Double Texting on Hinge: How to Strike up Conversations That Stand Out
You've sent a thoughtful message on Hinge. Is double texting on Hinge appropriate? Yes - never hesitate to send a second message.
While it's essential to respect a woman's boundaries and avoid being pushy, there are instances where double texting on Hinge can be appropriate and effective. This post shares five tips to help you navigate double texting on the app.
By following these strategies, you can increase the chances of sparking engaging conversations and forging deeper connections with women on Hinge.
1. Give your second message time.
Before sending a second message, giving the woman time to respond is essential. Remember, people have busy lives and may not always be able to respond immediately.
Patience is key for getting a response on Hinge - wait at least 24 hours before sending a follow-up message. Showing respect for a woman's time demonstrates your understanding of her schedule.
If you're reaching out during the workweek, send your message in the evening. Women are more active on apps in the evening and less likely to respond if they receive your message at 2 PM on a Tuesday.
When reaching out on the weekends, I recommend sending messages between the late morning to early evening. 11 AM to 7 PM is a safe bet for a Saturday or Sunday for a double text.
2. Send a completely different message.
Never send a second message that echoes the contents or tone of your first message - it comes across as repetitive or redundant. You're simply rehashing the same conversation without adding anything new, which is boring.
A woman may not have seen your first message, and seeing the same topic is off-putting. It will look like you sent the same message, which shows a lack of originality.
I recommend pretending as if the first message doesn't exist. A different approach in your double text showcases versatility.
You can ask about a photo or something else in her bio or use a creative message (more on that below). Anything works as long as you're not doubling down on the same topic in your second message.
3. Keep it engaging and use humor.
Maintain a light and casual tone in your double text because it shows a friendly vibe. Avoid coming across as desperate or needy because you will instantly kill attraction.
You're simply trying to restart a conversation without demanding an immediate response. A casual tone sets a relaxed atmosphere and makes it easier for the woman to respond.
Be positive, playful, and authentic in your message. I am a huge advocate of humor in the double text - if you can make a woman laugh and smile, you'll get a response most of the time.
Humor can create an instant connection with women. It lightens the mood, helps you stand out, creates a positive impression, and makes them more likely to respond and continue the conversation.
What's a good double text to women on Hinge? Here are a few suggestions to rekindle a conversation - note how I use the smiley face to show I'm being playful.
- I'm beginning to think my last message was so amazing, it left you speechless. Or you're intimidated by my come hither smile. Which is it? 🙂
- Are you going to be this chatty on our date? I can't get a word in edgewise. 🙂
- Hey, did you know there's a support group for people whose matches refuse to hit them up? We meet every Saturday night at a bar. So, do you like wine, beer, or cocktails? 🙂
Whatever you do, don't be too serious in your double text on Hinge - it may unintentionally convey a sense of pressure or desperation. Pressing for a response can make the woman feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed, leading to a potential disinterest in continuing the conversation.
Also, be engaging and show effort in your double text. If your strategy is a message such as "hey," "how are you," or a lame emoji, you will never get a response to your message.
Below is an example of a double text on Hinge using humor. It's slightly cocky too, but the smiley face at the end shows I'm only kidding.
Double texting on Hinge can restart a conversation.
4. Be respectful and polite.
While double texting on Hinge can be effective, respecting a woman's decision to respond is essential. Everyone has their preferences and reasons for not engaging in a conversation.
Women are not obligated to respond to your double text regardless of how much effort you put into it. You are not their priority because you matched on the app.
As soon as you send your double text, don't worry about it; never dwell on it, and stop wondering why a woman doesn't respond. Reasons she doesn't respond to your double text include:
- Life happens - work, school, kids, and emergencies all could play a factor.
- The woman is focusing on someone else - A tough pill to swallow, but she may have met another guy and is focusing on him.
- She's taking a break from Hinge - Sometimes, women will take a week or two off from the app.
- The woman forgot to respond - Hey, it happens. Don't sweat it, and move on to tip #5 below.
- She didn't read your message - Women are bombarded with messages and likes from men, so maybe she needs to sort through them and see your message.
- The woman isn't interested in you - This happens to everyone, so don't take it personally.
You never know why a woman doesn't respond to your second message. Do not - I repeat, do not send a third message.
Avoid sending additional messages because you'll come across as needy and insecure, which are not attractive traits. Accept non-responses gracefully - it's possible the woman may not be interested or didn't see your message yet.
If a woman tells you she's not interested, respect her boundaries and focus your attention on other potential matches. Never lash out and hurl insults because it's tacky and only validates her reasoning, plus she may report you to Hinge for inappropriate behavior.
5. Should you unmatch or keep the match?
You have two options if a woman doesn't respond to your follow up text - unmatch with her or leave her messages in your inbox. There are benefits to both options.
Option 1) Keep the match on Hinge - Keeping a woman's messages in your inbox leaves the door open for a future connection. As mentioned above, you'll never know why she doesn't respond to your double text.
The woman may be preoccupied right now and available at a later time. Keeping her messages allows her to contact you if her situation changes.
The stagnant conversation with a woman doesn't impact your inbox. As you match and connect with other women, she'll be pushed further down, so it's OK to leave the conversation in your inbox because she may ultimately respond.
Below is an example from a woman messaging me a few days after not responding to my double text. So, there is a good reason to remain matched with a woman.
Women may eventually respond to your message.
Option 2) When to unmatch on Hinge - A case to be made for unmatching with a woman if she doesn't respond to your messages. It's a reasonable choice to remove her from your inbox.
First, it removes any trace of the woman from your matches, which helps lower a feeling of disappointment or frustration. Removing her from your matches lets you quickly move forward without dwelling on her unreciprocated efforts.
Secondly, you can allocate your time more effectively to individuals who are more responsive and interested in you. Removing her from your matches helps you focus on others.
Lastly, it helps your results because Hinge's algorithm will use this information to help find better matches. The app may present potential matches who are typically more engaging than those who don't respond to messages.
Unmatching with a woman helps you focus on someone else.
Final Thoughts
Double texting on Hinge can be valuable for reigniting conversations and building connections. Following the tips in this post can increase your chances of reengaging in conversations with potential matches.
Success on Hinge requires patience and discipline. Keep an open mind, be yourself, use humor, don't be needy, and embrace the possibilities of meaningful connections through double texting.
For more tips on Hinge, visit my one-stop resource for your profile and conversation starters; The Ultimate Hinge Resource Page.