10 Tips for using the Bumble Compliment feature
Bumble's compliment feature is a great way to break the ice and start conversations with women before even matching with one another. Instead of waiting for a woman to reach out, you can get the ball rolling with a great opener.
The Compliment feature is a powerful tool to show interest in women and make a good first impression. In this post, I'll share 10 tips on how to use the compliment feature on Bumble so you can start conversations with women.
What is the Bumble Compliment feature?
The Bumble Compliment feature allows you to send a personalized message to women on the app before matching with them. This ability to send a message instead of "liking" a woman's profile can take your results to the next level.
The feature encourages users to start a conversation with their matches by sending thoughtful compliments. The Compliment feature is available to all Bumble users, regardless of their subscription status.
You don't necessarily have to use a compliment in your opener - but you must show effort. Don't just write, "Hi" or "How are you?" because these lazy approaches never work
I'll share examples below showing how to use the Compliment feature on Bumble properly. Let's get started!
1. Read the woman's bio and prompts.
The best way to start a conversation with a woman on Bumble is by commenting on something in her bio or prompts. This approach shows effort - you took the time to look for something interesting instead of most men who write lazy openers like "Hi Lisa" or "Hey there."
I can't stress this enough - focus on a woman's profile before sending a message. Look for common interests or something unique about her to mention in your icebreaker.
One of the best ways to get a response is by focusing on common interests. Doing this shows you have something in common - anything a woman shares about herself can be used in your opener.
Even the simplest thing can create a connection with women on Bumble. Below I use Hillary's mentioning of tacos in her prompt to start a conversation.
Focusing on a woman's bio/prompts can start conversations.
2. Use the woman's name in your opener.
I can't believe I'm writing this - always use the woman's name at the beginning of your icebreaker. It's a small gesture, but it makes a huge difference in making your opener feel more personal.
Starting your message with the woman's name is more engaging and encourages her to respond. It shows you're not sending a generic message to every message but are specifically interested in her.
Using the woman's name can create a sense of familiarity and make the conversation feel more comfortable. It helps build rapport and makes the woman feel more at ease.
I can't stress this enough - use the woman's name in your opener. It's a simple but effective way to make the message feel more personal, engaging, and familiar.
3. Avoid physical compliments.
While it's tempting to compliment a woman's physical appearance, it's best to avoid this on Bumble. You'd be shocked at how often the typical guy tells a woman how "pretty" or "gorgeous" she is.
Women constantly receive unwanted comments on their looks, which can come across as objectifying. Physical compliments rarely work and should be avoided because they are shallow.
It's best to focus on something non-physical, like a shared interest or a unique aspect of a woman's personality. For example, you can compliment a woman on her active lifestyle, sense of humor, or adventurous lifestyle.
Your compliment should be genuine and specific. Even something as simple as complimenting a great picture can open doors on Bumble.
4. Keep it short and sweet.
Your first message on Bumble should be short and sweet. Don't write a novel or try to impress her with your vocabulary.
Most women have short attention spans these days, especially when reading messages from men on dating apps. A long or complicated icebreaker may be skipped over or ignored altogether.
Always keep your opener simple and to the point - never ramble on. Being direct and focusing on one topic will start more conversations and get you more matches on the app.
5. Your message should be casual.
Avoid being too intense or serious right off the bat. Your icebreaker isn't the place for asking a woman her political beliefs or stance on Climate Change.
Starting with a casual topic can be less intimidating for women. Keep your openers light and friendly - women react positively to a good vibe.
If you come on too strong, you'll scare women away. A casual icebreaker helps create a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere for a conversation.
6. Use humor in your icebreaker.
Humor can be a great way to break the ice and show off your personality. If you have a funny comment or observation about the woman, go for it.
Make sure that you're not being offensive or insensitive. If you make an inappropriate remark, the woman may report you to Bumble, and you could find yourself banished.
Tara below mentions in her bio that she's from the East Coast. I use that in my opener, joking about how she moved to San Diego because of the "hot guys," which results in a laugh.
Making a woman laugh can start a conversation.
If you can make a woman smile, you're off to a great start. It's no secret women love a guy who can make them laugh, so I encourage you to showcase your humor when you can.
7. Ask open-ended questions.
The best way to start a conversation with a woman on Bumble is by asking a question that can't be answered with a yes or no. Don't make an observation or comment on something - always ask a question in your icebreaker.
By asking a question, you show that you're genuinely interested in getting to know her better. For example, if you see a woman who enjoys hiking, you can ask about her favorite trails in the area.
Asking a question can encourage the woman to respond and engage in a conversation. If you comment on something without engaging the woman, it doesn't helps move the conversation forward.
A question helps establish common ground and gives the woman something to respond to. If you want to build a connection with a woman, ask her a question.
8. It's OK to flirt with a woman.
Flirting is acceptable if done respectfully and appropriately. It shows confidence, which is attractive to women.
Read the woman's energy and vibe in her bio or prompts. Pay attention to how she presents herself and adjust your flirting accordingly.
Below is an example of an icebreaker to Angel, who mentions she's a great kisser in her bio. She put it out there, so I use that in my opener.
How to flirt on Bumble.
Flirting with a woman is a high-risk, high-reward approach because it's subjective. What you find flirty and fun, a woman may find inappropriate or offensive.
You don't want to be overly sexual in your icebreaker. Too many guys move too fast in their openers and ruin any chance of a match.
I don't recommend flirting with a woman whose bio is serious or warns you she's not on Bumble for a hookup. Even the simplest flirt will be read the wrong way by these women.
When done right, flirting can create an instant connection with women. However, when done wrong, women won't respond to your message, so keep that in mind if this is your approach.
9. Use emojis sparingly.
While emojis can add personality to your opener, overusing them can make it look immature. You are a man, after all, so don't go overboard with emojis.
Women can misinterpret Emojis. You may think an eggplant emoji is a great way to flirt, while a woman may find it juvenile or creepy.
Emojis should never be used to replace a conversation, only as a way to emphasize something in your message, like humor. Your icebreaker should show substance.
I find a lot of men have an overreliance on emojis which is a huge mistake. Don't rely on them as a means of communication.
10. Never take it personal.
Even if you have the greatest profile, think you're a perfect match, and write an amazing opener, a woman may not respond to your message. That's online dating.
Don't take it personally or dwell on why a woman doesn't respond to your icebreaker. I get messages from men constantly asking, "What am I doing wrong?"
You've done nothing wrong! It just wasn't meant to be with the woman in question.
If you get frustrated, don't vent at women in your bio because that's a guaranteed way to doom your ability to get further matches. Take a break from the app or work out your frustrations at the gym.
Never get discouraged when some of the women bypass you. Keep trying, and you'll eventually find the right matches.
Final Thoughts
Like anything else, using the compliment feature on Bumble takes practice. Don't get discouraged if your first few attempts don't go as planned. Keep trying, and you'll eventually find the right approach that works for you.
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