5 Great Facebook Dating Openers That Are Irresistible To Women

What are good Facebook Dating openers for men?

The best Facebook Dating openers women respond to show curiosity, effort, and humor. Most guys strike out because they use boring, bland icebreakers that show little effort. 

This post shares 5 Facebook Dating openers that work. If you're struggling to get responses from women, following the tips below will help you get better results. 

1. Comment on a woman's profile.
2. Compliment a woman's photo, then ask about it.
3. Ask the woman to share a guilty pleasure.
4. Ask for the highlight of the woman's weekend.
5. Ask a woman to share something cool about herself.

Do THIS before messaging women!

Before sending an icebreaker to a woman, it's a good idea to check your profile and ensure it's good. Women look at everything on your Facebook Dating profile, including:

• Photos - You must have a good mix of photos showcasing your lifestyle. Also, be sure to smile and look directly at the camera.
• Bio - Share interesting things about yourself. Include hobbies, passions, and what you want in a partner. Women want to see an effort in this section.
• Prompts - Your prompts balance out your profile. These 
• Grammar mistakes - Check your bio and prompts for spelling errors - yes, this is important to women.
• Be positive - Avoid writing anything negative in this section. Writing what you're not looking for or how you're "not here for drama" adds zero benefits. 

If your profile has any red flags or shows a lack of effort, you will do poorly on Facebook Dating regardless of how good your icebreaker is.  

I created a blog post sharing Facebook Dating tips that can help you revise your profile. You can find it here, 7 Facebook Dating Hacks That Help Guys Get Better Results.

1. Comment on a woman's profile.

The best way to start a conversation on Facebook Dating is by mentioning something in a woman's profile. Anything a woman shares about herself is fair game for your opening message.

Here are tips for starting a conversation with a woman on Facebook Dating. I look at the following sections when browsing a woman's profile.

• Bio - Read the woman's bio looking for common interests. Mention anything you have in common in your icebreaker.
• Prompts - The prompt section allows women to include things beyond their bio. Comment on anything you find interesting in her prompt.
• Interests - Another great section where you can look for similar interests. These are topics on a woman's profile - choose one and ask a woman about it. 
• Basics/Lifestyle/Work and Education - Look for women who went to the same college and mention that in your opener. I also look for "social drinkers" and ask what their favorite drink is as happy hour. 

The key to starting a conversation is sharing something about yourself in your icebreaker. So, when asking a woman for her favorite hike, share yours. Maybe she shares her love of sushi - ask her favorite spot, then share yours.

Below is an example where Aimee shares she's a solo adventurer in her bio. I ask if she's gone on any recent adventures, then share something about myself. You can use any topic in a woman's bio to start a conversation.

Sharing something about yourself shows the woman you have common interests. Most guys either send one-sided messages ("what type of wine do you like") or resort to saying, "We have a lot in common." 

You must not be lazy in your openers. Showing effort makes your opener stand out.

Below is an example of how I start a conversation focusing on a woman's basics section. I use her job in my icebreaker. 

You see above how the woman responds to my message. All I care about is getting a response - from there, I can steer the conversation to where I want it to go. 

Scan a woman's profile and look for something you can use to start a conversation. You'll always do better focusing on a woman's profile instead of using a generic approach. 

2. Compliment a woman's photo, then ask about it.

One of the best Facebook Dating openers is showing curiosity about a woman's photo. This is a great approach when women put zero effort into their bio.

The best way to start this approach is by complimenting something about the photo. DO NOT compliment a woman's looks - ever.

Most men resort to telling a woman she's gorgeous. You're unlikely to get a response telling a woman she's pretty because it's a commonly used approach.

Instead, compliment the photo and ask a question about it. Below is an example of the right way to compliment a picture. 

3. Ask the woman to share a guilty pleasure.

A good way to start a conversation on Facebook Dating is by asking a woman for one of her guilty pleasures. I use this approach when I can't find anything worth mentioning on a woman's profile or photos.

Everyone has a guilty pleasure, but few women share them on their profiles. This approach is effective because women aren't expecting men to ask for one.

Make sure you share one of your guilty pleasures in the message. Remember, it's a good idea to share something about yourself regarding whatever question you ask a woman.

4. Ask for the highlight of the woman's weekend.

One of my favorite Facebook Dating openers is asking a woman for the highlight of her weekend. Use this on a Saturday or Sunday - ideally, late afternoon or evening.

Many men ask, "how's your weekend" which is very bland. I'm essentially asking the same question but differently - asking for a specific highlight makes the message stand out from the typical question about a woman's weekend.

When using this opener, share fun things you did on the weekend. Avoid how you worked or that you "didn't do anything." You must show you have something going on in your life.

Below is an example where I add the cocky line, "besides my message," which adds a little humor. You can remove it from your message if you're not comfortable saying it.

Note how engaged Mariela is in her response. She plays with me somewhat and dives into her weekend. The message does it's job starting a conversation with her.

Alternatively, you can ask a woman for the highlight of her week on a Thursday or Friday. This approach performs well, but expect to get a work-related answer.

5. Ask a woman to share something cool about herself.

Another good opening message on Facebook Dating is asking a woman to share something about herself beyond her profile. It's a clever way to get a woman to open up.

Again, just a reminder - share something cool about yourself in your icebreaker. It helps create more of a connection with the woman you're messaging.

You don't need to share something deep about yourself. Keeping your message light and friendly will increase women's likelihood of responding.

Below is an example of a message to a woman named Les. She finds humor in my message and responds - even complimenting me.

Final Thoughts

The best Facebook Dating openers are the ones that show effort, humor, curiosity, and a little creativity. Following the tips on this page will help develop your conversation skillset on the app.

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