How to find casual hookups on Tinder with women (and remain anonymous)
You can easily find casual hookups on Tinder using the right approach. Women are looking for NSA relationships on dating apps, and with the right approach, you can find a woman for a purely physical relationship while keeping your anonymity.
Most men make the mistake of sending vulgar messages to women who are looking for a relationship hoping to get a response. Other guys pretend they are looking for a relationship, but only want a hookup. Those are the wrong approaches for finding a hookup.
A better approach is honesty; putting your intentions out there and letting women come to you. It takes effort, patience, and you will be continuously rejected, but if you do the work, you can find someone who is on the same page and only wants a no strings type of relationship.
I decided to test a different approach on Tinder and see how many women I could find who wanted a physical relationship. I wasn't expecting much, but to my shock, I found several women who were looking for the same thing.
Here are steps to find a casual hookup on Tinder. Follow this direct approach, and you'll fare better than the rest of the guys who send messages that are forward, lie to get what they want and save a lot of time trading messages with women who aren't on the same page.
1. Don't use personal pictures
I know this goes against the grain, but use a text picture as your profile picture on Tinder. Don't use photos of yourself.
A better choice for your Tinder photo is using a text image. My primary photo was simply this text:
Using a text image as a profile pic grabs women's attention.
An image with a black background and white text is all you need. I used Canva; it's free, and you can literally create one like this in a minute.
Use whatever text you want. Make it descriptive but keep it clean. The idea is to stand out and grab a woman's attention. It creates more of a mystery, and women are more apt to read the bio.
A bio with no photos can grab attention from women
Not using a photo can have disadvantages; women assume you are not single.
Of course, some women won't swipe right because it looks like you're hiding something, but so what; others will. And that's the point, there's no magical way to find casual hookups on Tinder which appeals to 100% of the women, but using this photo approach works.
2. Write what you want in your bio
Don't be super explicit in your bio. Write you want an NSA relationship. Words are a powerful aphrodisiac, so add how you're confident, highly sexual, and add other details about yourself.
This isn't the time to write how you love traveling and are a great gook. You must show confidence and describe what you want. You want women to think you are talking about them in your description.
Confirm you aren't looking for a one-night stand; you'll appeal to women who are on the same page. If you choose to write you just want a one night stand, you'll have a hard time finding matches.
If you live alone, add that for sure. Paint a picture of an enjoyable time with wine and music. Women don't want to be used, so add some enticing things to your bio. It makes a difference.
3. Start swiping!
Now it's time to find matches. My advice is to look for women in the evenings; preferably on the weekend as that's when women maybe have a glass of wine, want some attention, and are ready for a little fun.
If you're using the free version of Tinder, don't just swipe everyone. Be selective. You only have so many swipe rights, and once you hit their limit, you have to wait several hours before you can swipe again.
However, if you are a paid member with unlimited swipes; swipe away. Swing for the fences!
4. Make sure you're on the same page when you match.
If a woman matches up with you, don't send messages asking her how her day is going nor just say "hi." You want to make sure she read your bio and is looking for the same thing.
Some women swipe right on your bio based on your photo alone. After reading your bio, some women will immediately unmatch with you, but others will continue the conversation. That's who you focus on.
Make sure the woman is on the same page, by asking her this, "What are you looking for on Tinder?" She will answer 100% of the time.
Always ask a woman what she is looking for to ensure you're on the same page.
Eventually, you will find a woman who is looking for the same thing as you.
There are women on Tinder looking for NSA relationships.
5. Once a woman confirms, get her offline
Once you find a woman on the same page, get her off the app as soon as possible. You can swap phone numbers or use chat tools like KIK or What's app.
Once a woman confirms you both want to hookup, get her off the app as quickly as possible.
Send her your chat ID and tell her you'll send a pic. Send the woman a full-body pic and a headshot; it's a must. Keep your picture clean! Respect her boundaries.
If a woman doesn't have a chat tool, you can load a couple of photos on your Tinder bio, confirm she sees them, then delete them, so only your text image remains.
Don't immediately invite yourself over to a woman's house or send her your address. Nothing scares a woman away faster than an overeager guy. Let it happen naturally.
Once you send a photo, if a woman tells you that you aren't her type; move on. Don't send her several messages begging for a chance. Pleading is not an attractive trait. And never get angry.
Final Thoughts
You can find casual hookups on Tinder if you put in the work. You aren't going to get a flood of responses from women, but put in the effort and you can find someone who is on the same page.
Just to note; my goal wasn't to meet someone, but to see if one or two women would respond to my approach on Tinder. I was surprised that several women responded; some wanted an FWB while others pure NSA. Others said "no thanks" after reading my bio.
I got several women offline on chat apps who were more than willing to meet, so use my method as a blueprint for finding someone on Tinder.