How To Compliment A Girl On A Dating Site

Don’t know how to compliment a girl online? Choose at least 1 of the 7 things on this list to compliment women on, and your message will stand out. Why? The majority of men put little effort into their message.

Take this guy; most men compliment women on their looks.

First things first, stop telling women how "hot" they are in your messages. Stay away from physical compliments, especially with more attractive women. You’ll only lump yourself in with the masses (like the guy above) when you tell a woman she’s pretty.  I covered this in another blog post, Why Men Must Avoid Physical Compliments With Women On Dating Sites.

On the other hand, when you focus on something she writes about herself, it shows you're interested in her beyond her physical appearance.

Here are 7 things you can compliment women on in her dating profile. Commenting on any of the choices below shows a woman you took the time to read her profile. Women will notice because you’ve made more of an effort than 90% of the other guys giving you a HUGE advantage.

1.  Her Social Conscience

Anyone who volunteers their time (dog rescue, helping the elderly, big sister programs, etc..) is showing selflessness you should bring up in your message. When you recognize a woman's kindness to others, you're showing you see her at a level much deeper than every other guy who tells her she's "hot."

Tell her how better off your community is because of her kindness and giving nature.  Your message will stand out.

2.  Her Interests/Lifestyle Choices

As you read through a woman's interests (music, books, hobbies, movies, etc…), take note of things you have in common. You can certainly complement these common lifestyle choices you share. No false compliments here; it should be something you have in common.

Maybe she’s listed a book you’ve read. Compliment her taste and ask what she enjoyed about the book.  Be sure to share your thoughts to show you’ve read the book.

Here is a crucial point; you must share your feelings towards whatever interest you ask about.  If you comment on a movie, be sure to share how you felt about it. If you focus on a hobby she does, tell her what you enjoy about it.

Warning: Don't say "We have similar interests" in your message. It’s a meaningless comment most men write to women. Show you share the same interests by sharing specific details on whatever you comment on.

In the example below, I use a general compliment; "I like your style," then transition into an open-ended question asking the woman what her favorite show it. The result is she answers my icebreaker, and a conversation starts.

3.  Her Career

When a woman shares she loves her career, you can compliment her on how great it is to see someone so devoted to their craft. It doesn't matter what the job is; point out the fact she is passionate about it, which speaks volumes.

Compliment women who talk proudly about their job. Telling a woman you admire her work ethic is a great way to compliment her.

4.  Her Positive Energy

When a woman has a positive profile, tell her it's refreshing it is. You can say you feel good after reading it. It's as simple as saying how you love "her energy."

Point out how you see so many negative profiles where people say how "tired they are of games and drama." You can tell a woman it's a "breath of fresh air" to read a profile where someone has such positive energy finally.

The positive vibes coming through her profile is infectious, and she clearly has a good head on her shoulders.

5.  Her Sense Of Humor

A woman will appreciate a guy who gets her sense of humor. When you find a profile that makes you laugh, you should let her know how it put a smile on your face. When you compliment a woman on her sense of humor, be sure to tell her what you found funny.

Don't just say, "You have a great sense of humor." Point out what made you laugh. Women dig guys who actually "get" their sense of humor.

6.  Her Sense Of Adventure

When a woman shares her passion for adventure with details, tell her how energizing it is to see someone so full of life.

Note, this is also the one compliment you can reference a photo. For example, if a woman has a picture of herself skydiving, tell her how incredibly brave she is to jump out an airplane and ask her about the experience.

Another example is if she's a world traveler, compliment her on her sense of adventure. Ask her what she loved about her most recent journey and where her next adventure will take her.

7.  Her Talent

If a woman shares how she enjoys singing, playing an instrument, cooking, painting, or anything else that takes skill and talent, go ahead and compliment her on it. Not everyone can sing or paint, for example; I certainly can't. Can you?

Compliment on her amazing gift and ask her questions about what she loves about it. It takes intelligence to play an instrument, so recognizing someone for their "gifts" will show you have depth.

Final Thoughts

Some final notes; when you compliment a woman on anything, don't bring up your shortcomings. Discussing your weaknesses will only highlight why she shouldn't respond.

As an example, say you see a woman who went skydiving. You should compliment her on how adventurous she is, but DON'T tell how you're terrified of jumping out of an airplane, or it's something you could never do.

That negates you from the outset.  A lot of men make this mistake.  Be positive with your comments.

Whatever you compliment a woman on, be sure it's sincere. Women will know if you are giving them lip service with false compliments.

Lastly, the best way to start a conversation with women online is to share a little information about yourself regarding whatever you compliment them on.

If a woman shares she plays the piano, compliment her choice, and ask her who her favorite musician is while sharing you play guitar. Get it?

Small things like this make a difference between getting your message answered or ignored.



Leave any comments below.  Share your advice or tips on how to compliment a girl online. Would love to hear them.