5 Great Coffee Meets Bagel Openers That Get Responses

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Examples of the best Coffee Meets Bagel openers to women include profile questions, asking for a pet peeve, and diving into a guilty pleasure. Approaches like these make your message stand out in a woman's inbox. 

This post shares 5 Coffee Meets Bagel openers that will help you boost response rates. I teach you when to use them and share examples of each icebreaker's effectiveness.

1. Focus on a woman's profile.
2. Ask for a guilty pleasure.
3. Ask for a pet peeve.
4. Ask about the upcoming weekend.
5. Compliment a photo and ask a question about it.

1. Focus on a woman's profile.

The best opener on Coffee Meets Bagel is an approach focusing on a woman's bio. Commenting on a woman's bio shows you took the time to get to know her beyond her photos.

Men typically take the easy way out by using icebreakers such as "hey," "hi," or "how are you." These messages are the last thing you want to use because they show laziness.

Women respond the most to questions or comments about their profiles. This is why I recommend a profile-related message above all other approaches.

Anything on a woman's profile is fair game for starting a conversation. Glance at her profile for anything worst to use in your icebreaker.

What if a woman doesn't offer anything in her prompts that can be used in an icebreaker? Look at the values, personality, and interests sections that show images women select to display on their profiles.

You can quickly glance through the three sections and find something to easily use in your opener. Below is an example where a woman shares she's a foodie in the Interests section of Coffee Meets Bagel.

You see above that the woman responds to my icebreaker and how engaged she is. It's always a good sign when a woman ends her message with a question.

I can't stress this enough - focusing on a woman's profile is the best way to start conversations on Coffee Meets Bagel. What if you can't think of an opener based on a woman's profile? Keep reading...

2. Ask for a guilty pleasure.

So, you look at a woman's profile, and nothing you see can start a conversation. What can you do? Thankfully, you have options.

One approach is asking a woman for one of her guilty pleasures. Do you have any guilty pleasures? You're likely to have a few, and the good news is that so are women

Asking a woman for a guilty pleasure is a creative approach to starting a conversation. It's a unique approach because men never ask that question.

You see above that Danielle responds and is very engaged in her response. The key to this icebreaker, and all openers, is sharing something about yourself regarding the question you ask a woman.

Avoid keeping your message one-sided - share a guilty pleasure or two in your opener. Women are more likely to respond to your message if you include things about yourself.

3. Ask for a pet peeve.

One of my favorite Coffee Meets Bagel openers is asking a woman to share one of her pet peeves. A pet peeve is "something that a particular person finds especially annoying," and everyone has at least one.

I get great results asking women for a pet peeve. Below is an example where I share a few of my pet peeves. 

When asking a woman for a pet peeve, share one of yours. Keep your pet peeve light and friendly - don't rant about anything.

If your pet peeve is negative, you'll scare women away. You'll connect with more women by mentioning a relatable light pet peeve.

Here are a few examples of pet peeves that work:

• People who leave time on the microwave at the office.
• That annoying strip of dirt after sweeping into a dustpan.
• The sound of Styrofoam rubbing against Styrofoam.

Here are examples of pet peeves that should be avoided because they're somewhat negative:

• Children crying — or worse, screaming — in public places.
• People who don't wash their hands after using the bathroom — straight up gross!
• Running out of toilet paper when you need it the most.

4. Ask about the upcoming weekend

A great icebreaker is asking a woman her plans for the upcoming weekend. Obviously, you want to use this message towards the end of the week or Saturday morning at the latest. 

Digging into a woman's weekend plans is a great way to discover her interests. I highly recommend using this approach when a woman offers nothing about herself in her bio.

Hopefully, the woman shares a bunch of her favorite activities. This opens up the conversation allowing you to ask a question or two about whatever answer she gives.

As with other openers on this list, share something about yourself regarding your question. Meaning including your plans for the upcoming weekend.

The message above shows its effectiveness at getting a response. Cindy not only shares her weekend plans but asks for my favorite sushi spot, which shows she's engaged in the conversation.

Cindy's question about sushi shows the importance of sharing your plans for the weekend. I wrote that I was grabbing sushi, and she mentioned it in her response.

A good tip is to glance at the woman's profile and look for clues to her interests. Then, write that you plan to do one of her interests in your message.

For example, maybe you see a woman sharing photos of herself at the beach and hanging out with her girlfriends. Write how you plan to go to the beach and grab drinks with your friends on the weekend.

Writing about shared interests is a sneaky way to create similarity. While most guys write, "we have common interests," you're showing it in your opener.

5. Compliment a photo and ask a question about it.

Commenting on a photo is another good approach for starting a conversation with women on Coffee Meets Bagel. There are a few points you must understand before using this approach.

When focusing on photos, the best way to get a response to your message is by doing two things:

1) Compliment the photo. This is a great way to boost the likelihood of a response. Your compliment should focus on something in the picture beside a woman's appearance.

For example, compliment the view if a woman is standing in front of mountains. Maybe the woman is vacationing at the beach - compliment the incredible background.

2) Asking a question about the picture. This is easy; ask about something in the picture. Your question can be about the locationn of the picture.

When it comes to compliments, never compliment a woman's looks. Ever! Women are bombarded with messages from men telling them how attractive they are.

Complimenting something about the picture sets you apart from the mass of men who focus on a woman's appearance. Below is an example of a message complimenting a woman's picture.

Final Thoughts

It's easy to start conversations with women on Coffee Meets Bagel. The key is developing a strategy for your approaches.

There's no "one all" message that works with all women. This post's goal is to show effective Coffee Meets Bagel openers you can use to help meet women on the app.

For more Coffee Meets Bagel openers, profile help, and photo tips, visit my page, Coffee Meets Bagel tips and tricks.