who have an empty bio
I know what you're thinking. "This is great Chris, but what about women who have an empty bio on Tinder?" Relax, here's what you do to get responses from women with an empty Tinder bio.
Call them out on it using the phrase "I noticed." Yup, it works. Check it out.
Don't comment on photos
If you decide to comment on photos, you're making a mistake. Photo comments are the approach most men use in their messages, and it's a blunder. It's impossible to create a message which stands out when you use the same approach as everyone else.
You are lumped in with men who comment on photos which is the worst first message. Instead, a better approach is commenting on something in women's profile showing you at least attempted to read it.
Final Thoughts
In conclusion, starting a conversation on Tinder with a girl is easy. You don't need 50 pickup lines or cheesy come on's. Comment on something in their bio. It shows women you took the time to read their profile which is positive and helps your message stand out.
Focus on something you have in common to create a connection. If a woman has a blank bio, comment on the fact it's empty. Doing so shows you looked at her written section.
Use these as a way to jump-start your messages on Tinder. You'll get better the more you use them. I've used this approach on Tinder for years, and it's a goldmine.
Leave your comments below. How do you start a conversation on Tinder with girls?
