What Are The Best Plentyoffish Conversation Starters?
Do you want to know how to start conversations with women on Plentyoffish? The best Plentyoffish conversation starters include commenting on a woman's profile, asking something cool not on her profile, or a guilty pleasure, to name a few.
This post shares 5 of the best Plentyoffish conversation starters. There are explanations for each message below.
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1. Comment on the woman's bio.
The best way to start a conversation on Plentyoffish is by commenting on a woman's profile. Mentioning something in her bio shows effort. Believe me, women appreciate it.
Ideally, you should focus on common interests. Hinge found, "the best way to get a response is to ask a direct question about your match's profile while sharing your interests."
Below is an example of Lodie's profile. She shares several interests, but I focus on cooking.
Look for common interests for your icebreaker.
In my opener, I mention cooking and ask Lodie's favorite dish. Note how I share my go-to dish. The result is Lodie responds to my message, and a conversation is started.
The most simple topics can start a conversation.
A great tip is to start your message with a compliment. Avoid physical compliments because the majority of men mention a woman's looks.
Instead, compliment a woman's lifestyle or something interesting about her. In the message below, I compliment the woman's "verbal vibe" and tell her I love that she's active before asking a question.
Sharing common interests boost responses on dating apps.
2. Ask a woman for her favorite weekend activity.
Another good POF icebreaker is asking a woman about her favorite weekend activity. I love this approach because it's simple and very effective and getting responses.
Asking a woman her favorite thing to do on weekends puts her in a positive mindset. It also allows you to "peel the onion" and dig more into her lifestyle.
When using this approach, be sure to include things you enjoy doing in your message. List things women enjoy doing (wine tasting, concerts, traveling, etc.).
Including fun things gets women to picture themselves doing them with you. You want women to get excited at the thought of doing fun activities with you.
Below is an example of this great opening message. After asking the woman my question, I share things I enjoy doing on weekends, and the woman likes the things I share about myself.
Ask a woman her favorite weekend activity because it works.
Note that I add a cocky statement, "Hot POF dates is not an acceptable answer unless it's with me." It's a great way to enhance the message, and the smiley face reinforces that I'm joking.
3. Ask a woman to describe her best trait.
A clever way to start a conversation on POF is asking a woman her best trait. Here's the message, "Hi (woman's name), what's your best trait? Physical or non-physical?"
When asking a woman's best trait, share your best trait. I like using humor to describe my best trait. In the message below, I point to my "come hither eyes." Clearly, I'm playing.
Point out your best trait in a confident (yet funny) way.
Patty responds to my messages. Note how she laughs and comments that I seem fun. If you can make a woman smile, you're off to a good start.
Get creative when pointing out your best trait. It can be your "charming disposition" or "rugged masculine features." Anything works.
4. Ask a woman something cool not found in her profile.
A message that gets many responses is asking a woman to share something not found in her profile. This is a very unique approach that gets her to think about things beyond her bio.
It may catch a woman off-guard because most men either send low-effort approaches ("hi" or "hey there") or comment on her bio. The beauty of this message is it helps you dig into her lifestyle beyond her profile. And it works!
The message shouldn't be one-sided - be sure to share something about yourself, not in your profile. Since your profile doesn't list every interest, you can share something original.
As with everything else, humor is the best route. Here's an example of this icebreaker.
Asking a woman to share something cool about herself is a unique approach.
5. Ask a woman one of her guilty pleasures.
One of my favorite conversation starters on Plentyoffish is asking a woman for a guilty pleasure. A guilty pleasure is "an activity or piece of media that someone enjoys but would be embarrassed by if other people found out about it."
We all have guilty pleasures. What better way to connect with a woman than by sharing things you enjoy? This message is very effective at getting responses from women.
Below is an example of the message in action. As with all messages, share some of your guilty pleasures. Note how the woman comments on my "great" profile, showing its importance.
Asking a woman for a guilty pleasure is a great opener.
The funny thing about this message is you don't have to technically be embarrassed about something you enjoy. The words "guilty pleasure" give you the freedom to write anything about yourself.
Final Thoughts
Most men fail to get responses to messages due to low-effort icebreakers. This post shows several approaches that work on Plentyoffish.
The first approach I recommend is commenting on a woman's profile because it shows you took the time to go beyond her photos. Remember to share something about yourself in your message - it helps boost responses.
If a woman doesn't share something in her bio, the other approaches in the post are great options. They show humor, confidence, and curiosity, making them stand out.
Lastly, if your profile stinks, you'll get fewer messages regardless of the quality of your icebreaker. Grab my free dating profile checklist here to ensure your profile is up to par: Free Dating Profile Checklist.