How I Revised A Guy's Dating Profile On OkCupid - And Made It Better!
Are women ignoring you because of your profile? Check out this example of a dating profile I found on OkCupid where I gave it a makeover. I improved the profile and saw blistering results.
I only focused on the self-summary of the OkCupid profile. I never fill out the other sections on OkCupid because they aren't needed.
Whatever dating site you're on, put some time and energy into your self-summary. The rest is just fluff. If you can't hook women at the beginning of your bio, they won't read the rest.
The profile I chose for a makeover is Ben's. I took Ben's profile and broke it apart, revamped it, posted it, and you won't believe the impact my changes had.
Below is his self-summary section which you should read so that we can dissect it after:
Example of a poorly written self-summary.
What are the problems with Ben's bio?
Ben's self-summary on OkCupid is a quick read which is never a good sign; especially on OkCupid because the site gives you a ton of space to write about yourself.
Ben put some effort into his bio, but it's not good. It doesn't stand out nor does it pop.
If you want to grab a woman's attention, your dating profile needs depth, and it must share things that highlight you are unique. Unfortunately for Ben, his bio is boring. Here's what's wrong with his OkCupid self-summary.
- Ben doesn't introduce himself at the beginning of his bio. Always introduce yourself on your bio because it creates a connection with the woman reading it.
Yes, Ben's name is at the top of the bio, but not all women see that so it's best to start your bio with your name. - Ben describes himself as "quick-witted," yet he doesn't show it in his bio. A common problem for men is saying how funny they are while offering no proof in their bio. Ben is guilty of this common blunder.
- Ben's bio is very generic; it's at a very high level and offers no details. Everyone likes hiking, restaurants, Netflix, and working out.
Ben needs to paint a better picture of these things with more precise examples. - Ben is vague in what he's looking for; fun times and adventure is meaningless. It's better to show you're fun.
Ben may very well be a nice guy, but his profile comes across as very boring and vanilla. Women don't react to vanilla, so let's give his profile a makeover.
How to give your dating profile a makeover
Now we know what's wrong with Ben's bio, so let's give it a complete makeover. We're going to take the same basic information in his self-summary above and rewrite it.
The first thing we do is extract the key points from Ben's profile; these are his interests and hobbies he shares. The information we gather will be the foundations for his revised dating profile example.
We can dissect his bio and see the following about Ben:
- He is adventurous because he's looking for "adventure."
- He keeps fit, is active, and plays sports.
- Enjoys the outdoors; hiking and the beach.
- Likes nice restaurants, so clearly he enjoys eating out.
- Is a fan of Netflix.
- He's looking for fun.
Not much to work with here, but we can make do with it. We're going to take these topics and add details; inserting depth to make Ben's bio stronger. You must show depth in your bio if you want to get a woman's attention.
To fully flesh this profile out, I'm going to make some assumptions because Ben doesn't share specifics. It's OK to make assumptions for the sake of this dating profile example since I'm creating a bio from scratch.
If I were to talk to Ben directly, I'd ask him questions regarding what we just extracted. For example, Ben used the word adventure. I would ask him, "What type of adventures are you looking for" or "What are some adventurous things you've recently done?"
Lastly, check your use of the word "fun." Fun is subjective and can mean "sex" with some women. Don't use the word fun without sharing what you think is fun.
Ben's Revised Dating Profile Example on OkCupid
I took all of Ben's information, sorted it out, and rewrote his self-summary. I posted it in San Diego. As you read the bio, pay attention to how much more energy, humor, and information is in it.
Here's an example of what a revamped dating profile looks like:
Example of a revamped dating profile on OkCupid.
Can you see how superior the revised version is over the original? It's more appealing and offers much more information about Ben.
The key question is, how will women react to this profile. Let's take a look.
Women's Reaction To Revised Dating Profile
Below are a few messages I received after the profile makeover. You see several women complimented the bio at a higher level.
The key takeaway is we don't know precisely what these women liked, but the effort we put into the bio shows the positive results; women responded.
Women react positively to a great dating profile.
A profile with depth gets results like this.
A bio which shows effort gets women excited at messaging you.
This is what you want; women starting conversations because of your profile.
Women Commenting on Specific Topics in a Bio
A fully crafted profile with several topics increases the chances women react positively to something they see. You never know what will grab a woman's attention, which is why it's critical to add as much depth as you can. In these examples, women focus on specific topics I mentioned.
Ben wrote how he enjoyed Netflix, but I expanded on it. I included specific shows that are popular right now, and you see the impact it had on the woman below; conversation started!
Expand on what you're watching when you mention Netflix.
In this example, the women also mentioned my Netflix comment, but also liked how I expanded on Ben's original comment of "nice restaurants." The depth I added had an impact, as you can see the woman's reaction below.
You never know what grabs a woman's attention, so expand on all your interests.
Lastly, this woman commented on a place in San Diego that holds concerts which I mentioned in my bio. I wrote, "concerts at Humphrey's" in the bio and you see below it prompted a message from the woman below.
You never know what will grab a woman's attention on your bio, so add as much information as possible.
Woman commenting on something specific
While some women comment on specifics in a profile, most start conversations like the ones below. These messages are perfectly acceptable because your goal is simple; write a strong self-summary.
A great self-summary gets women to swipe right, like your profile, increases the chance they respond to your messages, and send you messages first like these:
After all was said and done, this is what Ben's inbox looked like after a few days. You see the impact of some tweaks can do on a man's profile. Imagine an inbox like this:
Final Thoughts
The goal of this revised dating profile example is showing you how you can take an average run-of-the-mill bio and give it a makeover. You see the positive results due to my changes to Ben's bio.
There wasn't a whole lot to work with on Ben's profile. Don't think this was a fluke; most men write less than Ben.
Ideally, you want to add more passions and interests, but I only had so much to work with so assumptions where necessary. You see with my revised dating profile example; it's the little details that make a difference.
Keep it Ninja!