What Are The Best Facebook Dating Conversation Starters?

5 Of The Best Facebook Dating Conversation Starters

The best conversation starters for Facebook Dating include commenting on a woman's profile, asking for a guilty pleasure, and using the phrase "quick personality question," to name a few.

This post shares 5 of the best Facebook Dating conversation starters. You will see examples showing the effectiveness of each approach. 

One critical point - before messaging women, check your profile for mistakes. If your profile shows a lack of effort, red flags, or bad photos, women are less likely to respond to messages. 

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1. Ask a question about the woman's profile.

The best way to start a conversation with a woman on Facebook Dating is showing curiosity about something in her bio. Anything a woman shares about herself is fair game for your icebreaker.

If a woman enjoys hiking, ask about her favorite local trail. Maybe the woman loves traveling. Ask if she's planning a trip or ask about a recent vacation.

Focusing on a woman's profile shows effort. Most guys choose to comment on photos, so your message stands out when you ask about something in her bio.

Also, whenever you ask a woman about something in her bio, share something about yourself. For example, if you ask a woman about her favorite recipe in the kitchen, share yours.

The reason you share something about yourself is because it shows you have similar interests. Hinge found, "the best way to get a response is to ask a direct question about your match's profile while sharing your interests."

Below is a part of Laura's Facebook profile. She shares several interests, but I focus on whiskey. 

You see below that I use whiskey in my icebreaker. My opening message below is simple, I ask what type of whiskey Laura enjoys and share the whiskeys I like. 

The message is simple yet effective. Pay attention to two things in my message above:

1. I start my message with a compliment, "I like your style." A compliment is a great way to make a first impression - stay away from physical compliments. 
2. After asking Laura a question about her favorite whiskey, I share mine. Sharing something about yourself shows the woman you have a common interest. 

2. Ask a woman for one of her guilty pleasures. 

Everyone has a guilty pleasure. A guilty pleasure is something you like despite feeling guilty for enjoying it.

A great way to start conversations on Facebook Dating is asking a woman one of her guilty pleasures. It's a creative opener that works well. 

It's critical to share one of your guilty pleasures in your icebreaker. Keep it light and fun. Women are more likely to respond if you share something cool about yourself.

3. Ask her favorite thing to do on weekends. 

Another great way to start conversations on Facebook Dating is asking a woman what she enjoys doing on weekends. I recommend using this approach if the woman doesn't write much about herself.

This is a unique opener because so few men use the approach. The beauty of this icebreaker is it "peels the onion" and allows you to find other things you can talk about with women.

The key to this question is sharing things you enjoy doing on the weekends. Women will look for things you have in common with them.
 
Include things women want to do in your answer - wine tasting, concerts, outdoor activities, drinks, etc. Avoid listing things women are less likely to do in their free time. Videogames or extreme sports are examples.

Below is an example of this fantastic icebreaker. Note how I share things I enjoy. 

4. Ask the woman a funny personality question.

You can start a conversation on Facebook Dating by asking a woman a personality question. The beauty of this message is its simplicity.

You want to start your messages with "Quick personality question," then ask something light. Show a little curiosity and insert a little humor (if possible).

Here are a few suggestions to give you ideas. Start your message with, "Quick personality question," then ask something similar to these:

• Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Prime? Which is your go-to way to binge shows?
• Sushi, tacos, or pizza? Which is your favorite?
• Hug, handshake, or high-five? How do you greet a guy on a first date?

Below is an example of the message. Note how I share something about myself after asking Margie her choice in drinks.

Sharing something about yourself ensures the message is not one-sided. It "feels" more genuine and has a conversational tone.

The funny thing is, the question may not technically be a personality question. The words "personality question" give you the freedom to ask anything.

So don't think you must ask an actual personality question. Anything is fair game for this approach.

5. Ask for the highlight of her weekend. 

A tried and true staple for starting conversations with women is asking about their weekends. I love asking women what the highlight of the weekend is. 

Here's the template for the message, "Hi (woman's name), what's the highlight of your weekend? I (XYZ)." 

The "XYZ" above can represent either something fun you did or a small list of things. Try to keep things cool and fun.

One thing I like doing is adding a cocky line at the start of the message, "Hi (woman's name), besides my message, what's the highlight of your weekend?" You see the message in action below.

Obviously, this message works best on the weekend. But it's also effective at the end of a workweek. 

If you want to message a woman on a Friday night, change the message to this, "Hi (woman's name), what's the highlight of your week? I (XYZ)." 

A quick tweak to the message shows its flexibility. This icebreaker is one of my favorites because it's so effective at getting a response.