3 First Date Blunders You Might Be Making

The last thing you want to do is offend a woman on your first date. All too often guys blow it with first date blunders that can be easily avoided with common sense.

Showing up late, checking your phone throughout the date, bragging about yourself are no-brainers but there are other things you may not think about that can leave a sour taste in a woman’s mouth.

Don’t make any of these first date blunders because you won’t be getting a second date.

1. Being Negative

One of the most common first date blunders you can make is to ask a question women questions that are negative in nature or bring up bad experiences from their past. The last thing you want to do is change the energy of your date from positive to negative and a surefire way to do this is by asking questions that are negative.

“What don’t you like about your job?”
“Any bad experiences dating online?”
“What’s the worst date you’ve been on?

You want to keep the first date positive and on the right track. Nothing is more off-putting than changing the energy of the date by bringing up bad memories.

I once made the mistake of asking a woman about her ex. She gave me a short answer that I should have read as “let’s not go there” but I asked another question and that lit the fuse. She ranted about her ex and got more and more upset as she talked about him.

She wasn’t mad at me for bringing up the ex, but my question certainly changed the energy of the date and made it very awkward. I should have changed the subject when it was clear she didn’t want to go there. Lesson learned; don’t ask questions about exes!

2. Bring Up Heavy Topics

Stay away from politics, religion, or getting too deep because you may scare off women on the first date. Remember, this is the first date so you don’t need to ask what she wants to name her first born with you.

The last thing you want to do is ask her if she wants to have kids soon or if she voted for Trump or Hillary. Keep it light; music, TV, movies, activities like fitness, cooking, volunteering, travel, books, etc.. are all cool.

Kids, politics, and religion are things you should have read on her dating profile or discussed on email exchanges or phone calls before your first date. But if she goes there asking a question about politics for example, then all bets are off. Be honest and stand your ground if whatever she brings up is important to you.

Don’t be agreeable with what she says. It’s OK to challenge her if she goes to heavy topics. I simply suggest keep it light on the first date.

3. Being A Jerk

Women judge everything about you on the first date. In fact, women typically look for reasons NOT to choose. You don’t want your date to think, “Great, another jerk.”

Your appearance, how you communicate, eye contact, how polite you are to the staff of wherever you are, if you are late, manners; everything is judged! It’s amazing that so many guys simply don’t get it and continue to make these first date blunders;

Don’t be abrasive or rude to your waiter.
Don’t show up unkempt and looking like a bum.
Don’t get drunk and make an ass of yourself.

This also means don’t be rude to your date as well.

Remember.

Wait for her in front of wherever you are meeting; especially if it’s a bar. You don’t want her to have to look for you in a crowded bar.
You asked her out, you pay. Most women will offer to pay something on the bill. You can tell her to get drinks next time (assume there’s a next time). If she insists, tell her she can pay the tip.
Walk her to her car. Remember, be a gentleman. Tell her to text/call to let you know she made it home safe.

Final Thoughts

In the end, don’t overthink your first date. Be positive and confident and you’ll do fine. If you ever have that awkward silence it’s good to have a few things to fall back on.

I read a recent blog post on Huffington Post which had a list of “thought provoking” questions to create a “real connection” on a first date. There’s no definite list of questions you should ask a woman on a first date. With more dating experience, conversations will come naturally; trust me on that.

I covered some questions that OkCupid found were the best questions to ask on a first date in a recent blog post; What Are The Best Questions To Ask On a First Date With Women?

You can overcome these silences by simply having something to fall back on like the topics in the links above. In the end, the first date is seeing about chemistry and attraction. You already got your “foot in the door” so to speak. She’s willing to meet you so don’t sweat it. You’ve won half the battle.

Please leave any comments you have below. Feel free to add any first date blunders or mistakes you have made in the past or experienced firsthand yourself.