How To Make A Good First Impression On Dating Apps
Ways to make a good first impression on dating apps include diverse photos, being assertive, and showing effort in your profile. It's easy to stand out if you put in a little effort. Unfortunately, most guys don't.
First impressions are everything on dating apps. You never know what will attract or scare a woman away. Don't worry; the tips below can help. Here are 7 ways you can make a great first impression on dating apps.
1. Make an effort in your bio.
One of the best ways to make a good first impression on dating apps is to show effort in your dating profile. Share the things that make you unique.
Typically, guys put zero effort into their bio's and fail for that very reason. For example, instead of saying you enjoy cooking, it's better to talk about your go-to dish or recipes you are experimenting with creating.
Adding depth to your bio gives you an edge over the countless men who write little to nothing about themselves. You give insight about yourself, which can mean the difference between a response or being ignored by a woman.
You better believe women take the time to read your profile. Here are a few facts about the impact your bio has on your results:
- Coffee Meets Bagel found the top 10% more like profiles were 35% longer than the rest.
- Bumble analyzed data in Australia and found there are 32% more matches for those who take the time to fill out their entire profile.
- Women spend 50% more time than men analyzing profiles than men, according to a study.
- Plentyoffish found dating profiles with 200 words receive 10% more messages.
You must put effort into your dating profile. The effort you put into your profile shows women how serious you are about meeting someone.
Women don't like profiles that show a lack of effort.
If you're looking for more tips for your dating profile, check out my page, 10 Critical Online Dating Profile Tips for Men.
2. Use a diverse portfolio.
Another way to make a good first impression are photos that show various pieces of your life. A diverse portfolio makes your profile come alive.
The first thing is to ditch the overused selfies. OKCupid found men are twice as likely to meet women in person when they post pictures of themselves "doing something interesting" instead of "drinking" (a standard stand-by photo).
Hopefully, you have a variety of interests and don't sit at home on the couch. Do you like kayaking? Add a picture of yourself doing it. Maybe you like to grill? Have someone snap a picture of you on the BBQ.
Maybe you go to sporting events or participate in a recreational league. Make sure you have photos of these activities. Hinge found some of the top photos you can use include photos featuring sporting events or activities.
It's important to include a couple of full-body shots as well. Otherwise, you look like you're hiding something. You will get fewer matches if you use nothing but close up pictures.
Lastly, make sure you use good quality pictures. Nothing blurry. Match.com found 42% of people judge you by the quality of your pics.
Showing something interesting in photos can prompt icebreakers from women.
For an overview of pictures for your dating profile, visit here, What Are Good Dating Profile Photo Tips For Men.
3. Show a genuine curiosity in your icebreakers.
When messaging women, you want to show genuine curiosity about them. Commenting on a woman's bio is the best way to get responses to messages.
Ask questions about something you find on a woman's bio. Anything a woman shares in her bio is usable in your opening message.
If a woman shares she enjoys traveling, ask what's next on her passport. Ask her if she has any funny stories to share. Ask her about a recent trip.
Below is an example from Tinder. Leslie shares she enjoys fitness, so I use that in my icebreaker. The result is she responds, and a conversation starts.
Show effort in your icebreakers to women on Tinder
Most men don't ask questions in their icebreakers. Guys write, "Hello," or "Hey there," as a conversation starter and wonder why they can't meet anyone. Putting in a little effort makes a much better first impression.
Need help starting conversations on dating apps? Visit my blog post, What Are Good Online Dating First Message Tips For Men?
4. Showing assertiveness - Make your move!
Women are not looking for pen pals on dating apps. I can't believe how often men are happy messaging women with zero intent on meeting for a date. It's such a bad problem; women write on their bios to not waste their time like below on Tinder.
Women aren't on dating apps for pen pals.
The goal of online dating is to meet someone, not have an online-only relationship. You want to get a woman's number quickly so you can meet for a date.
Once you feel a natural ebb and flow to your conversation, ask the woman for her number. If you drag out your conversations, women get bored and move on. You also risk another guy moving in and grabbing a woman's interest.
Lastly, when you match with a woman, don't just let her hang in your queue. Send her a message. What's the point in swiping right or liking a woman and not sending a message when you match up?
Never let a woman wait for a message after you both match up.
5. Don't be creepy, needy, or insecure.
All it takes is one mistake to blow your chances with a woman. Unfortunately, a lot of guys step over the line and ruin their chances​ forever.
Never be the guy who sends a woman multiple messages before she responds. For whatever reason, guys think the approach below is acceptable. It's not.
Avoid being annoying on dating apps.
A message like the one above makes you look needy or even worse, desperate. Women are attracted to confidence, not insecurity.
After you send a message, have patience. Don't rush to send another message because you see a woman is online.
Lastly, what do you do if a woman doesn't respond to your icebreaker? Send a second message, of course. I cover how to do it in my blog post, 3 Simple Rules for Messaging Etiquette on Dating Apps.
6. Know what you want
Guys who know what they want on dating apps do better than guys who hope women choose them. Understand the difference.
Don't appear aloof or write how "I don't know what I'm looking for," or "I figure I would give this a try." You joined a dating app for a reason, so own up to it.
It's a good idea to write about what you want in a partner as well. One study found you get more responses if your profile is a combination of who you are and what you are looking for in a partner.
Be descriptive about what you want in a woman. When writing about your ideal woman, do it positively. Don't write a laundry list of "must-haves" or "don't message me if" requirements. Keep it simple.
7. Have fun!
The best advice I can give to make a good first impression on dating apps is to have fun. Let the bad stuff roll off your sleeve.
Online dating is supposed to be fun. If I'm having a bad day, I stay off dating apps because my attitude and energy carry over to my messages.
Never write your bio when in a bad mood, either. Your bio must show confidence and put a smile on a woman's face. Keep your profile positive.
EliteSingles found 22% of its members found negativity to be a turnoff. Plentyoffish found users with positive profiles receive 23% more incoming messages.
If you find online dating feels like a chore, or even worse, frustrating, it's OK to take a break. A few days or weeks can freshen your spirit.
Change your mindset. Keep a positive mindset. Look at it this way; you have to weed through the riff-raff to find your perfect partner.