10 Things You Should Never Write On A Dating Profile
Things men should never write on a dating profile include sharing you're a nice guy, being fluent in sarcasm, and being an entrepreneur. These phrases, and even a single word, are instant turnoffs to women.
The list of phrases on this post is universally bad. Yes, many of the phrases below are used by women also. Because women use them too, it doesn't mean it's acceptable for you to use them in your bio.
Immediately remove any of the phrases on this page from your profile. Here are 10 things you should never write on a dating profile if you're a guy.
1. Ask me anything or to Just ask.
Telling a woman to "just ask" in your bio is a waste of space. Take it from me, if a woman wants to ask you a question, she will. There's no benefit writing in your bio, "just ask."
If you want a woman to ask something, craft a well-written bio. A bio with good depth will prompt women to like your bio, swipe right, and initiate conversations.
There's no need to ask women to contact you because it doesn't help. Instead, take some time when writing your self-summary. The effort you put into your bio will pay off when women contact you first.
A well-written bio prompts women to message you first.
2. My friends say...
A lot of men begin their bio sharing what others say about them. Examples include, "I've been told," "My friends would say," or, "Some people say," followed by a list of traits and qualities.
A real man speaks for himself and doesn't hide behind others. Letting someone speak for you shows a lack of confidence. You appear uncomfortable describing yourself as well.
It's simple - just write who you are. Saying, "I've been told" isn't necessary, is a poor introduction, and is off-putting to women that read your profile.
If you claim to be "funny", show it in your self-summary. If you are "giving" and "kind," describe how. If you're a "great guy," make sure your profile proves it.
3. I'm a nice guy.
Do nice guys finish last? I don't think so, but one thing is true; if you write, you're a "nice" guy on your profile; you WILL not connect with many women.
I can't believe how often men deem themselves a nice guy or "the sweetest guy you'll ever meet" on their profile.
Writing how you're a nice guy is often used by guys who aren't nice at all. It's as if you're writing something you think women want to see in your bio. The bad news is, they don't care if you label yourself a nice guy.
Besides, it's almost impossible to prove you're a nice guy unless you volunteer for something or rescue animals. Remove phrases similar to "I'm a nice guy" and focus on other adjectives you can back up in your profile.
You can only prove you're a nice guy after meeting a woman. Writing it on your bio is a waste of space and doesn't work.
Writing you're a nice guy never works - Keep it off your bio.
4. I hate talking about myself.
Suck it up. Nobody likes talking about themselves, but it's important to actually say something about yourself. Otherwise, you will fail on dating apps.
What's the point of starting your bio with a statement sharing you don't like writing about yourself? Starting off your bio with how much you hate writing about yourself or suck at profiles is an instant turnoff to women.
I don't like writing about myself, but I know it's critical to meet someone. As uncomfortable as it may be, sit down, think about it, and start writing about your hobbies, passions, interests, goals, achievements, etc. You're more likely to connect with a woman doing this.
No woman sees "I suck at writing profiles" and thinks, "Wow, we have so much in common. I gotta meet this guy." Shake off the uncomfortably and just start writing.
5. I'm not sure what I'm looking for...
Another mistake is sharing that you're not sure what you're looking for in your dating profile. It makes you appear wishy-washy or don't know what you want.
Nothing turns a woman off faster than a guy who is unsure of himself. Phrases such as, "I don't know why I'm here," lack confidence.
Women are attracted to alpha males. Men who take action and know what they want. Show you're on a dating app for a reason and aren't just "curious" or "checking this out."
If you're not sure of what you want, stay off dating apps. You'll fare better when your bio shows states what you're looking for. You're on a dating app for a reason, so own up to it.
6. I love to laugh.
What exactly does this mean? Everyone loves to laugh, but this phrase is meaningless. You might as well write, "I love to breathe."
I get it, you're trying to show you have a great sense of humor. Maybe you want women to think you're a fun guy. But, this phrase offers no proof that you're funny.
A better way to show you're fun is with actual humor in your bio. Think of witty things you can use to describe yourself. For example, you could write, "I'm an early riser, trapped in the body of someone who sleeps in late."
Women love a guy with a sense of humor. What better way to make a great first impression than making women smile when reading your profile.
7. I'm fluent in sarcasm.
Sarcasm is fine in person but shouldn't the primary selling point in your bio. It's not a trait women look for in a partner when reading men's profiles. Thus, there's no need to highlight you're "fluent in sarcasm."
And stay away from using sarcasm in your bio because it doesn't translate well. It's difficult to pull off sarcasm in written form. Women reading your bio may find it confusing.
"I'm fluent in sarcasm" is one of the most overused phrases on dating apps. It's among the top things men should never write on a dating profile.
"Fluent in sarcasm is one of the more overused phrases on dating apps.
8. I'm an entrepreneur.
The word entrepreneur is an overused label these days for men. Some women instantly think, unemployed, and you can't afford to do things.
Zoosk found men who refer to themselves as an entrepreneur in their profiles get 16% fewer messages. Zoosk claims the word may be a bit played out.
A better description may be "self-employed." Anything is acceptable if you work for yourself except using the word "entrepreneur." Keep this word off your bio as it's proven to harm your results.
9. My family (or friends) is important to me.
I'm not sure why people write this on their bio. Isn't everyone's family important to them? This is another meaningless phrase.
Sharing how your family is important to you is an overused phrase on profiles. Instead, share how you spend time with your family; I'm fortunate my entire extended family lives within a 20-mile radius. I see my family when I can. Be it a holiday get together, board game night, or football on Sundays. We enjoy our time together and have the freedom to have our own interests and friends.
Which phrase do you think is a better first impression? The description above, or the phase, "My family is important to me." The answer should be obvious.
10. A Jim looking for his Pam.
If you like The Office, that's cool. Just write in your bio that it's one of your favorite shows and dive into why. However, stay away from that you're a "Jim looking for his Pam."
I can't tell you how many men write how they are looking for the "Pam to my Jim." Even fans of The Office find this phrase annoying. This is an overused cliche that is as bad as "I love to laugh" or "I like long walks on the beach." Keep it off your bio.
Don't write you're Jim looking for Pam on your dating profile.
Final Thoughts
The app doesn't matter - be it Tinder, Match.com, OkCupid, or Bumble. Using any of the phrases above can cripple your results on dating apps.
The phrases above are overused, say nothing about you, and are meaningless. Instead, putting thought and effort into your self-summary will pay dividends.
For tips on your dating profile, visit my post, 10 Critical Online Dating Profile Tips for Men.