Top Reasons Women Don't Swipe Right On Your Profile
Women don't swipe right on dating apps because you don't smile in pictures, you're negative, and you show a lack of effort. Be it Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, or Match.com; women bypass men constantly because too often, guys make easily preventable mistakes.
If you're not seeing the results you want on dating apps, it's time take an honest look at how you present yourself. Below are 7 reasons women don't swipe right. Check that you don't make any of them and fix them immediately.
1. You don't smile in pictures.
According to Chemistry.com, the first thing women look at in your photos is your smile. A great smile is welcoming, shows you're fun, nice, and is a fantastic positive first impression.
Unfortunately, a lot of men use photos where they don't smile. One of the top reasons don't swipe right is men simply don't smile. Instead, they come across as brooding and unfriendly.
Photofeeler, a site that analyzes profile photos, discovered something interesting regarding photos. Men who stare directly into the camera without a smile "can be interpreted as confrontational, hostile, or even predatory to someone who doesn't already know you."
In another study of 800 profile photos on Photofeeler, the site found, "By far the most impactful characteristic we found in this study, though, is a particular kind of smile." When you smile, showing teeth, you appear more competent and likable.
Do yourself a favor, smile in your photos. Here's the key to a great smile; tilt your head and think about something happy before taking your picture. This ensures you have a genuine smile.
For more photo tips, visit my blog post, What Are Good Dating Profile Photo Tips For Men.
No smiling in photos is a turnoff for women on dating apps.
2. Too many group photos
You only need one group photo in your profile. More than one is too many. A group photo acts as social proof that you're sociable and have friends. Women see you're not a loner, which is good.
Yet, if you have nothing but group photos, you may come across as a partier. Women want to picture themselves alongside you, not your friends. It's best to use several pictures of just yourself.
You should still use a group photo - just make sure you're in the center in your group picture. Women complain a lot about how they don't know where men are in a group photo.
If you use an arrow to point out who you are or write, "I'm on the left," ditch the photo. Women don't have time to figure out who you are. One group photo with you in the center is all you need.
3. Lack of effort in your dating profile.
The amount of effort you put in your bio shows women how serious you are about meeting someone. You should use a variety of photos and write a fully-fleshed out self-summary.
A lot of men use a handful of photos and put zero effort into their bio. This lack of effort is an attraction killer with women.
The less effort you put into your bio, the more likely women will swipe left on your bio. Let's be real here; you can't expect to meet anyone if you half-ass it.
Use a variety of photos showing yourself engaged in things you enjoy. Tack on a bio where you express yourself and write about your passions and interests.
If you're looking for tips for a profile that helps you stand out, visit my post, What Is A Good Dating Profile Example For Men.
4. You come across as negative.
Negative energy is a female repellant on dating apps. Nobody wants to date someone jaded.
Plentyoffish surveyed over 2,000 singles and found negativity was one of the top "buzzkills." 22% of EliteSingles members find negativity a huge turnoff.
Here are a few examples of common things men share that are negative:
- Remove what you "aren't looking for" in your bio.
- Stay away from phrases like "don't message me if..."
- Don't write how you're "tired of online dating."
- Never complain about your dating life or women in your profile.
- Avoid writing, "not interested in talking back and forth forever..."
You don't connect with women with a negative bio. Women will always swipe left with men who display a negative vibe.
You'll get better results keeping your profile positive, friendly, and filled with humor. Plentyoffish found users with "positive identifiers in their profile received 23% more incoming messages." Keep your bio 100% positive.
5. You try too hard.
A lot of men present themselves as perfection in their profile. They think women will swipe right if they write what they think women want to see.
Examples include writing how you're a "Nice guy" or that you're "looking for your soulmate." Perfection doesn't exist, and women are fully aware of that fact.
Just be honest about yourself. I'm not saying write how you have bad credit or issues with your parents.
Cut the clichés form your bio. Don't act as if you're a white in shining armor. Just be you.
6. Bad choice in photos
I mention above that not smiling in your photo is bad. That's not the only photo that women don't swipe right. There are plenty of other pictures that cause women to bypass you.
Example of bad photos include:
- Photos with other women.
- Quotes or memes.
- Pics of your dog.
- Half-naked mirror selfies.
- You hide your face wearing glasses or a hat.
The examples above are commonly used pictures. If you use any of them, you're unknowingly shooting yourself in the foot.
Instead, add photos of yourself outdoors, on exciting adventures, enjoying life, and having fun. These are things women want to see in your pictures. And remember, always smile!
Women may ignore you on dating apps because of bad photos.
7. There's no depth in your bio.
When it comes to your bio, you want to add depth to it. I always hammer this point home; you must share what makes you unique.
Everyone likes Netflix, going out, cooking, traveling, etc. But what are your quirks? These things make you stand out.
I'm not saying you should write a huge bio, far from it. But, you want to present yourself above facts and cliches. For example, here's a man's bio I found on Match.com:
Example of a bad bio on Match.com
You can see it's just facts. It says nothing about who the guy really is. If your bio is similar, it's time to re-write it.
Let's take his example of "the beach." Instead of just writing, "the beach," here's what I would write:
We're so lucky to live near so many great beaches. The warmth of the sun, the sound of the waves, soft sand underfoot, and that cool breeze all make it magical. So many activities that keep me fit too; kayaking, jet skiing, and snorkeling, to name a few. I absolutely love the beach.
You can see the difference. Yes, it may appear cheesy, but women LOVE profiles like this. You only need to choose 4-5 things and describe them this way.
When you do this, show the real "you." Do it positively, inject some humor, and you'll get more right swipes.