How To Find A Casual Relationship With Women Online

Seeking a FWB (friend with benefits) online?  If you want to find a casual relationship on dating sites, it's harder to find than a traditional relationship but not impossible.

Millions of women are looking for a relationship on dating sites, but some women are looking for something casual; Match.com found 40% of women in the U.S. have dated more than one person at a time, and 55% have had a friends-with-benefits arrangement according to their eight annual singes in America survey.

So, you CAN find a casual relationship online, but maybe you don't know how.  Relax, I got you covered.

The first step you'll need to do is determine what type of casual relationship you want.  A casual relationship may mean just sex to you while it may mean more of an FWB relationship with someone else.

Maybe you want an occasional hookup with no strings and no emotional attachments, or perhaps you desire a relationship which is not exclusive, or maybe a FWB type situation where you hang out (go to a movie, dinner, hike, etc..) spending time out of the bedroom.

The key is to know what you're looking for.  Be honest with yourself when figuring it out because communication is vital with women, so it's best you figure out the type of relationship you want. Once you know what you want, you have two options:

1. Share what you're looking for on your dating profile or
2. Be honest in your messages with women.

You must be open with women from the outset.  A lot of guys fail here because they're afraid women will run for the hills.  True, some women are going to say "no thanks," but if you're honest, you'll find women who are on the same page. 

Never string women along because you're waiting for the right time to let them know you don't want a relationship or even worse, lie to get them to hang out with you.  The last thing you want is to trade emails with a woman who is under the impression you want a relationship then meet for a date and spring it on her you're looking for a FWB situation.  That's a total jerk move.  You've just wasted her time and yours.

You're going to have some explaining to do if you want to have a casual relationship.  As I said, it's best to be honest with women.  There are several reasons you may not want a relationship right now.  Common reasons include:

• You're focused on something that's taking most of your time (school, entrepreneurial endeavor, focus on career) so you don't have time for a relationship, but you still want companionship.  We all got needs right?
• You recently got out of a relationship and aren't ready to dive into something serious.
• You want to have fun right now and nothing more.
• You want to date multiple women for now.

Whatever the reason be ready to explain to women why you want a casual relationship.  You won't fare well if you say "I want a casual relationship" and leave it at that.

When seeking women online who want a casual relationship, you should look for keywords or phrases on their profile which are a telltale sign.  I see this type of phrase often on women's dating profiles:

Be warned; women who share they are seeking something casual get contacted a lot more than women who say they're looking for a relationship for obvious reasons.  It's critical you put some work into your dating profile and have good messages to start a conversation.  I covered a great way to start a conversation with women in this blog post; How To Write A Good First Message To A Girl On A Dating Site.

However, women like this aren't looking for a FWB:

It goes without saying if you're looking for something casual you would be wasting your time emailing the woman above.  Don't waste your time contacting women who explicitly say they aren't looking for what you are.

When you find a casual relationship there are a few things you should follow to ensure it's successful:

1. She's not your girlfriend so you should never be jealous in this type of relationship.
   
   
2. Treat your partner with respect.  If a woman asks you if you're seeing someone be honest.  Don't lie.  Ever.
   
   
3. Establish and maintain boundaries.  You aren't pursuing a relationship so iron out how often you'll spend time together and never bring them around your friends or other group events.  If they can't respect your boundaries, it's time to end the relationship.
   
   
4. Communication is key.  You don't want mixed signals or confusion so be open in your conversations.  Set the ground rules of your relationship and stick to them.  
   
   
5. Wear condoms.  Always.  It's a casual relationship, so protect yourself against STD's or having a kid. 

If you know what you want and are honest with women, you can find a casual relationship online.  Not all women are on dating sites looking for their soulmate so don't be afraid to let women know you're looking for something casual.  In the end, just honest with your intentions and have fun.