Online Dating Burnout

Are you exhausted from the countless messages sent to women? Tired of flaky women? Suffering date after date that leads nowhere?

You are probably going through some sort of burnout.

Once online dating becomes exhausting, takes up too much energy, or becomes a chore you need to take a step back.

Don’t be the guy who takes his frustrations out in his dating profile. If you write something like this in your dating profile, it’s time to take a break:

“I’m giving up on this…”
“This is my last time on this site…”
“Isn’t anyone serious about dating anymore? What’s wrong with you women?”

Yes, these are from actual dating profiles on OkCupid.

This is the LAST thing you should do.

The longer you are on a dating site, the more likely you will experience online dating burnout.

If this is you, don’t worry; you can get over it.

Here are a few tips for taking a break from online dating.

Hide Your Profile

The first thing you need to do is to deactivate, or hide, your dating profile.

Don’t delete it. You are merely disabling it.

With an active dating profile, women may still contact you.

This is great if you are actively looking to date but you are taking a break remember?

You aren’t over your online dating burnout yet and trust me, if one woman contacts you, you’ll get sucked back in. And you’ll find yourself suffering from online dating burnout again rather quickly.

I’ve been there before myself, so take my advice; hide your profile and stay off dating sites until you are ready to recommit yourself to online dating again.

Offline Dating

Maybe you want to date but want to take a break from online dating. Great. Turn of the computer. It’s time to get out of the house.

Happy hours are a great place to start. Maybe grab a friend and go out one weekend. Hit up some local music venues. Go to a comedy club. Just get yourself out there in social situations where women are.

There are tons of women who go to bars, festivals, parties, and events who are single and open to meeting you. Not all women are on their computer looking for a partner. Even the ones who are on dating sites still go out and have fun.

Of course, it’s easier for some men to contact women on a computer instead of face to face but get over it.

If you see a cute girl at a bar don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation. Sure, you may get shot down, but eventually, you’ll get over it.

Focus On Yourself

Another way to get over online dating burnout is to do things YOU enjoy.

Go to the gym and get in shape, take a road trip, go to Church, reconnect with family and friends. Just do what makes YOU happy.

If you are looking for something new, Groupon is a great resource. You can find fun things like kayaking, paddle boarding, ATV, sushi making, jet-skiing, travel, cheap hotels for day trips, painting, workouts, go-kart racing, skydiving, guitar lessons, wine tasting, etc..

There are a TON of things you can find to keep yourself busy and have fun.

Whatever you choose to do, TAKE PICTURES. You can add these photos to your dating profile portfolio once you are ready to get back in the game.

Meetups

Don’t have a lot of friends? Looking for other options other than going to bars?

Join a Meetup.

Meetup events are a great way to meet people with similar interests.

There are tons of meetups. If you have a hobby or passion, you can bet there is a meetup for it. Do yourself a favor and check it out.

Don’t join a meetup with the sole purpose of meeting women. If you meet someone, great! If not, you can meet other cool people like you so give it a shot.

Get Back In the Mix

Once you feel you are over your online dating burnout, go ahead and jump back in!

Start fresh. This means to change your dating profile around. Mix it up.

Be positive and show enthusiasm in your dating profile.

Don’t forget to add pictures of your most recent adventures.

Final Thoughts

It’s normal to have online dating burnout.

We all go through it.

When you feel it’s time to take a break, hide your dating profile and enjoy life.

Find balance, get out there, pursue your passions, reconnect with people then get back into online dating when you are ready.

It’s as simple as that.

Please leave a comment below because I’d like to hear what you think about Online Dating Burnout.

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