What Are The Best OkCupid Conversation Starters?

5 Of The Best OkCupid Conversation Starters

The best OkCupid conversation starters include complimenting a woman's photo, ask a funny personality question, or challenge her.

The focus of this post is 5 of the best OkCupid conversation starters men can use. These approaches are easy to use and will work for you.

Lastly, before messaging women, check your profile first. It doesn't' matter how great your icebreaker is. If your profile stinks, women won't respond to your messages.

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1. Comment on a woman's bio.

The best way to start a conversation on OkCupid by is reading the woman's bio and focusing your message on a common interest. OkCupid points out that "talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection..."

Of course, the key is the woman must put effort into her bio. Anything a woman shares in her bio is fair game. The key to this approach is showing curiosity and then sharing something about yourself.

Sharing something about yourself PROVES you have common interests. Most guys say, "Wow, you like traveling? So do I." This is a terrible approach because there's no proof.

If a woman enjoys traveling, ask about her recent travel adventures, then share something about yourself. Maybe a woman loves live music. Ask if she's seen anything recently, then share one of your recent concerts? Make sense? It's simple.

2. Compliment a photo.

Another great way to start conversations on OkCupid is complimenting a woman's picture. Stay away from complimenting the woman's looks.

Compliment something in the photo. If a woman's at the beach, compliment the view. Maybe the woman is hiking somewhere, compliment the view as well. As long as the compliment is sincere, the woman will respond back to you.

I also recommend asking a question about the photo as well. Don't just compliment the photo. Show some curiosity about the picture.

3. Tell a woman she's your daily match due to her looks.

Using humor is one of the best ways to start conversations on OkCupid. One of my favorites is telling a woman she's your daily match. The funny part is saying OkCupid uses software that matches the best looking people.

The message works because it's funny. You're telling the woman she's attractive, in a slay way. You also show confidence by including yourself in the message.

4. Ask the woman a quick personality question.

An effective conversation starter on OkCupid is saying, "Quick personality question," then asking something fun and light. The key to this message is sharing your answer to the question.

A classic example of this approach is, "Quick personality question... ketchup on eggs. Yes or no?" Then share your answer.

This icebreaker is fantastic. Get creative with this approach. Here are some examples:

• Quick personality question... hug, handshake, or high-five on a first date?
• Quick personality question... Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Prime?
• Quick personality question... Sunday Funday, sleeping in, or a hike followed by margaritas?

Have some fun with this message. It's great at getting responses.

5. Challenge women in your message.

A great way to get responses is by challenging women in your icebreakers. Look for things where you can throw down a challenge.

Cooking, board games, and outdoor activities are great ways to use this approach. Do it in a friendly way, though. You don't want to come across as super competitive. 

Final Thoughts

Starting conversations on OkCupid is simple. Stay away from the approaches most men use, "hi," "hey," or "hey there," show a lack of effort. They don't work.

The best OkCupid conversation starters show curiosity, humor, and confidence. Use the approaches in this post as a foundation for your icebreakers. The messages on this post are effective at starting conversations.