7 Reasons Paid Dating Sites Are Better Than Free Sites To Meet Women
Paid dating sites are better than free sites to meet women. I am on dating sites regularly for this blog, so I know a thing or two about this stuff. Honestly, if there are women on a dating site (free or paid), you can meet someone.
However, I find paid sites offer more options for men, are a much better way to meet women (if you’re willing to put the time in), and are a better option if you’re serious about meeting someone. Paid dating sites give you more features, fewer scammers, and women who are better matches.
Here are a few reviews I've done for several dating sites which require a paid membership:
Free Dating Sites Aren't Always Free
Don’t be fooled by the term "free" when it comes to dating sites. It’s more like "free to sign up," but free sites are never completely free. Sure, they are free to join (as all dating sites are), and they allow you to contact women, but more and more of these "free" sites limit how many women you can contact.
Tinder limits how many women you can swipe per day:
Hinge limits the amount of "likes" you can use to start conversations, and you must have "preferred membership" which means a paid membership
On POF you must be an "upgraded member" to contact certain women who have an upgraded profile. Of course, an upgraded membership means you must have a paid membership to contact these women.
On OkCupid, seeing who likes you, validating your message is read, and using "advanced" filtering requires joining their "A-List" which is another a paid service.
So you see, a free dating site is free in some respects, but if you want to full access to contact women on them, you’ll have to pay on all of them.
Sites requiring a paid membership are your best bet!
A lot of guys don’t want to use paid dating sites because of the cost which doesn’t make sense. I understand if money is an issue, but a paid dating site offers better features to meet women. If you're serious about meeting a woman, why not spend the monthly fee?
Using a free dating site does work, but it means more time and maybe even spending more money on dates with women you might weed out if you encountered them on a paid dating site.
When it comes to the cost of a paid site, look for discounts online. I found a discount on RetailMeNot for Eharmony that saved me a lot of money. Also, don’t hesitate to contact the dating site and ask for a deal; they might kick down a discount.
Here are the 7 reasons paid dating sites are better than free sites to meet women.
1. More quality women.
Paid dating sites like Match, Zoosk, Eharmony, Jdate an Christian Mingle have a massive number of female members. All these paid dating sites are excellent in their own ways. When you are on a dating site that requires a paid membership, you know women are serious about finding someone because they are spending their cash!
You are more likely to find women who are on the same page as you. Nobody is on a paid dating site looking for validation and "checking things out." Those are the attitudes of women (and men) that are on free dating sites.
Women on paid dating sites know what they want and, for the most part, are looking for a relationship. They don't want to waste their time and are more direct in what they want.
2. You encounter fewer scammers on paid sites
I’m on these sites all the time and rarely encounter fake women on sites that require a full paying membership. To use a paid dating sites features, you must enter a credit card which means fake will less likely contact you.
It doesn’t mean they don’t exist. For example, you can create a profile for free on Zoosk, but may routinely encounter fake profiles like the one below. It's easy to spot hookers and fakes on Zoosk because they always put their phone number in their photo and write nothing on their bio. Also note her age, 48 years old and the picture is obviously a woman in her early 20's.
Don’t get me started about POF. I’ve never encountered as many fakes on any dating site as I do on POF. Spambots and fakes are annoying but easily identifiable. They are always super hot, have one profile photo, and say the same thing in their message on POF; "hey there."
However, during my times on Match and Eharmony, I can’t recall more than 1 or 2 fakes which the sites caught quickly and removed. I’m not saying scammers don’t exist on these sites, but you’re less likely to encounter them.
3. You focus on your dating goals more.
When I spend money on a dating site, I put more effort into meeting someone and take it more serious than when I’m on a free dating site. I am spending money, after all, so I make sure I’m not screwing around.
If you use a free dating site, you don’t take it as serious because there’s no time limit. Swipe right, swipe left, maybe send a few messages, go on a date or two. No biggie you’re on a free site, and you got time.
On a paid site people usually pay by month, or months, so you tend to be more serious about meeting someone. The last thing you want to do is trade messages with a woman and then have your membership expire.
4. You gain access to better filtering tools.
Paid sites offer full use of their filtering tools whereas most free ones do not. Do you want to search for women who want kids on Tinder? Good luck! Tinder only filters on location and age.
Maybe you want to meet a college educated woman on Hinge. Well, you have to sign-up for their paid membership to access their filtering tool.
If you’re serious about meeting someone, you probably have a few lifestyle choices you want in a partner (kids, education, career, college educated, etc.) Good luck on Bumble or Tinder finding that out. You will have to swipe right on a woman, hope she swipes right with you, then start a conversation, then swap several messages to figure out if you’re both on the same page. All that time wasted if you aren’t a match for each other.
A better option is using the filtering tool to weed out what you don’t want in a partner. Here's the filer for Match.com and you see it has several categories including smoking, religion, body type, politics, and hobbies to name a few.
Filtering is not a problem on paid sites because you get full use of their filtering mechanism so you can zero in on the women you want to meet, and exclude those you don’t. Using filters saves you a lot of unnecessary time you may potentially spend time and energy with on women who aren't a match.
5. Women put more effort into their profiles on paid sites.
Here is what a typical woman's profile looks like on Tinder. The woman below shares nothing about her lifestyle, passions, interests or anything which gives you a clue if you're a match.
Women tend to show next to nothing on their bio's on dating apps. The effort women put into their profile shows you how serious they take the app. You’ll need to put more effort (swiping right with each other and swapping messages) to determine if you’re a match.
On paid dating sites women are more likely to share more information about themselves. Take a look at this profile on Match. I know what this woman is looking for on Match. She shares information about her career, lifestyle, and interests.
I can also look at her profile settings for more information I would never get on most apps. I see she doesn't want kids, is college educated and is a social drinker. Try doing that on Tinder or Bumble!
6. Less paid dating sites = more female members on them.
There are a ton of free dating sites: Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, POF, OkCupid, MeetMe, Badoo, Coffee Meets Bagel, Happen, Pickable, Clover, Twoo, Scout, and the list goes on. New ones pop up seemingly daily. Free dating sites mean women are spread out across them.
Paid sites are another story; there is a handful of dating sites that require fully paid memberships. Another benefit of a paid dating site is there are more female members. Take this example; it's 10:30 PM on a Thursday and there are 164 women on Match.com between the ages of 30-40.
I can message each woman directly. I get to choose who I want to contact and ignore who I don't. I don't have to swipe right and left through countless women...one by one...on sites like Tinder or Bumble. On Hinge, I'd have to like every woman (or unmatch with them).
On sites like Match and Zoosk, I can filter, search, and message the women I want instead of waiting for sites like Tinder to present them to me one by one.
7. You can contact whomever you want.
On a paid site you send messages to any woman who catches your eye. If you use a free site, you can message women, but most limit your ability to message women unless you pay.
Tinder gives you limited swipes, Hinge only allows you to match with so many women, and Badoo requires money to name a few. Once you're a paid member on JDate or Zoosk, you can contact any woman you want.
Final Thoughts
All dating sites are free to join and set up a profile. Some even let you browse the members. However, deciding if a paid site or free one is a better option comes down to what you want and how serious you are about meeting someone.
I recommend you check out a paid dating site. Paid dating sites are better than free ones because the women are more serious, there are fewer scammers, and they have better filtering tools to name a few.
It doesn’t mean a free dating site doesn’t work. I’ve met beautiful, amazing, quality women on both paid sites and free ones. I've also met total train wrecks on both.
If you want to see which dating site is for you, sign up and use the sites filtering tool for women who are online or online the past 24 hours. You can do this on sites like Match, Zoosk, etc..
Don’t hesitate to contact a paid site and ask if they offer a discount. You can also use Google and search for discounts; I recently found one for Eharmony and saved a lot of money.
