5 Of The Best Match.com Conversation Starters
Good Match.com conversation starters include asking a question about something on a woman's profile, complimenting a photo, or asking a guilty pleasure, for example.
Most men take the easy approach and put zero effort into their messages. If you're doing this, stop now. You'll never see great results if your opening message is "Hello" or "How are you today?"
Instead, follow the examples in this post, and you will see a boost in responses. All you need to do is bring some positive energy and show a genuine curiosity about the woman you're messaging. Here are 5 ways to start a conversation on Match.com.
Check your profile before sending messages.
It doesn't matter how great your message is; if your bio stinks, women won't respond. Make sure you have a well-written bio and good pictures.
A great bio will boost responses, increase likes, and in some cases, women will send you messages first.
Women will contact you on Match.com if you have a good profile.
For profile tips on creating a great dating profile, visit my blog post, What Is A Good Dating Profile Example For Men.
1. Focus on a woman's profile.
The best way to start a conversation on Match.com is by showing curiosity and asking about something on a woman's profile. Anything a woman shares in her profile is fair game for your icebreaker.
The best way to ensure a response is by focusing on similar interests. Ask a question about something while sharing your answer to whatever question you ask. It proves you have similar interests.
EliteSingles says the best way to get a conversation going is by finding "something in their profile you both share and talk about that. This not only helps you establish your shared interests but also demonstrates that you have actually read their profile and paid attention to their hobbies."
Hinge found, "the best way to get a response is to ask a direct question about your match's profile while sharing your interests." This doesn't mean writing, "We have a lot in common" or "We have common interests."
You must ask a question about the interest itself. Then, share something about that topic in your message as well. Below is an example.
The best way to start conversation on Match.com is by asking about something on a woman's bio.
You see by the message above that it's more of a conversational tone. It's not a one-sided interrogation. The icebreaker should flow and feel like a normal conversation.
Remember, focus on things you have in common and mention it in your icebreaker. If the woman enjoys hiking, ask a hiking question. What if she travels? Share your travel adventures. Make sense?
2. Compliment a photo.
What if the woman doesn't share much in her bio? A good way to break the ice is by complimenting a woman's picture. Stay away from complimenting a woman's looks - that's an easy approach many men take.
The best way to start a conversation when focusing on a picture is by completing the photos. Think of a good question and ask away.
Show a genuine curiosity when asking about a picture on Match.com.
Everyone loves a compliment. It's as simple as starting your message by saying, "This is a fantastic picture" or "I love this photo." Then ask a question about the picture. Women are more likely to respond to this type of approach.
3. Ask a guilty pleasure.
A simple yet effective icebreaker is asking a woman one of her guilty pleasures. Similarly to message 1 above, share your answer to the question, namely, one of your guilty pleasures.
A good way to get responses to message on Match.com is asking about a guilty pleasure.
We all have guilty pleasures. It can be a TV show, a song, a food, a drink, etc. I find this to be a fantastic way to start conversations with women on Match.com.
4. Ask something that's not in a woman's bio.
A unique opening message is asking a woman to share something that's not in her bio. This icebreaker works because men never ask the question. It catches women off-guard because it's so fresh.
As with other messages on this list, share something unique about yourself. Keep it fun and light.
Ask a woman for something cool not in her bio - Remember, share your answer.
5. Ask to describe THE PERFECT something.
One approach I like is asking women to describe the perfect "something." It can be anything:
- Date
- Kiss
- Guy
- Weekend
- Sunday afternoon
It's a great way to get insight into the woman. Heck, you can use her answer to plan a date. This icebreaker puts a woman in a positive mindset, which increases the likelihood she responds.
A great icebreaker on Match.com is asking a woman to describe THE PERFECT something.
There's no need to share your answer to the question you ask. You may ask a woman what's a great first date and share something she may not like. This could hurt your chances of a response, so keep this question one-sided.
Final Thoughts
Starting conversations on Match.com is easy. Hopefully, this post of Match.com conversation starters will give you insight and help get responses to your messages.
Let the messages on this post serve as inspiration. If you find women aren't responding, take a look at your profile. Hinge found 57% of women said they didn't respond to men's messages because they "took a closer look at the person's profile..."
If you're curious about what women may find off-putting on your profile, visit my blog post, 10 Things Men Should Never Write On A Dating Profile.