Online Dating – First Date Tips For Men

So you got the number from a girl on a dating site.

You are ready for the first date.

Now comes the decision of what to do and where to go on your date.

The first date is critical.

Screw it up and you won’t get a second date.

These first date tips for men are a simple guide that will help you succeed and get that second date.

First Date Tips for Men #1 – Pick the Right Type of Date

What’s the best idea for a first date?

Easy.

Coffee or cocktails.

One of the most important first date tips for men is to keep it simple which is why you should meet for a drink.

If a woman indicates she’s a “social drinker” on her dating profile, she’ll be more than happy to meet you for a drink.

If not, coffee is the best alternative.

Anything else is a waste of time.

Picnics, hiking, bowling, painting, kayaking, walking along the beach, comedy show, walking in a park, a sushi making class, a doggie date, and anything other than meeting for coffee or a drink is a bad idea.

And don’t think about dinner either. Dinner on a first date is a rookie move and should avoided.

Maybe you want to be different from everyone else. Maybe you want to appear “creative” to impress her.

Forget it.

Keep it casual and simple.

A coffee/cocktail date is a great way to see if there’s attraction and chemistry which is really what the first date is all about.

People aren’t always who they appear to be on their dating profiles.

You wouldn’t want to waste your time and money on someone you don’t connect with.

Save the fun stuff for the second date.

First Date Tips For Men #2 – Pick The Right Venue

If you are meeting for coffee, any coffee shop will do. It can be a Starbucks or a local coffee shop.

Drinks can be trickier.

Pick a place that’s accessible to both of you; halfway if you both live far from each other.

Happy hours are a good cost effective way to meet someone.

A wine bar or a pub are great places to meet.

Be sure to pick a place that’s not too loud; a crowded bar with a live band for example can be a distraction.

You want to be able to talk to your date. You won’t want to have to yell in order to talk.

If you order a drink, here is what you drink says about you according to a dating site: What Your Drink Says About You

First Date Tips for Men #3 – Be On Time

Never show up late to your first date. First impressions are key and if you show up late you are off to a bad start.

“Fashionably late” doesn’t apply here. Be on time.

If you arrive early even better. You can wait outside or grab a table. It’s your choice.

If you do go inside, just text her and say “I got here a little early and will grab us a table. I’ll be the good looking guy sitting alone.”

When the woman arrives, if you are facing the room, give up your seat and let her face the room.

Some people think the man should have his back to the room and some think the man should he face the room.

It shouldn’t matter to you as the focus of this date will be on her anyway.

I always let the woman face the room.

Lastly, if you do arrive before the woman don’t order a drink until she shows up. This includes if you are meeting for coffee.

It’s tacky to have beverage in hand before she arrives.

Water will tide you over until she gets there.

First Date Tips for Men #4 – Dress To Impress

Make an effort to wear something nice and groom accordingly.

Appearances are everything.

A woman will instantly know if she’s going to date you, let alone sleep with you, as soon as she meets you.

Her time is just as important as yours so make an effort to be presentable.

First Date Tips for Men #5 – Be a Gentleman

Have fun. Laugh. Go with the flow.

If you are charming, confident, funny, and not too forward you will get a second date.

Be a gentleman and pay the bill. When she offers to pay just tell her “You can buy me a round on our next date.”

Walk her to her car, tell her you had a great time and want to see her again, give her a hug and go for the kiss.

Conclusion

First dates can be nerve wracking but they don’t have to be.

Follow the rules above and you’ll get results.

And lastly, don’t get trashed on your first date. Limit it to two drinks max!