Should You Share You Have Kids In Your Dating Profile? Yes!

There's a right way and a wrong way to share you have kids in your dating profile. Keep your kids off your profile photos. Instead, write about your children in your bio.

Don't hide the fact you have children on dating apps and never be afraid of saying you're a father in your bio. If you have children, mention you're a dad in your profile, but do it the right way.

Some men lie about having children.

Don't use photos with your children in them.

What is the best way to share you have children?

Mention you're a father in conversations.

If you don't mention you're a father in your bio, you best bring it up during your conversation on the dating app. Don't wait until the first date to mention you have kids.

Women may be taken aback that they are learning you have kids after meeting you. They invested all this time and only learned of children when you meet? That's deceitful.

The woman may think, "what else is this guy hiding?" You get no second chances in online dating, and if you hide that you have kids, it may not sit well with women. 

Final Thoughts

If your'e a single dad, it's important you share you have children. Don't hide you have kids.

Will women bypass you because you had kids? Of course, but don't let that scare you off. Many women are open to dating men with children, especially as you get older.

Don't lie about anything on your profile. Hiding you have children to a potential partner is the same as lying. It would be best if you were upfront about children from the beginning.

I recommend including it in your bio. If you choose not to share that you're a father in your bio, you should bring it up once you start a conversation with a woman.

10 Tips That Help Men Master Dating Apps

Key things guys can do to master dating apps include keeping your bio current, making sure you're using the right app and putting up a complete dating profile. With so many women on dating apps, men shouldn't have a problem meeting someone.

If you don't see results on your dating app, this post can help you. It's easy meeting girls on dating apps if you follow the ten tips below.

1. Makes sure you're using the right app.

2. Fill your profile and leave nothing blank.

Think of each section of your profile as a series of "hooks." These hooks can grab a woman's attention, arouse her curiosity, or speak to her directly. ​Anything on your bio can prompt a woman to like it, swipe right, and in some cases, start a conversation.

You don't know what captures a woman's attention. It could be a photo, your self-summary, your headline, even the section where you answer personality questions like the one below on Hinge. 

3. Don't overlook women because they aren't "hot" enough.

One huge positive of online dating is there are a ton of women on dating apps. The negative is there are a ton of women on them. Yep, the fact you have so many options is both an advantage and a disadvantage.

Too often, men focus on the hottest women while ignoring women who are perfectly good matches for them. You may accidentally discount average attractive women after browsing a super hot girl's profile.

One study found men rate attractive average looking women as less attractive after viewing photos of more attractive women. Yep, after you view photos of hot women, you may downgrade an attractive average looking girl’s profile, because you compare her to the total 10 you just viewed.

Don't mindlessly swipe left on women because they aren't supermodels. Take the time to read a woman's bio because you may have a lot in common. Be aware that after looking at a super attractive woman's photos, you may subconsciously see other cute girls as less attractive.

4. Keep your bio fresh.

Update your bio at least once a month. Have you recently accomplished something? Add it to your bio. Maybe you watched a recent show on Netflix; write about it. Have you gone on a recent vacation? Add some pictures to your portfolio.

The benefit of keeping your bio fresh is you may catch a woman's eye who passed on your profile before. Anything you add can impact a woman's decision to contact you.

Below is an example of a bio I wrote where it included a show on Netflix, which was just released; Mindhunter. I included it in the bio, and a woman focused on the show. Remember, everything can act as a hook. Even a show can start a conversation on dating apps.

Keep your bio current with the time of the year. Don't use photos of yourself snowboarding when it's July. Don't add pictures of your "birthday" which was eight months ago.

5. Be honest about who you are.

When you write about yourself, add details that show you're unique. Add depth in your bio when describing your passions and interests. You stand out more doing this.

Everyone likes to cook, travel, and hike. There's nothing wrong when you include these topics in your bio, but you should expand on them if you mention them.

So, if you enjoy traveling, share a funny travel story. Or maybe discuss the next place you plan to visit and what you look forward to on your adventure.

Maybe you enjoy cooking, share your favorite recipe or something you're experimenting on in the kitchen. Talk about why you love cooking.

You don't want to sound like everyone else, and it's the little things you mention that are the difference between success and failure on dating apps. If you like watching Real Housewives of Atlanta, do it. Maybe you play board games; include it as well.

6. Be active on your app.

Make sure you check your dating app inbox daily. Don't let women sit waiting for your messages, nor take your sweet time sending an icebreaker after you match.

If a woman swipes right on Tinder, don't let her sit in your queue days on end. Take the example below on Tinder; the woman writes, "Don't swipe right if you're not willing to send the 1st message."

Once you start a conversation with a woman, never let the momentum of it slow down. When a woman sends you a message, don't wait days to respond. A few hours is fine. Anything over 24 hours is unacceptable. 

Women lose interest when you take your time responding. Also, some other guy may swoop in on you and steal her attention. Men who master dating apps never let women sit around in message limbo; they engage in conversations and crank up the attraction.

7. Avoid sending only likes!

One thing that drives me nuts is guys who "like" women without sending a message with the like. Likes, by themselves, are low effort and lazy.

It's so bad for women that many of them write in their bio's that they can't see you like them. They do this because men choose to send likes instead of messages. Below is an example from a woman's profile on OkCupid, where she says she can't see likes.

Some apps require you to like something on a woman's profile before sending a message. OkCupid is a prime example. ​Liking a woman's profile is fine as long as you send a message with it.

Never send a like by itself. Instead of liking a woman's profile and hoping she likes you back, send a message along with your like, always!

8. Send great messages to women.

Sending great messages is a no-brainer; they are critical for you to master dating apps. The amount of effort you put into your message shows women how serious you are about meeting them.

If a woman takes the time to write about herself, you better comment on her bio. Don't write, "Hello," "Hi," or ask her, "How's your day going?" 

Anything a woman shares on her bio is fair game, so ask open-ended questions about something you see. If she likes traveling, ask about her traveling adventures. If the woman volunteers, ask her what she likes best about it.

Below is an example from Hinge. The woman shares on her bio that she enjoys sushi. I use that in my icebreaker and start a conversation with her.

9. Dating app matching percentages are overrated.

10. Ask women out already.

Why did you join a dating app? To meet a woman right, right? Women joined your dating app for the same reason; to meet a guy.

Yet, a lot of men drag out conversations for whatever reason. Maybe they are shy, can't read the signs a woman is interested in them, or a host of other reasons. Some guys want to feed their egos and get attention.

The last thing you want is dragging out a conversation. You want to get a woman's number quickly so you can take your conversation offline and set up a date.

It's so bad for women; many write on their bio's how frustrated they are with men who don't make a move. Below is a woman's bio on Hinge, who wrote that she's not looking for a pen pal. Adding a warning for pen pals is a common site on dating apps.

You don't want to ask a woman out in your first message, but don't want to become an online dating message buddy. Read the woman's energy. It shouldn't take more than 5-7 messages to build up the chemistry before asking a woman for her number.

If you ever send a message asking a woman, "How's your day?" or "Anything fun planned for the weekend," it's time to get her number. You want to master dating apps? Ask women out!

How You Can Get More Likes On Dating Apps

1. Add depth to your self-summary.

2. Use action photos.

A good way to get likes is by using action photos. Bungee jumping, hiking, trail running, sky diving, kayaking, white water rafting, participating in an obstacle course, mountain biking, and indoor go-karts are a few examples.

The beauty of action photos is they catch the eye and stand out. You show you aren't a homebody who sits on the couch all the time. Women like a guy who has a sense of adventure.

Here's an example of a bungee jumping photo I use, which has started countless conversations.

I recommend only using one extreme action photo. More than one action photo may signal to a woman you're too extreme for her.

Next time you're on a hike, have someone take a picture. It may cause a woman to not only like your photo, but start a conversation.

3. Keep your bio current.

You should update your profile regularly, which prevents it from going stale. An example is listing your favorite shows on Netflix or Amazon Prime.

If you share you're watching Stranger Things season 1 right now, women may think you haven't updated your bio in ages. List a show you're currently watching and share why you enjoy it. Women may see that and like your bio, or comment on it. 

Keep your photos current as well. If it's June, don't use photos of yourself snowboarding, and if it's winter, don't use photos from the previous summer. And for goodness sake, keep all Halloween pictures off your profile.

You can update your profile with these type of things:

• A recent personal accomplishment or goal.
• A new hobby.
• A recent recipe you mastered making.
• A movie/concert/show you've seen or a book you read.
• A recent adventure, possibly a place you visited for vacation.

The point is, update your bio to prevent it from going stale. A woman who passed on you, may revisit your bio and see something new she likes.

4. Smile in your pictures!

A great way you can get more likes on dating apps is simple. Look at the camera and smile. I can't believe how many men don't smile in their photos. 

Match.com found the first thing women look at in a photo is your smile. According to Match, 71% of women judge a man by his teeth.

A smile is warm and inviting. Smiling makes you likable. You don't look like a creep, and most importantly, women love a good smile!

5. Show confidence and humor.

Women don't react to boring; they like seeing confidence and humor. Take the example below from Bumble. I answer the "My secret skill" question with a little humor.

You see how women respond. They not only like my answer but start conversations with me because they find it funny. Remember, always inject humor in your bio.

Another tip for getting more likes on dating apps is showing confidence. Women react positively to confident men.

Below is my answer to the "I'm looking for" question Hinge. I don't hesitate writing what I want in a partner and find women not only like my answers but swipe right and start conversations with me on every dating app when I answer questions similarly to below.

When it comes to describing yourself or answering questions like the ones above, don't write what you think women want to hear; how you're a nice guy or a total catch. That's the approach most men use in their bio, and it's wrong.

Instead, show some confidence and describe what you want. Show women, you're an alpha who knows what he wants and not some beta who hopes women choose you.

5 Tips For Finding The Best Website For Meeting Women

What is the best website for meeting women? The good thing is there are plenty of options for finding someone. Maybe too many options available, which leads is frustrating with a lot of men.

Honestly, if an app has women on it, you can meet someone. Most guys look for which app is ideal for meeting girls, but that's the wrong question.

Instead, men should ask which app is best for me! Here are five tips that help answer what is the best website for meeting women for you.

1. Are there women on the app?

2. Are you willing to join a paid dating site?

3. What are you looking for?

4. How important are the features of dating apps to you?

Some apps are bare-bones, while others have a ton of features. Zoosk has several features, while Christian Mingle is bare bones, not having a lot of bells and whistles. Sites like Match.com, Jdate, and Christian Mingle allows you to focus on meeting someone without any distracting features and games.

Zoosk has coins, which is its virtual currency giving you access to certain features. Coffee Meets Bagel has beans, similar to Zoosk's coins, is its currency that allows you to unlock other features as well.

One critical component which can help you is a site's filtering tool. Match.com, POF, OkCupid, and Zoosk, for example, offer tons of filtering tools helping you narrow down your options.

• Want a partner who is educated? You can search for that.
• Want a woman who wants kids? Go ahead and search.
• Want a partner who doesn't smoke? Seek and find!
• Would you like to see all the women who have never been married, have dark hair, and don't have kids? You can filter on those!

The point is you can seek whatever you want if a site has filters. Search filters are a great resource, and I encourage them to help you find your ideal partner.

On the flip side are apps like Tinder, which gives you age and distance. Want to meet someone who doesn't want kids on Tinder? Well, you have to mutually like each other, start a conversation, and then ask her if she wants kids. All that work is avoided on apps that have a filtering mechanism.

It all boils down to what's important to you. Basically, you got options on certain apps while others, you're on your own.

5. Do you worry about fake profiles or scams?

I'm on dating apps constantly and see they all have problems with fake profiles and scammers. Some more than others. ​Mainstream sites such as Match, Zoosk, OkCupid have fewer fakes compared to apps like MeetMe, Baddoo, and Twoo.

I have been contacted by fakes, bots, escorts, and a few who asked for money in their first message. I consider myself good at spotting fakes, but sometimes I get suckered.

Recently I gave my email quickly to a woman who seemed real off OkCupid. I immediately got links to fake porn sites. Sometimes it happens.

Always protect yourself and never let your guard down. If someone seems too good to be true, she probably is. Odds are you will have a fake bot send you a message at some point. Keep your eyes open.

It's usually easy to spot fake profiles. Take this example from Tinder; the profile points to an external website. This profile is clearly a spammer.

​Some sites offer photo verification, which helps protect you; Bumble and Zoosk, for example. You are at least assured, those women look like their photos.

When it comes to scams, it's simple. Don't give anyone money off a dating app. Period. Never. End of discussion.

Here are a few more tips:

• Don't click on links in a message or profile bio.
• Don't give your email address.
• Don't immediately give your phone number if a woman asks for it in her first message.
• Keep an eye out for bad grammar on profiles.
• When you swap numbers, immediately Google the number and check it on Facebook.
• Be wary of profiles where a gorgeous woman has one photo.
• Look for bad English in messages.

7 Proven Facts About Online Dating!

There are many proven facts about online dating, which can boost men's results on dating apps. These tips include avoiding using photos taken inside your car, check your grammar, and avoid wearing sunglasses in photos at all costs.

If you're looking for an edge on dating sites, here are 7 proven facts about online dating. Each of these tips is based on studies and dating sites themselves.

1. Your grammar matters.

2. Specific words can impact your results.

Using a specific word can positively or negatively impact a woman's decision to contact you or respond to your messages. Yep, a single word can either hurt or help you.

Zoosk found men with these words and phrases got 2–9% fewer incoming messages from women than those who left them out:

• maybe
• dunno
• sort of
• kind of

Writing the phrase "not sure," as in "I'm not sure" about something decreased messages by up to 16%.

The reason the words above hurt men is because they are wishy-washy. Women are attracted to men who are clear and concise about who they are and what they want. Avoid using words that show you are unsure of things or show a lack of confidence.

Another word you should avoid is "entrepreneur." Men who refer to themselves as an entrepreneur in their profiles get 16% fewer messages. The word has become a bit played out these days.

If you happen to be an entrepreneur, leave it off your profile, even if you're successful. A better choice is explaining what you do instead of some generic term that's fashionable right now.

On the positive side, if you have a dog which happens to be a rescue; mention the words "rescue" or "adopted." 59% of singles agree that finding out your date had adopted rather than bought their pet would make them more attractive.

Another positive word is "CEO" or "founder." If you mention either of these in your profile, you can get up to 31% more messages.

Here are a few words you can include in your profile or messages, which are proven to boost results:

• Ambitious - 33% more messages.
• Instrument - 15% more messages.
• Optimistic - 44% more interest from women.
• Single dad - 7% more messages.
• Yoga - 21% more messages.

3. It's not all about your photos.

4. Women look at EVERYTHING!

We all know that women look at photos and read your bio. Still, they also pay attention to those pesky settings where you answer questions about yourself.

You know those settings on Match.com, Hinge, POF, and OkCupid:

• Do you want/have kids?
• Do you smoke?
• What type of relationship are you seeking?
• Are you religious?

Women look at this stuff. Take this example where I messaged a woman and look at her response. She told me that we're not a match because I selected the "Non-religious" option on Plentyoffish.

​Pay attention to the settings of women you send messages to. For example, don't message women who don't want kids if you want children. Don't message women who share political beliefs that are different than yours.

Take this other example from POF. I didn't realize my relationship setting was "casual" while I was messaging women. I wasn't seeing responses until this woman pointed out why.

Give your profile a once over, making sure your settings are correct. Also, if your dating app has a filtering tool, use it! Fill in what you want and seek women who are on the same page as you.

5. Don't use pictures inside your car.

6. Don't wear sunglasses in your pictures.

An instant attraction killer is using pictures of yourself wearing sunglasses. Another on the list of proven facts about online dating is photos with sunglasses. These photos were rated as a "no go" by Elitesingles 19% of the time.

It's so common, many women warn guys NOT to hide their faces behind sunglasses. Here's an example from a woman on Hinge.

Here are a few more facts;

• Tinder found sunglasses reduce your matches by 12%
• Zoosk found people who wear sunglasses get 63% fewer messages and also receive fewer likes.
• Photofeeler, a website that gives advice for profile photos, shares this advice; "Don't cover or block your eyes...sunglasses and hats make you seem unapproachable."

7. Older men rock!

There are studies which show women prefer older men. A 2010 study of nearly 4,000 people found women prefer older guys. As women get older and become more financially independent, they prefer older men even more.

"We think this suggests greater financial independence gives women more confidence in partner choices, and attracts them to powerful, attractive older men," lead author and University of Dundee psychologist Fhionna Moore said in a statement.

Match.com surveyed women and asked, "Is silver hair really sexy on guys?" and 72% of women find men with gray hair attractive. Evolutionary psychologists say that younger women and older men pair up because older men have more time to accumulate resources and status than younger guys. Also, older men are generally more emotionally stable.

The Worst Online Dating Mistakes All Men Should Avoid

What are the worst online dating mistakes men make? The top blunders include bad photos, negativity, and using the wrong approaches in messages.

It's easy to succeed on dating apps, but the majority of men don't do well. If you're seeing less than stellar results on dating apps, this post will help identify mistakes you may make right now.

Here are the 7 worst online dating mistakes you should avoid if you want to meet someone on apps. If you're guilty of any of these, it's time to make a change.

1. You use bad photos.

2. You're on the wrong dating app.

3. You put little effort in your self-summary.

4. You're negative in your bio.

The last thing women want to see on a man's bio or messages is negative energy. Plentyoffish found that users with positive identifiers in their profile received 23% more incoming messages while EliteSingles found 22% of members found negativity to be a turnoff.

Take the headline below form POF. The guy is insulting the women on the app, which is a terrible first impression.

Another mistake is listing what you don't want. Never write how you aren't "looking for games or drama."

Your bio should highlight your strengths. You're a man of character, and your profile must prove it.

If you ever find yourself upset, stay away from your dating profile. Don't take your frustration out in your bio because women will always see it as a huge red flag.

5. You show a lack of effort in messages.

​Most guys get little to no responses to their messages. The main reason women don't respond is that men send awful icebreakers.

Women take the time to write about themselves in their bio; making an effort to find the perfect partner. And after all that effort, women receive messages like this:

OnlineProfielPros found the top 3 intros to avoid are "hi," "hey," and "hello." "Hi" is the most common first message, used by about 23% of men. These are the worst approaches, and the fact, so many men use them ensures you never stand out.

6. You don't make a move.

One of the top mistakes men make is not messaging women once they connect. You swipe right on a woman on Tinder, and then she swipes right, and you don't make a move.

You're on a dating app to meet someone, and women have the same goal. So, once you match with a woman on Tinder, for example, send her a message. And if a woman sends you a message first, say, on Bumble, respond for goodness sake.

What's the point of joining a website if you're not going to send a message or just want to swap messages endlessly? It's so bad, some women warn men in their profiles.

On the flip side, say you connect with a woman and swap several messages. It's in your best interest to get her number and ask her out for a date.

If you take too much time swapping messages with a woman, she will ultimately become bored and move on. Or maybe some other guy will ask her out first because you are dragging your feet.

If it comes to the point where your conversations have become, "How's your day" or "Anything fun planned this weekend," it's time to get her phone number and ask her out.

7. You compliment a woman's looks.

I've discussed a lack of effort in messages. Still, one approach specifically deserves it's own category, complimenting women on their looks. Onlineprofilepro's found 31% of men complement women's appearances.

If you compliment a woman's looks, stop it now. You may wonder, "Chris, what's wrong with telling a woman she's cute." Well, lots!

When you comment on a woman's appearance, it shows you only value her appearance and couldn't take the time to read her bio. Also, the majority of men are using the same approach, ​so you can't stand out.

Dating sites back up the fact you shouldn't compliment a woman's looks. Zoosk found using the following words in your messages have catastrophic results:

• Sexy - 13% fewer responses.
• Beautiful - 20% fewer responses.
• Cute - 24% fewer responses.
• Gorgeous - 22% fewer responses.

Women, especially attractive women, are told how attractive they are all the time on dating apps. When you send a message telling a woman she's pretty, you're immediately grouped with everyone who does the same thing.

Final Thoughts

The worst online dating mistakes guys do are easy to fix. The contents of the list below are among the worst blunders for guys:

1. You use bad photos.
2. You're on the wrong dating app.
3. You put little effort in your self-summary.
4. You're negative in your bio.
5. You show a lack of effort in messages.
6. You don't make a move.
7. You compliment a woman's looks.

The good news is these mistakes are all easily fixable. You can replace your photos, rewrite your bio, and put some effort into your messages.

Once you fix everything, you will set yourself apart from the majority of men who either don't care or aren't aware of their mistakes.