10 Ways To Improve Your OkCupid Profile
You can easily fix your OkCupid profile in a few simple steps. If you're not getting responses to messages and are constantly overlooked, it's a good idea to revamp your profile.
This article is a great starting point to identify mistakes in your dating profile. The tips below have helped countless men improve their results. I break down why the mistakes are bad and what to do about them.
Here are the tips showing you how to fix your OkCupid profile.
- Pay attention to your profile traits.
- Don't just list facts about yourself.
- Stop telling women you can't see likes.
- Use a diverse photo portfolio.
- Put effort into your bio.
- Choose the right prompts.
- Add captions to your photos.
- Remove all negativity from your bio.
- Check your bio for grammar mistakes.
- Include what you're looking for on OkCupid.
1. Pay attention to your profile traits.
Don't overlook the profile traits section on OkCupid. Answering this section is critical. These traits are the most important to answer:
- Height.
- Relationship type - monogamous is the best choice.
- Kids - if you want kids, be sure to answer this question.
- Education level - women gravitate towards educated men.
- Connections - long-term dating is your ideal option.
Give your profile traits a quick check. All it takes is one wrong answer for a woman to swipe left or ignore your message.
Below is a prime example. The guy claims he wants a "meaningful relationship," yet his traits show "short-term dating" and "hookups." Mistakes like this will hurt your results.
Pay attention to your profile traits.
2. Don't just list facts about yourself.
A common blunder for men is listing nothing but facts in their profile. It's important to add depth to your bio on OkCupid. Take the example below.
Avoid listing facts about yourself - add depth.
The guy states he's lived in San Diego for 17 years. So what? There's no point in this statement.
He also lists many hobbies; the outdoors, country music, being active, golf, etc. The topics are fine; it's the execution that's the problem. He needs to add depth to the topics instead of just listing what he likes.
Take the phrase, "being active." Big deal. Tons of men in San Diego are active.
It's better to write something like this about an active lifestyle: "I live an active lifestyle. It can be a hike at Daly Ranch or kayaking in Mission Bay. The outdoors keeps me physically fit, mentally strong and brings me balance. Even a simple walk in the sun is enough to recharge my batteries."
Which do you think grabs a woman's attention more? My sentence about an active lifestyle or the words "being active?" The answer is obvious.
If you want to fix your profile on OkCupid, avoid listing facts. Instead, add some depth to your bio about your hobbies and interests.
3. Stop telling women you can't see likes.
Never write that you can't see likes in your profile. The phrase adds no benefit and is a cliché on OkCupid. Below is a common site for women on the app.
There's no benefit to writing that you can't see likes.
Yes, women also write that they can't see likes. That doesn't mean it's acceptable for you to include it in your bio.
Stop counting likes. Don't worry about how many women like you. If you're that worried about likes, pay the premium membership so you can see them.
Besides, you're the man. It's you who must pursue women. Not the other way around. So, if you like a woman, send her a message.
With a well-written bio, you don't have to worry about likes. Women will respond to your icebreakers and also send you messages first.
Women will message men with a great profile.
If you want to know why women write that they can't see likes, visit my blog post where I explain the reason. You can find it here, Why Do Women Write I Can’t See Likes On OkCupid?
4. Use a diverse photo portfolio.
It's no secret that great pictures are the key to success on OkCupid. Unfortunately, most guys mess this up by using awful photos.
It's a simple equation; bad photos = bad results. If you're not seeing results on OkCupid, the first step is looking at pictures.
You can easily fix your profile on OkCupid by adding new photos. Follow these simple for great photos:
- Smile in your pictures. Show teeth; smirks do not count.
- Look at the camera. Always maintain eye contact so women can see your eyes.
- Showcase your hobbies/interests. OkCupid found people who show themselves doing something interesting have a 40% higher chance of receiving more messages.
- Add a full-body picture so women can see you from head to toe. It looks like your hiding something if women cannot see your entire body.
- Clean yourself up. Be presentable in your pictures. Dress nicely, but don't overdo it. OkCupid found outfits that are more sophisticated than a simple collared shirt fared poorly.
5. Put effort into your bio.
Women want to see an effort in your profile. It's worth your time to sit down and write about yourself. You'll get better results with a well-written bio.
All too often, men put up profiles like the one below. What do you think a profile like this says to women reading it?
A lack of effort shows women how serious you are about meeting someone.
A profile like the one above tells women one thing - the guy is lazy or just doesn't care. He's not serious about meeting someone. I guarantee he doesn't do well on OkCupid.
You can fix your OkCupid profile by describing your hobbies, interests, or passions. Mention your career, upcoming travel adventures, goals, or achievements. Anything is fair game.
Put some effort into your bio. Remember #2 above, don't just list facts. Expand on things. For example, if you enjoy traveling, write what you like about traveling or share a funny story about your adventures.
6. Choose the right prompts.
Don't ignore your prompts. The purpose of these is in their name; they can "prompt" women to message you.
OkCupid allows you to choose from 50 prompts. Here are a few examples:
- Current goal...
- I like to make...
- A perfect day...
- My worst date...
To say you have options is an understatement. But which prompts should you choose? First, always select the "Self-summary" to write your bio. As for the rest, it's trickier.
Some prompts are harder to answer than others. Never answer a prompt with one or two words.
For example, if you choose, "I could probably beat you at..." don't write "Monopoly." It's not engaging.
This is how I would answer the prompt, "Just about any board game. I don't "play" board games... I WIN at board games." Look at how the woman below reacts to my prompt.
Humor, confidence, and challenging women make for a great prompt.
Prompts allow you to highlight your personality and express yourself. Insert some humor and confidence in your answers. Challenge women. Remember #5 above; put some effort into your bio.
Lastly, I recommend answering 3- 4 prompts. You don't have to answer all of the ones available.
7. Add captions to your photos.
OkCupid allows you to add captions to your photo. It's a great idea to add captions because they allow you to expand on your personality further. This means more chances to grab a woman's interest.
Smart marketers add captions to photos in magazines and in online ads. Why? Because they know people read them. Using captions gives an added boost to sales.
Captions are as effective on dating app photos as they are selling products online. Yet, most men don't use captions. That's a huge mistake. You'll get an advantage by captioning your pictures.
Lastly, another benefit is OkCupid shows you in OkCupid Discover when captioning pictures. This feature allows you to connect with women who share similar interests.
8. Remove all negativity from your bio.
A great profile highlights your strengths and showcases your personality. It shows you're a man who's worth meeting.
First impressions are critical, and nothing makes women swipe left faster than a profile with negative comments. Don't use your profile as a way to lecture women either.
Remove all negativity from your bio. 36% of women polled on the website Word Tips found negativity to be a turnoff. Here is an example:
Negative statements make a terrible first impression.
Avoid writing sentences like these in your profile:
- I'm not here for games or drama...
- If you aren't active, don't contact me...
- Swipe left if...
- I'm not attracted to BBWs...
The sentences above make a terrible first impression. No woman wants to date someone jaded or angry. The goal of your bio is to pique a woman's curiosity and show you're a catch - negativity does the exact opposite.
9. Check your bio for grammar mistakes.
Do yourself a favor and check your bio for grammar errors. I recommend using Grammarly to fix your OkCupid profile. It's free and worth using.
Spelling mistakes are catastrophic to your results on OkCupid. All it takes is one misspelled word to cause women to swipe left. OkCupid found over 75% of people say they're less likely to respond to someone who has spelling mistakes in their profile.
Spelling mistakes give clues about your education and intellect. It also shows you're lazy and don't care how you come across to women.
The website Word Tips polled over 1,000 people about grammar's importance on dating apps. 45% of women said they wouldn't be interested in someone who is "very physically attractive but used improper grammar or spelling."
Examples of bad grammar include the wrong use of "they're," "their," and "there." Another example is using the word "alot" instead of "a lot." Using the misspelled "alot" results in a decrease in responses by 12%.
It takes seconds to check your profile. Take a few minutes to check your bio for spelling mistakes - it's THAT important.
10. Include what you're looking for on OkCupid.
You must write what you're looking for in a woman. Don't make your bio all about you. Towards the end of your self-summary, add a few sentences about your ideal partner.
One study found that men who describe what they are looking for in a partner receive the best results. It doesn't have to be lengthy but does need to be realistic. Focus on several qualities, not just one.
Set the bar high. Describing the woman you're looking for shows you're an alpha male and not a beta who hopes a woman chooses you.
Use words and descriptions a woman will read and think, "He's describing me." Write as if you're talking to the woman directly.
Final Thoughts
In this post, I included tips to help you fix your profile. Use the list to identify mistakes and correct them.
A great profile is critical for success on OkCupid. You'll see better results once you follow the tips above.
Do you need message tips for OkCupid? Visit my post, 5 Of The Best OkCupid Conversation Starters.