10 Tips for Crafting Perfect Prompts on OkCupid
One of the key features of OkCupid is the profile prompts. Prompts are questions that allow you to share more about yourself in your profile.
They are personality questions showcasing your interests, passions, and lifestyle. You must put effort into your prompt answers because they impact your ability to get matches on the app.
This post shares 10 tips for teaching guys to answer OkCupid profile prompts correctly. Don't underestimate the importance of prompts because they help balance out your profile and attract more matches.
Great prompts get compliments from women.
1. Be authentic.
The first and most important tip for answering OkCupid profile prompts is to be authentic. Don't try to be someone you're not or pretend to like things you don't.
Too often, men write that they think women want to see in a partner or straight-up lie in the hopes of attracting matches. Women can quickly determine if you're genuine, so there's no point in bending the truth.
Writing an inauthentic prompt eventually leads to disappointment and frustration for you and your potential matches. Instead, be honest and genuine about who you are and what you're looking for in a partner.
2. Keep it positive!
One of the biggest mistakes men make is showing negativity in their prompts. Don't write how you aren't "here for games or drama" or venting about past relationships or experiences.
Complaining or ranting in your prompts is a huge red flag for women. They will instantly swipe left if they see a hint of negative energy.
When answering OkCupid prompts, keeping your responses 100% friendly is important. Women are more receptive to positive vibes and energy.
Focus on what you enjoy and what you're looking forward to in the future. This will make your profile more attractive and approachable to women.
3. Show, don't tell...
When answering OkCupid prompts, it's easy to fall into the trap of simply listing your interests and hobbies. This is a blunder because it can come across as boring and unoriginal.
Instead, try to show your personality and passions through your prompt answers. Use anecdotes and examples to illustrate your points and make your profile more engaging.
Let's say you love traveling. How would you include this in a prompt? Most men write the word traveling and leave it at that.
Do you think a woman will see the word "traveling" by itself and feel like you have something in common? Is the word "traveling" engaging? The answer to both questions is no.
It's better to share why you enjoy traveling. So, write a sentence or two about your love of travel or mention a funny store.
If you have difficulty writing about yourself, pretend you're hanging out with a friend, and your friend asks, "Hey, why do you love traveling so much?" Answering your friend should be easy - so write your prompt as if you're talking to a friend when describing an interest.
Prompt example - My favorite outdoor activity is: Hiking, trail running, and walking around town or parks. Even a walk around Lake Miramar re-energizes me. Sunshine and fresh air make me happy.
I'm always looking for new trails to explore, but open to activities like kayaking as well.
4. Be specific.
Avoid vague or generic responses that could apply to anyone in your prompts on OkCupid. A simple rule of thumb is if you try to answer a prompt that appeals to everyone, it will appeal to no one.
It's best to focus on the unique aspects of your personality and experiences. This will help you stand out from the crowd and attract matches who are interested in getting to know you.
You'll be surprised at the impact of being specific in prompts on your results. Here are some tips to avoid general prompts:
- Instead of writing about how you enjoy hiking, include local trails in your prompt.
- Don't write that you love "live music," mention a few cool places to see concerts in your city.
- Maybe you enjoy road trips - be sure to share a destination or two in your prompt.
- Avoid writing the just word adventurous and share how you went zip-lining in Costa Rica or love kayaking in a specific ocean.
Below is an example of a woman commenting on a prompt. In the prompt, I mention how I enjoy concerts at Humphrey's, a popular spot in San Diego.
Mentioning popular local venues may get you more matches.
5. Use humor.
Humor is a great way to make your profile more memorable to women. You're off to a great start if you can make women laugh.
Don't be afraid to show your funny side in your answers in OkCupid profile prompts. A well-timed joke or witty observation can make all the difference in standing out from the crowd and attracting women who appreciate your sense of humor.
I don't recommend using humor in every prompt - balance it out. Use one or two prompts showcasing humor but be a little more serious in other prompts.
If you try to be funny in all your prompts, which many men do, women may not take you seriously. Sure, you'll make them laugh, but without depth, they may not see you as compatible.
Prompt example - The most private thing I'm willing to admit: I'm an early riser trapped in the body of someone who likes sleeping in.
6. Be creative.
Don't be afraid to get creative with your responses to OkCupid prompts. Use your responses as an opportunity to showcase your personality and creativity.
A unique or unexpected answer can help you stand out from the crowd and attract matches who appreciate your originality.
7. Use images.
OkCupid prompts allow you to include images in your responses. Take advantage of this feature by including photos that illustrate your points and showcase your personality.
This can help potential matches better understand who you are and make your profile more engaging. Adding photos to prompts also makes them "pop" - women will almost always focus on pictures, so choose photos that tie to the prompt.
If you choose the "My go-to restaurant" prompt, get a picture of yourself in front of the restaurant. Avoid using pictures you aren't physically in, meaning no pictures of your food or drinks.
Maybe you have a dog. Add a photo of your dog in the "Cat or dogs" prompt and write a sentence or two, I'm definitely a dog person. There's no better feeling than walking in the front door, and your dog acts like he hasn't seen you in years when you only went to check the mail.
8. Be concise.
While it's important to be authentic and specific in your responses to OkCupid profile prompts, it's also important to be concise. Avoid rambling or going off on tangents because you'll quickly lose a woman's interest.
Instead, focus on making your points clearly and succinctly. This will make your profile more approachable and easy to read.
Prompt example - Current goal: My current goal is to learn how to play the guitar. I've always loved music, and I think it would be amazing to be able to create my own songs.
9. Include things that are currently popular.
A great way to connect with women is by mentioning something mainstream and popular. It's a great way to connect with women while at the same time highlining your profile is current.
This isn't the time to write how you enjoy Game of Thrones or Breaking Bad. Even though they are popular, they aren't going to get women as excited as mentioning something that everyone is currently watching at this moment.
A good example is the show Succession, which is very popular as I write this post. A sentence or two about why you enjoy the show is a great way to connect with women with similar tast
Prompt example - The last show I binged: White Lotus and I can't stop thinking about it! What a brilliant commentary on privilege, power dynamics, and human behavior. The acting was top-notch!
Other things you can mention are musicians, movies, or festivals that you're recently attended or plan on attending soon.
10. Have fun.
The most important tip for answering OkCupid prompts is to have fun. Online dating can be stressful, but it can also be a lot of fun.
Don't take yourself too seriously when answering prompts. This will help you attract matches who appreciate your sense of humor.
Final Thoughts
Answering prompts on OkCupid is a great way to express yourself, stand out from the crowd, and connect with someone who shares your interests and values. So have fun with it!
If you want more tips for OkCupid, visit my dedicated resource page for the app: OkCupid Tips.
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