5 Coffee Meets Bagel Conversation Starters That Get Responses From Women
Good Coffee Meets Bagel conversation starters for women include asking profile questions, compliments, and clever questions showing genuine curiosity. Approaches like these help your icebreaker stand out in a woman's inbox.
It's no secret most men get a low number of responses to their icebreakers. The reason for low responses is bad opening messages. The funny thing is it's easy to start conversations with women on Coffee Meets Bagel.
Here are 5 great Coffee Meets Bagel conversation starters that are easy to learn. Use the approaches below as a template for your icebreakers.
1. Ask a question based on the woman's profile.
The best way to start conversations with a woman on Coffee Meets Bagel is by asking a question about something on her profile. This approach is effective because you show a curiosity beyond photos; women appreciate that.
Most guys take the easy approach and write "hello" or "How are you today?" Messages like these are terrible and show zero effort. If a woman takes the time to write about herself, it's best to comment on her bio.
Read through the woman's profile and look for things you have in common. Anything a woman writes in her bio is fair game for your icebreaker. Traveling, cooking, farmer's markets, music, the beach, hiking, etc., are topics that are easy to use for starting a conversation.
I typically look for activities or hobbies I enjoy then come up with a question about that topic. It's simple, and it works. For example, the woman below shares she enjoys wine in her bio, so I use it to break the ice.
Asking questions about things you have in common with women is an effective approach for your icebreaker.
The key to a response is sharing your answer to whatever question you ask. For example, if you ask a woman what her favorite things to do on the weekend are, share your favorite things in your message. The message above shows how I share my favorite wine after asking the woman hers.
Lastly, you must have a well-written bio. The first thing women do is look at your dating profile after reading your message. If it shows a lack of effort, a huge percentage of women will not respond.
Don't underestimate your profile's importance on your response rates from women. Check out my blog post for profile tips that can help, What Is A Good Dating Profile Example For Men.
2. Compliment something in the woman's profile.
An effective approach for your icebreaker is complimenting a woman for something in her profile. You can compliment anything; a photo or something in the written section. It's important to ask a question, as well - remember, show curiosity in your opening message.
Stay away from physical compliments. A huge number of men compliment a woman's looks, saying things such as "You're beautiful," "sexy," or "gorgeous." These are terrible icebreakers because they show you only value a woman's looks.
Instead, if you see a woman with a nice view behind her, compliment the photo. Be sure to ask a question about the photo as well, such as where it was taken.
If you see a woman finished a Spartan Race, compliment her on it and ask which one she finished. Maybe you see a woman take a picture on the beach somewhere. Tell her it's a great picture and ask what beach she's at.
You're not limited to photos. If you see a woman likes a certain movie or musician, compliment her taste. A good approach is "I like your style," followed by whatever it is that caught your eye.
Below is an example. The woman shares she's active in her bio, so I simply say, "I like that you are active." It's a great compliment. Note how I ask a question of what activities she enjoys then share mine.
Compliments work great on Coffee Meets Bagel - It's as simple as saying, "I like that you.." followed by something that catches your eye in her bio.
3. Ask a "personality" question.
One of my favorite ways to start a conversation on Coffee Meets Bagel is by saying, "Quick personality question," followed by a question. The question should be light and fun. As with any question, I recommend sharing your answer.
You can write, "Quick personality question, pineapple on pizza? Yes or no?" Then write your answer to the question. Another example would be, "Quick personality question, Friends or Seinfeld?" Again, write the show you prefer.
Asking a personality question is a great way to break the ice. The nature of the questions I ask is always lighthearted.
A unique approach in your icebreaker is asking a personality question - Be sure to keep it light and fun.
4. Ask a woman her useless talent or skill.
A great way to break the ice is by asking a woman to share her useless talent. It's a quirky approach for sure, but it works.
We all have something we're good at that's not very useful. What better way to connect with a woman than diving into both of your useless talents.
Remember, always share your answer to whatever question you ask a woman in your icebreaker. So, share your useless talent when asking a woman hers. Keep your answer light and fun.
A good icebreaker on Coffee Meets Bagel is asking a woman a useless talent.
5. Ask a woman to share something cool about herself that's not in her bio.
One of my favorite coffee meets bagel conversation starters is asking a woman something cool she doesn't share in her dating profile. I find this approach gets a high response rate.
The key to this message is its simplicity. All you're doing is asking for something above and beyond what's in the woman's profile. You want to know a little more about her, which is a great first impression.
This icebreaker allows the woman to share something unique, plus, it allows you to shine with your answer. It's important to share something about yourself in this icebreaker. You can share something you may find embarrassing if found on your profile, as I do in the example below.
A good tip for coffee meets bagel is sharing your answer to any question you ask a woman.