How to Compliment a Girl on Dating Apps: 7 Unique and Effective Tips

The Best Ways to Compliment a Girl on Dating Apps

A well-placed compliment to a girl on dating apps can go a long way in capturing her attention and sparking a meaningful connection. A great and sincere compliment boosts the likelihood of a response to your message.

This post shares seven unique and effective tips to help you master complimenting women on dating apps. Ditch the overused cliché pick-up lines and empty flattery, and use the tips in this post 

1. Compliment a shared interest.
2. Compliment a woman's verbal vibe.
3. Compliment a woman's energy.
4. Compliment a woman's taste in men.
5. Compliment a woman's photo.
6. Compliment a woman's style.
7. Compliment a woman's bio.

1. Compliment a shared interest.

The best way to compliment a girl on dating apps is by focusing on a common interest. It helps establish common ground and,most importantly, shows that you've taken the time to read her profile.

Focusing on something in common is also proven by studies. OkCupid points out that "talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection..."

When done right, complimenting a shared interest creates an instant connection that can lead to meaningful conversations. Sharing a passion or hobby can create a foundation for a better conversation because you have something to talk about.

Your primary focus should be a woman's profile. Anything a woman shares in her profile can be used in your opening message, including the following:

• Similar tastes in TV, music, movies, and podcasts.
• A love of traveling or road trips.
• Enjoying an active lifestyle - hiking, kayaking, running, etc.
• Partaking in similar social activities - wine tasting, board games, restaurants, etc.

Below is an example on Hinge where I focus on Sheila mentioning she enjoys Narcos and Breaking Bad in her prompt. I compliment her taste in shows, then pivot into my question, which starts a conversation.

I don't simply compliment Sheila's taste in shows; I ask a question to kickstart a conversation. Be sure to ask a question after your compliment because it gives the woman something to respond to.

Complimenting a shared interest with women can lead to engaging conversations beyond superficial small talk. It opens the door to meaningful conversations and allows you to explore shared passions, fostering a stronger connection between you and your potential matches.

2. Compliment a woman's verbal vibe.

A great way to start a conversation is by complimenting a woman's verbal vibe. This approach shows you appreciate her unique way of communicating and expressing herself.

Acknowledging a woman's verbal vibe creates a positive and enjoyable first impression. It can make her feel appreciated that you're interested in what she wrote in her bio.

Below is an opener on Bumble using its compliment feature, allowing me to send an opener. I start my icebreaker with a compliment, then pivot into her mentioning wine in her prompt.

Complimenting a woman's verbal vibe is a flattering approach because it shows you pay attention to the details in her profile. It also sets a positive vibe and engaging tone for the conversation. 

3. Compliment a woman's energy.

Here's an under-the-radar approach to complimenting a girl on dating apps - focus on her energy. When browsing profiles, you'll find women who make you feel good about reading their bios - it's their energy.

So, what is a woman's "energy?" It's her overall vibe, aura, or how she carries herself. Energy goes beyond physical appearance and encompasses her emotional, mental, and even spiritual presence..

Below is an example on Tinder to Rachael where I start the conversation by complimenting her energy. I then pivot the icebreaker, asking her a question that gets a response.

If you ever read a woman's bio that exudes joy, enthusiasm, or optimism - compliment her energy. It's a great way to start a conversation that works well.

4. Compliment a woman's taste in men.

A funny and somewhat cocky way to compliment a woman on dating apps is thanking her for liking your profile but adding that she has great taste in men. It's a subtle and charming way to acknowledge her interest in you.

Telling a woman she has great taste in men for liking your profile sets a friendly and appreciative tone for the conversation. Of course, this is a sarcastic way of grabbing a woman's attention, but it's very effective.

The screenshot above exemplifies complimenting a woman's taste in men on POF. You can see in the woman's response that she laughs and is very engaged. 

Adding an emoji at the end of your compliment is a good idea because it shows you're being playful. Without the emoji, the approach loses its charm and comes on a little too strong.

5. Compliment a woman's photo.

Focusing on a woman's photos is a great conversation starter. Look for an amazing picture you can compliment to get a response to your message.

Below is an example on OkCupid of an icebreaker to Meream. The message shows the right way to compliment a girl's picture - on the picture itself and not her looks.

When you compliment a girl on dating apps, never focus on her looks. Telling a girl she's pretty is ineffective because so many men use that approach.

I look for pictures with a great background; typically, the woman is outdoors or traveling somewhere. My strategy is always to start the message with a compliment and then ask the photo's location.

The woman may only respond by telling me the location of the picture. I'm OK with a short response because the only purpose of an icebreaker is to get a response - nothing more.

Don't worry if a woman writes a short response when complimenting a photo. You have her attention, so use the subsequent conversation to further pique her interest in you.

6. Compliment a woman's style.

Another great way to get responses to your messages is by complimenting a girl's style. It's a compliment acknowledging how she presents herself - beyond physical appearance.

Below is an example of an icebreaker on Hinge to Jodie. I start the message by complimenting her style to open up the conversation.

The beauty of complimenting a woman's style is you aren't focusing on a single trait - i.e., complimenting her smile. "Style" can encompass many things, such as her fashion sense, individuality, attitude, expression, etc.

This approach is one of the best ways to compliment a girl on an app, as it consistently gets responses. It shows you admire and appreciate her uniqueness.

7. Compliment a woman's bio.

The last tip is complimenting a girl's bio when she puts effort into it. This strategy makes a great first impression because you aren't sending a generic message but paying attention to her profile.

You start showing that you appreciate her efforts, which is a great way to start a message. Below is an example on POF showing how to compliment a woman's bio.

In the message above, I compliment the woman's bio at a high level - no need to be specific. After the compliment, I immediately asked about something she shares in her bio; her love of cooking.

The result is the woman responds to my message. Her response shows that she's fully engaged, answering my question and mentioning things in my bio, showing she read it.

The next time you come across a well-crafted bio, don't hesitate to extend a genuine compliment—it may just be the spark that leads to a great conversation.

Final Thoughts

One of the best ways to grab a woman's attention on a dating app is by starting your icebreaker with a compliment. A compliment helps you make a memorable first impression, can boost her confidence, demonstrates genuine interest, and shows respect and appreciation. 

By starting the conversation on a positive and complimentary note, you're more likely to get a response to your message. Make sure your compliment is sincere because a woman will know if it's fake or feels forced. 

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