How often should you update your dating profile?

Update your dating profile at least once a month; ideally once a week. The benefit of updating your bio is it keeps your profile fresh. Some experts believe dating apps reward you for keeping it fresh, possibly presenting your bio above others.

Most men create their profile and leave it as-is; never changing it or updating it. Their profile sits and collects dust. Do not let your profile remain fixed; you want to keep it from getting stale.

Even if you're doing OK on dating apps, it's in your best interest to change your profile from time to time. You need to update your bio if you don't see the results you want.

For good profile tips visit my these blog posts which can help you on dating apps:

• What Is A Good Dating Profile Example For Men
• 10 Critical Online Dating Profile Tips for Men
• What Are Good Online Dating Profile Photo Tips For Men?
• How To Create A Good Username On Dating Apps

Why you should update in your dating profile.

The primary reason you should update your profile consistently is that it keeps your bio current and women who ignored you in the past may contact you or swipe right after reading your revised bio.

Some dating apps present you to women based on what you write in your bio. Eharmony, Match, and OkCupid are prime examples. The sites scan your bio for words to find matches; hiking, wine, dogs, traveling, camping, the beach, etc.

Nobody knows how these dating algorithm's work, but one thing is for sure; dating apps show your profile to women based on what's in your bio. It's important to swap things out because of this.

Below is an example from OkCupid. Note how it presents men to women based on keywords in their bio; in this case, the word "biking." It's features like this which you want to use to your advantage by updating your profile occasionally.

You have nothing to lose changing your profile from time to time. The most significant benefit is you may get a message from a woman who overlooked you in the past.

What do you update in your profile?

What should you change on your dating profile? It can be as simple as reordering your photos, adding new pictures, or mixing things up in your self-summary.

You don't need to rewrite your bio, but swap out things you're doing at the moment. Maybe you're taking a cooking class; add a photo of yourself in it.

Maybe you recently found a great restaurant; mention it in your bio like I said how I found the best margaritas in San Diego. You see below a woman commented on seeing this in my bio.

Are you currently binge-watching a new show on Netflix? Write about it in your bio. You may catch the eye of a woman who is now watching it or thinking of watching it.

Make sure everything is current.

Your photos must be in line with the current time of the year. For example, maybe you enjoy snowboarding. Great. Add a photo on the slopes during the winter, but remove them when winter is over. There's no need to have pictures of yourself in the snow during the summer.

I also see guys use photos often when they're in front of a movie display at a motive theater. It's not impressive having a photo of yourself in front of the Avengers display when the movie came out last year.

Also, using photos standing next to old movie displays shows just that; your photos are old. Seeing one outdated picture may make women think, "are all his photos current?" The last thing you want it to raise a woman's suspicion that your photos are old.

Lastly, let's discuss using Halloween photos on your profile. I'm very anti-Halloween photos because they typically hide your face, so use them at your own risk.

If you choose to use a Halloween photo, make sure you use it within a week of Halloween. You shouldn't have Halloween photos up in April.

Final Thoughts

Update your dating profile at least once a month. I recommend doing it weekly to increase your appeal with women.

It doesn't take much time to swap out a few photos or add a couple of sentences for some recent adventure or accomplishment.

7 Things Every Guy Should Do On Their Dating Profiles

Don't risk putting up a dating profile filled with bad photos, cliches, poorly written full of grammar errors, or worse, incomplete. Women have options. A lot of options. It's critical you have a great (not just good) dating profile, so you stand out.

Most guys don't put in the effort; using a few photos which are mainly selfies and write nothing about themselves. The amount of effort a guy puts into his dating profile speaks volumes; it tells women who serious he is about meeting someone.

Avoid the mistake the majority of men are guilty of with their dating profile. Here are 7 things all guys ought to do on dating profiles. Following these tips will boost any guys results.  

Join the right dating site

Before getting to the list, there's one critical step; make sure you are on the right dating site.  There are a TON of options; Tinder, Match, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, POF, Eharmony, Jdate and the list goes one. 

All dating sites have plenty of female members, but which site is right for you?  Which site is easier finding the type of women you want? Depending on what you're looking for, you might do more work on some sites than others.

Take this example, assume you're 35 years old and want to settle down. You want a family. You want a partner who has a career, doesn't have kids right now and is educated.

Sites like Zoosk and Match.com have filters which allow searches for EXACTLY what you want. The photo below is the search tool on Match which has several filters allowing you to filter a woman's appearance, education, kids, body type, hobbies, religion, etc.

What if you're a member on Tinder? Good luck! Tinder's allows you to filter distance and age; nothing else.  

Assume another guy is 35, wants kids with a woman who doesn't have kids, and is educated and employed, but is instead on Tinder. He must swipe right on a ton of women (hoping they reciprocate and swipe him back) and then initiate conversations and bring up these things quickly, so he isn't wasting his time:

• Do you want kids?
• Do you have kids?
• What do you do for work?
• Did you go to college?

This guy has his work cut out for him. You see it's more work for him finding and excluding women. These are easy to discover on sites with filtering mechanisms though. 

Lastly, I know "free dating sites" are appealing because they don't cost money, but, if you're serious about finding a partner; paid dating sites are the way to go. And "free" doesn't mean they are really "free."

I cover that in this blog, Why Paid Dating Sites Are Better Than Free Sites For Meeting Women.

1. Know what you want.

Always include a few sentences describing the type of woman you are looking for at the end of your dating profile. One study found guys who do this on their profiles receive better results.

The study, An evidence-based approach to an ancient pursuit:systematic review on converting online contact into a first date, found if you make your profile only about you, "this will attract far fewer responses than a combination of who you are and what you are looking for."

When you describe your ideal partner, be honest. Avoid cliches and anything you think women want to hear. You know, how you're looking for your "best friend" and someone who "lives life to the fullest." Save the Hallmark card crap and write what you want in a partner. 

Describe her and don't focus on physical. All too often I see men making it all about being hot. Instead, describe character traits, lifestyle choices, and values. You'll stand out.

2. Avoid using non-confident words.

A lot of men use words on their profiles which shows a lack of confidence. Men who know what they want, and write it on their bio, fare better with women than guys who are unsure of themselves.

Examples of non-confident words include "if," "maybe," and "would." Exclude using these words, or words like them, anywhere on your profile. I see statements like this on men's profiles all the time; "If you're interested, send me a message."

Take this example from POF:

Do you see how unattractive that statement is? Read it out loud. "If your interested." That's as non-confident as it comes. Also note, he uses "your" instead of "you're which is bad grammar. I cover the impact of misspelled words below.  

Assume women are interested and finish your profile encouraging them to send you a message; "I look forward to your message" shows much more confidence then "If you want to know anything else, just ask." 

3. Choose the right photos.

No doubt you understand the importance of photos. Photos are the first thing you're judged on, and your primary photo is the most critical.

I'm amazed at how often guys choose terrible photos. Half naked mirror selfies, no smiling, photos of a pet, quotes, food, etc...

It's simple. Look at the camera and smile. Done. Next, take a few pictures of things you enjoy; hiking, cooking, painting, playing an instrument, playing with your dog, riding a horse, volunteering, participating in a race, kayaking, playing softball, etc.

Here's a fact; people who have pictures of themselves doing something interesting have a 40% higher chance of receiving more messages, according to a study by OkCupid. This means no selfies in front of the mirror, on your couch, or in your car.

Always add photos doing something fun. If you don't have these type of photos, it's time to take some.

Grab a friend and have him take pictures. If you're out and about, don't hesitate to ask a stranger to take a photo. I do this all the time and jokingly say, "Hey do you mind taking a photo of me? This would make a great photo for my Tinder profile!" No one ever refuses to take my picture.

For a overview of photos, visit my blog post: How To Take Good Dating Profile Photos For Men.

4. Fill your profile completely - Then double check it.  

Never leave any section of your dating profile blank. Women go through your profile with a fine-toothed comb, and even something as simple as a profile setting has an impact.

Take this example from Match.com. I created my profile and made a mistake in the "About Me" section where I selected the option that "I want kids" and wouldn't date a woman who has kids. 

Women weren't responding to my messages, and I didn't know why. I sent a second icebreaker to a woman, and she responded and told me why she ignored my first message:

Oops! I filled a setting wrong. Had I double checked my bio I could of spotted this error. I have no problem dating someone with children, and immediately fixed my bio and things went back to normal.

Make sure you complete your profile, end-to-end, and double check it when you're finished. Tips include:

• Use several photos showing various hobbies and interest.
• Answer all major questions covering if you smoke, do you want kids, your height, education, etc.
• If your dating site has a username or headline put effort into these and don't type random letters or numbers.
• Take time to write about yourself. Read it out loud when finished. If it doesn't make sense reading it out loud, rewrite it because it doesn't make sense while reading it. 

The amount of effort you put into your dating profile shows women how serious you are about meeting someone. Don't think women swipe right if your bio is empty and you use 3 photos, all of which as selfies.

5. Don't overdo it.

When you list every single thing you enjoy, women reading your profile ultimately stumble on something they don't like. You don't know what's a turn-off to women, so it's best to avoid the details for your taste in music, movies, and books because it makes you less desirable with women.

Maybe you include a few movies the woman reading your profile thinks is stupid. Perhaps you like rap, and the woman doesn't. Or maybe you watch a show she hates. These are NOT deal breakers on their own, but collectively they add up, and women think, "Wow, I have nothing in common with this guy" when the reality is they are meaningless.

Science backs this up. The study Less Is More: The Lure of Ambiguity, or Why Familiarity Breeds Contempt found the more details you list, the less likable you become. The study theorizes when people exchange a lot of information, they find more reasons to believe they are very different.

So, when you start listing your favorite activities, TV shows, music, books, movies,
etc., the woman reading your profile may turn away because she is telling herself you
both have less and less in common as she reads through your interests.

There is a way around this; add a little mystery. Write enough to pique a woman's curiosity with your choice in movies, music, and books. Instead of listing each movie you love, write a genre. Write about how you enjoy "action movies" and "comedies" instead of specific movies.

Here's how you do it. Maybe your taste in a movie comedy is The 40-Year-Old Virgin while hers is Hitch. So, if you write on your profile "I love romantic comedies" a woman reading that will think, "Wow, I enjoy romantic comedies too. We have something in common" even though your choice in movies are different. You create similarity with women reading your profile doing this trick...and it works.

Whereas if you write, "I love romantic comedies like 40 Year -Old Virgin," she may think, "That movie is stupid" and you've created zero similarity in her mind.

6.  Answer "how," "what," or "why."

Men have a hard time describing themselves in their profile. Guys typically list facts and leave it at that. They offer no proof of what they say they enjoy.

Take this example from a profile on POF. The guy writes "cooking is one of my passions and vacationing and traveling is a must for me!". Yawn. Where's the proof?

Whatever you say you enjoy, you must prove it. The ideal approach is answering "how," "what," or "why." For example, the guy above lists "cooking" so answer one of the following:

• What do you enjoy about cooking?
• Why do you enjoy cooking?
• How do you enjoy cooking?

Make sense? Instead of writing "cooking is one of my passions" he could have written this; "I'm an amazing cook. Some people can burn water, but luckily I'm not one of them. You haven't lived until you've tried my grilled salmon or basic chicken pasta (from scratch). I love experimenting with different foods and the creativity that comes with it."

Which is more likely at catching women's attention? My description. Women are more emotional and respond to descriptive bios over ones which only list facts.

Men write profiles like this; "I work as an engineer, enjoy cooking, wine, Netflix, and traveling." This is snooze-inducing and won't catch a woman's eye. And the sad thing is, most men write their profiles in this manner. If your profile is written like this, change it.

It's easy. Just list 4-5 of your hobbies, passions, interests, or goals and write a few sentences about them. You like painting? What do you enjoy about it? Do you volunteer on the weekend? Why do you enjoy volunteering? Maybe you love the outdoors. Describe how. Make sense?

7. Check your grammar.

Bad grammar is the kiss of death. Here are a few facts about how grammar impacts your results on dating sites:

• Match.com study revealed 96% of women think grammar is essential.
• Zoosk found that spelling errors in your dating profile result in 13% fewer messages from women.
• Poor spelling and grammar mistakes are the biggest turn-offs according to Elite Singles.
• An analysis by Grammarly, a proofreading company, revealed that a man with two spelling mistakes in his online profile was 14% less likely to receive a positive response from women viewing his profile.

Let these facts serve as a warning; check your grammar. For an overview of the importance of the impact misspelled words and bad grammar has on your results, check out my blog post, Why Grammar Is Critical In Your Dating Profile About Me Section.

Copy and paste your profile into Microsoft Word or an online grammar tool and check for errors. It may make a difference for women contacting you or not.

Final Thoughts

Your results on dating sites are directly tied to your dating profile. When you send a message to a woman the first thing she does is checks your profile. If it's terrible she'll delete your message and move on. If your profile is good, she'll respond. It's that simple.

Make an effort! If your profile is really good, women initiate conversations like this.

However, if you decide to half-ass it and your profile looks like this, maybe you deserve an empty inbox.

Are there other tips you think men ought to do on their dating profile?  Share them below.

The Best Way To Grab A Woman's Attention Online Is Your Writing Not Your Photos

A study found women spend 50% more time than men analyzing profiles so the key to grab a woman's attention online is a well-written dating profile.  Yes, women read your bio and don't just look at your photos.

A common is misconception is photos are all that matters on your profile.  False!  Women spend 65% less time than men viewing photos on dating profiles.

The news that your self-summary section is critical isn't new.  One study found the words used in a dating profile were shown to have a 64 - 69% impact on a woman’s decision to approach men.  I gave a few tips for your profile in my blog post; How To Create A Good Dating Profile For Men Which Attracts Women.

However, a recent study not only confirmed the importance of your written bio but also tracked the eye movement of women to figure out just how much time women spend reading your profile.

A Woman's Eyes Tells You Everything!

Tobii Technology partnered with AnswerLab to analyze what people look at when browsing dating profiles.  Using an eye tracker, participants viewed dating profiles on Match.com and Eharmony.  The eye-tracker offered great insight into the behavior of women when viewing dating profiles.

"We quickly saw how they visually processed online dating profiles on two popular websites," said Sal Becerra, research director at AnswerLab.  The eye trackers found:

• Women spend 65% less time viewing photos than men.
• Women spend 50% more time analyzing profiles than men. 
• The average time women spend reading a profile ls 84 seconds to asses if you're a match.

The results of the study confirm the key to grab a woman's attention online isn't your photos, but your written text section instead.

How Much of Your Profile Do Women Read?

According to Speed Reading Test Online, a speed reading test site, the average person can read 200 words per minute.  If a women spend an average of 84 seconds reading a dating profile, as the study above finding, you have 280 words to grab their attention.

Do the math: an average person reads 200 words per minute / 60 seconds in a minute = 3.33 words per second X 84 seconds = 280 words to grab a woman's attention.

To see this in practice look at the photo below which shows the amount of a profile a woman will actually read.

Final Thoughts

It's critical you have a well-written bio if you want to grab a woman's attention online.  The effort you put into your written section speaks volumes as to how serious you are about meeting someone.

Women will not read your entire profile if the first section is boring so put some effort to stand out.  Here are a few tips for you to consider as you create your bio:

• If you can't hook a woman in from the outset of you're dating profile you're probably going to be ignored.  Avoid boring introductions and start strong to hold her interest.
  
  
• Make your profile easy to read.  Some women skim your profile while others read it word for word.  Format your profile, so it appeals to both types of women.  I covered this in another blog post; Do People Skim or Read Online Dating Profiles? The Answer is Both.
  
• Show humor, confidence, and share why you're online.  Avoid anything which may show you're passive or are "Just seeing what's out there."
  
  
• Spell check everything!  Women are turned off by men who misspell words.  I discussed this in this blog post; Why Grammar Is Critical In Your Dating Profile About Me Section.

The Biggest Dating Profile Mistake You Are Making

The biggest dating profile mistake men make is writing little to nothing about themselves on their profiles.  It’s not bad photos nor awful messages.  Well, half naked bathroom selfies are a terrible idea, but a blank bio will instantly kill you chances to meet someone.

The effort you put into your dating profile bio speaks volumes to women; a well-written one shows how serious you are about meeting someone.  Your bio is the key to success because it show’s your passions and interests which can catch a woman’s eye and start a conversation.

So take note, if you are serious about meeting someone online, you’ll want to avoid the biggest dating profile mistake guys are guilty of, low effort, and take the time to write about yourself.

Some Guys Simply Don't Get It

I’m amazed men join dating sites and put in this type of effort on their dating profile:

A profile like this shows one thing; laziness.  Pure and simple.  Men don’t seem to get it, and yet, they continue to fail miserably online. 

Guys fail so much they turn to forums like the one below and ask others to critique their dating profile:

Guys will post links to their profiles which look like this:

Men who have profiles like this ask “Why don’t women respond to my messages?” or "What am I doing wrong?"  It's their lack of effort on their bio that is crushing any chances of meeting someone.

Women are bombarded with messages from men so they can be selective.  Believe this; women look at your profile to see if you’re a match with them. Your “about me” section (or written section) of your dating profile offer women clues to who you are. 

When you send a message to a woman or swipe right, the first thing she does is look at your dating profile.  Women will also look at your profile when they browse through their matches.

Either way, if you have a bare-bones bio, you are going to fail online dating.  There’s no way around it.

What You Can Do To Standout On A Dating Site

You should share some of your passions, interests, and hobbies in your bio.  Go into detail.  Show some depth.

Most men write descriptions like this; "I like to travel a lot, workout, and cook." Yes, that's an actual bio I found on a guy's profile on OkCupid and it's the biggest dating profile mistakes men make; being boring.  A better approach is to give details about these things like this:

"Traveling is my passion.  I love experiencing other cultures and seeing the world.  Oh and without a doubt is the food.  You haven't lived until you've visited a country you don't speak the language.  Of course, I always have Google Translate on standby.  

I enjoy working out to keep fit and healthy.  Besides helping me maintain my sex appeal a daily workout keeps me balanced after a long day in the office.  Weekend hikes, kayaking, swimming, and running are also things I love doing to keep me active.

I'm a good cook and creative in the kitchen.  I go online and find recipes that look delicious and attempt to make them.  Sometimes they come out great others, well at least I tried.  I'm really partial to spicy Indian dishes right now.  I found this mouthwatering Lamb Rogan Josh recipe which is my go-to one right now."

Can you see how much better my description is over the one from OkCupid?  This is how you standout on a dating site.

For some great tips for putting up a profile, check out my blog post; How To Create A Good Dating Profile For Men Which Attracts Women.

Final Thoughts

Don’t make the biggest dating profile mistake for men.  Put some effort into your profile.  Just sit down and share your passions and hobbies.  Show confidence.  Humor.  You don’t have to write about your philosophy of life, but you should never have a bio with little to no information.

Put up a half-assed dating profile at your own risk.  You aren’t playing it cool when you have an empty profile; you’re only shooting yourself in the foot.  You may miss out on meeting someone special.

A good dating profile attracts women in droves while a bad one sends them running for the hills.  If you want to create a good dating profile, you'll need to put in a little work. It's not rocket science so don't underestimate the importance of your profile either.

The effort you put into your dating profile shows women how serious you are about finding a relationship.  Putting in low effort shows you're too busy, too lazy, or don't care.

Dating sites give you fair warning about this.  Below is the web page on POF when I wrote a message to a woman.  The site tells you "...women READ your profile BEFORE they open your email..." and "...if your profile description is blank or super short you are 9 times more likely to get "unread deleted."  In other words, your message is instantly deleted.

I got you covered.  Below are 5 steps to create a good dating profile.  Every section of your profile is essential so don't rush through creating it, and if you have one up already, it may be time to update it after reading the information below.

Your username is one of the first things women see.  When women search profiles your username is front and center:

Or maybe you sent a message to a woman.  She'll check her inbox and see your username right next to your photo:

You don't want to type random letters and numbers nor do you want to use something confusing.  A good username shows women you're worth getting to know.

Choose a hobby, passion, or something witty as a basis for your username.  If you're smart, playful, or active for example, use one of those words in your username.

Your username may not flood your inbox, but a bad one will be the end of any chances for success.

Dating profile headlines are vanishing, but a few dating sites still use them; POF for example.  However, don't think a headline isn't important; it is.

One study found a great headline causes women to pause which exposes them longer to your photo.  The study found this delay forces women to view your photo longer than they usually would which makes you more attractive. 

You want your headline to be something positive, light and fun like this:

Unfortunately, most men choose to use a boring, lame, lazy headline like this:

Put some effort into your headline.  Take a pen an paper, or use a word document, and jot down hobbies you enjoy, foods, drinks, or a guilty pleasure.  Choose one as your headline.  Easy.

If you want to create a good dating profile, you need to use good photos.  You should have at least five pictures which show you doing things you enjoy to give a little insight into your life.

What are good profile photos you ask?  If you like to hike, add a picture of yourself on a trail.  Are you a good cook?  Perfect, add a photo of yourself in the kitchen.  Do you participate in weekend sports?  Great, add a picture of yourself doing this.

Stay away from selfies; especially shirtless selfies.  Anything is better than a selfie.  Zoosk found guys who use selfies receive nearly 10% fewer messages from women.

OkCupid found "people whose photos portrayed them doing something interesting were more likely to receive messages that led to a real conversation."

Show yourself having fun.  Anything is fair game; singing karaoke, kayaking, playing at a park with your dog, jumping off a cliff, working around the house, dressed up for an important event, attending a street fair, traveling on an exotic beach.  You get the idea.

Be sure to check my blog post where I gave photo tips; How To Take Good Dating Profile Photos For Men.

Most dating sites have you fill out questions about yourself;

• Are you religious?
• Do you want children?
• Do you smoke?
• What's your education level?

These are a few examples of the questions dating sites present to you.  Below is an example of this on Match.com

Whatever dating site you're on, be sure to answer this section entirely.  Every question impacts a woman's choice to contact you.  Sure, some matter more than others, but women read each answer ensuring you're a match with them.

As an example, I share on my POF profile I'm not religious and started a conversation with one woman who read my profile and asked me this:

It's important to answer each question honestly and accurately so you'll be better matched up with potential partners.  Lastly, dating sites use your answers to match you up with women as well.

You'll receive emails, such as your daily matches, with women your dating site has selected based on your answers.  The bonus is your dating site will send your profile to women as their daily match as well.  So, filling this section of your profile allows your dating site to expose you to more potential matches.

The last step to create a good dating profile is a well-written text section.  The section where you write about yourself is the most critical section of your dating profile.

Match.com found nearly 70% of women will contact you based on this section of your profile alone.  Why?  Because your words will show women how serious you are about looking for a partner.

A well crafted, funny, informative, witty and yet serious "About me" section can have a significant impact on your success.  Take some time when doing thing section.  Don't just write "Just ask" or "I'll get back to this later" as so many other men do.

Choose a few of your passions or hobbies and write about them.  Simple!  Describe why you like them and how they make you feel as I do here when I share I enjoy cooking:

Do you see how much better that description is than writing "I enjoy cooking" on my profile?  Take the time to share a little about your passions, and it will go a long way to impress women.

10 Things To Never Write On Your Dating Profile

The written section profile of your dating profile is critical to your success.  You don't want to scare women away by making a blunder in this section.  So what are things you should never write on your dating profile?  The list is long but I want to share 10 of the top offenders made by guys.

If you're new to online dating or a seasoned veteran, if you're seeing less than stellar results or just want to know if you're doing it "right", be sure to check your dating profile against this list of 10 things you should never write on your dating profile and make changes to fix your profile if needed.

1.  Don't show a lack of effort.

The effort you put into the written section of your dating profile shows women how much effort you'll put into a relationship.  If you're written section is brief like the photo below, very few women will contact you because it shows you're not serious about meeting someone or are just plain lazy.

Do this instead:  Sit down and create a dating profile where you share your passions, interests, and hobbies.  All you have to do is choose 3 or 4 things that you enjoy doing and write about them on your profile. Simple.

2.  Don't make women do the work.

Countless men write "just ask" on their profile expecting women to read their profile and contact them just like this guy:

Talk about lazy.  Don't expect women to contact you if your profile basically tells them they need to ask you questions.  You're the man and should be pursuing the women; it's not the other way around.

Do this instead:  Put some effort into your dating profile and assume women are going to contact you.  "Just ask" is meaningless because if women want to contact you and ask a question, they will.  There's no need to tell them to ask you.

3.  Don't list what you don't like.

This is your opportunity to show your strengths, passions, and interests.  You know, share what makes you happy. You should never share your "dislikes" which this guy does:

Sharing what you "dislike" brings a negative energy to your dating profile.  I assure you women aren't going to read your list of dislikes and think "Oh, this guy dislikes drama and so do I.  We're a match!" That will never happen so why bother including what you don't like?

The idea of your profile is to create a connection with the women reading it and it's best to ditch negative things you don't like on your dating profile.

Do this instead:  Share what you like. Duh. Seriously, write things you like to do and what makes you happy. Focusing on positive things will draw a lot more women to you over sharing what you "dislike."

4.  Don't talk about an ex-girlfriend.

Don't bring up your ex on dating profile especially if you're going to talk bad about her.  For example, look how this guy brought up how all of his exes's cheated on him:

Talk about a mood killer.  Bringing up the topic of "cheating" is a surefire way to crush any chances of success.  Might as well add how you "hate puppies, babies, and rainbows" on your profile as well.

Do this instead:  Don't talk about your ex-girlfriend, ex-wife or ex-anything.  Focus on what you're looking for and leave the past in the past.

5.  Don't attack women.

Here's a news flash, women are going to analyze everything on your profile.  They'll go through your dating profile with a fine-toothed comb so everything you share is fair game.  Don't go on the offensive attacking women over your beliefs.

A woman may read through your profile and see you have similar interests and then she sees a statement attacking women and its game over pal.  Never write on your dating profile any type of statement attacking someone who is reading it.

Do this instead:  If your beliefs are important (politics or religion, for example) go ahead and share them with pride.  Be an adult and share why they're important to you instead of throwing a tantrum because some women may not like what you have to say.

6.  Don't share what you aren't looking for.

Another thing you should never write on your dating profile is what you "aren't looking for."  Again, your profile should evoke a smile on women's faces as they read it.  Women want a man who knows what he wants and not what he doesn't want.

The guy above isn't on a dating site for drama.  Here's a newsflash; nobody joins a dating site looking for drama so there's no need to share that information.  It's a given.

Writing what you're "not looking for" is a waste of space and only makes you look angry, jaded and bitter.  So, don't list you aren't looking for:

• Drama
• Games
• Hookups
• Casual sex
• Overweight women
• Trump supporters
• Liberals

Do this instead:  Write what you are looking for.  A relationship?  A travel companion?  Love?  Happiness?  All better topics than "avoiding drama."

7.  Don't lecture women.

Women don't want to be talked down to on your dating profile.  There's no need to tell women something you think they don't know.  Women are smarter than you; deal with it.  Don't patronize women or be condescending to them on your dating profile.  You'll show women you're true colors; you're a jerk.

Do this instead:  Share what you're looking for in a partner in an upbeat positive fashion.

8.  Don't give women reason's not to choose you.

Another blunder men make is sharing reasons "not" to choose them like the guy below.  He shares how Church is important to him and tells women if Church isn't important to them (the reader) then they won't be a good match.  Thanks, Captain Obvious.  Like this guy, never write on your dating profile why a woman won't be a "good match" with you.

If a woman doesn't want to date a guy because of something they see on his profile, they simply won't contact the guy.  There's no need to write that "we won't be a good match."  It's a given.

Do this instead:  Ditch anything telling women how you aren't a good match.  If Church is important to you like the guy above, sharing why it's important is a much better alternative to telling women you aren't a good match.

9.  Don't rant on your dating profile.

Online dating can be frustrating but don't let it agitate you to the point where you take to express your anger on your dating profile.

I just shake my head reading a profile like the one above.  Talk about bitter.  Your profile should be positive and nothing good will come from you "going off" on your dating profile.

Do this instead:  Take your frustrations out elsewhere; the gym or go outside and get some fresh air.  Lashing out at women on your dating profile isn't attractive.  Always keep your profile positive and upbeat.  You want women to smile when they read your profile.

10.  Don't write you're only "checking it out."

Don't write you joined a dating site because you want to "see what's out there" or are there "checking things out."  These type of statements show women you aren't serious and have no clue what you want.

Women don't want men who are wishy-washy and indecisive.  They want a guy who "takes charge" and saying you're just "checking it out" is not a confident way to start your profile.

Do this instead:  Own it!  You're on a dating site for one reason; to meet someone.  So start your profile with these words, "I'm here for a relationship" or step up and write what you're looking for.  Even if you're looking for something casual you'll do better if you say it from the outset.

10. Final Thoughts

A well-rounded dating profile is key to meeting women.  Do it right and the sky's the limit.  You will meet women; a lot of women.  However, all too often men make blunders like the ones above.

If you made any of these mistakes take them off right now.  You're aren't doing yourself any favors.  Just one of these types of mistakes is catastrophic to your chances of getting an email from a woman.

If you'd like more dating profile tips, visit my page 10 critical dating profile tips.

Thoughts? Share things you think you should never write on your dating profile below.

How important is being employed to women on a dating site?  Let’s just say when you don't have a job your chances of getting a date with a woman plummets.

A recent study by a leading online matchmaking site has done research and found the majority of women wouldn't date a guy who doesn't have a job.  No shocker there.

The important thing to realize is that based on this study, and others about online dating which I discuss below is that it’s critical you show you have a job on your dating profile.

Keep reading and I'll show you how to show a woman you're gainfully employed.

The dating site, It’s Just Lunch, conducted a survey of nearly 1,000 women and found 75% of women wouldn’t date a man who is unemployed.

Here are a few other findings from the site's survey:

• 75% of women wouldn’t date a man who is unemployed.
• However, 42% of the 75% said they “might” go on a date with a guy who doesn’t have a job, but probably wouldn’t want to date him long-term.
• 21% of the participants said they would definitely date an unemployed man.
• 33% of the women said no outright.

"Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don't already know," said Irene LaCota, spokesperson for It's Just Lunch in a press release. "This is the rare area, compared to other topics we've done surveys on, where women's old-fashioned beliefs about sex roles seem to apply."

In talking to the Huffington Post, women who were interviewed for the study said they were concerned that they might have to "support an unemployed man" and that they "didn’t want their own activities to be limited by someone else’s job status and potential financial limitations."

As far back as 2005, studies about online dating have found jobs are important to women. One study, What Makes You Click: An Empirical Analysis of Online Dating, found men with the following professions had the highest success rates on dating sites:

• Lawyers
• Military
• Firefighter
• Health Related Professions (Doctors)

Tinder recently had their own list of the top professions for men that got the most swipes from women. It's interesting to note that the professions in the study from 2005 made the list over 10 years later on Tinder. You can see the full list here: Top 10 Male Professions Swiped Right on Tinder by Women

Don't worry if your job isn't on these lists. What's important is that you have a job.

When looking for relationships, women want to know that you are employed. And when considering long-term, they want to know you can provide as well.

Clearly, having a job is important to single women.  It’s critical to show you have a job on your dating profile.

Women read your dating profile end to end.  And if a woman's looking for a relationship, it's in your best interest to show you are employed.

Some dating sites like Match.com allow you to choose a profession from a list of options.  Don't leave this blank if you are employed.

Other sites like OkCupid don't have an option to show you're employed. In this case, write about your career in your "self-summary" section.  In fact, whatever dating site you're one, be sure to include a few sentences about your job like the example below.

Please leave your thoughts about employment and how it impacts a guy's results below.