How To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend In 7 Steps

Breakups suck. We’ve all been there.

It doesn’t matter who dumps who, the reality is the relationship ended for a reason.

Don’t dwell on it or let it eat you inside. You need to face the reality; It’s over. Move on!

Easier said than done. You will eventually move on. There are ways to move on quickly.

Below are 8 tips for how to get over your ex girlfriend.

1. No Contact

Your first tip for how to get over your ex girlfriend is to sever all ties completely.

This can be the hardest part of a breakup. You need to cut all forms of contact so you can get over here quickly.

Social media, phone calls, instant messaging, emails, and everything else must stop immediately.

Delete her number from your phone. You don’t want to get drunk one night and call or text her.

Remove her from your Facebook friends list. No Facebook stalking either. In fact, I would recommend temporarily deleting your Facebook account for a few weeks after you breakup to avoid any temptation to look at her profile.

Remove all pictures of her from your phone.

For some reason, I like to keep all the photos of my ex. But I never look at any old pictures of her until I’m 100% over her. Do what I do; transfer the photos to your computer and put them in a directory you will not view until you are over her. You have to be strong enough to avoid any temptation of going through old photos and reminiscing.

If you don’t have that self-control zip the photos, store them on a flash drive, and hand them to a family member or friend and tell them to hold onto them until you are ready to take them back.

If you aren’t the sentimental type, go ahead and delete the photos.

2. Get Rid Of Everything That Reminds You of Her

Doing a “Spring Cleaning” of anything that reminds you of her is a key to how to get over your ex girlfriend.

Take any belongings, gifts, cards, pictures, clothes, etc.. and put them in a box in your attic or garage. You can even leave the boxed belongings with family or a friend until you are completely over her.

If you aren’t the sentimental type you can donate them or toss them completely.

If she has left personal belongings over at your place, out of respect, shoot her an email and let her know you have a few of her things and ask her what she wants you to do with them.

If the breakup was cordial, you can meet her and hand over her stuff and wish her a good luck and go on your way.

If it was bad, well you probably should just leave her stuff in a box in front of your door or ship it to her.

3. Avoid Your Hangout Spots

Stay away from the bars or restaurants you both hung out at as a couple.

Avoid them completely as you may run into her.

Are you emotionally equipped to see her out with another man at a spot that was once yours as a couple? Odds are you might be hurt seeing this so do yourself a favor and avoid these spots until you are completely healed from your relationship.

If you frequent places often enough you more than likely are on a first name basis with the employees as well.

You don’t want to get sucked into explaining why you two aren’t there together anymore. “Hey, I haven’t seen your girlfriend. How is she?” Do you really want to answer this question over and over with people you don’t really know? Probably not. Another reason to find another hangout spot.

I would suggest staying away completely until you have completely moved on.

4. Work on Yourself

You want to know how to get over your ex girlfriend? Focus on yourself!

Take this new found freedom to work on you.

You are free to do whatever the hell you want. Grab this opportunity and do just that.

Get back into shape. You’ll not only get physically fit but increase your confidence as well. Remember, the ladies love a guy who takes care of himself.

Explore other interests as well. Have you ever wanted to learn how to play guitar? Well now’s your chance. Want to learn how to surf? Go for it.

Want to find new adventures? Groupon is perfect to find things to do. When I went through a breakup I would do fun things like zip lining, bungee jumping, riding ATV’s, beer tasting, kayaking, and much more. There is always fun stuff you can find on Groupon so grab a buddy and get out there. It will help you keep your mind off your ex girlfriend.

Join Meetups. Meetup is also a great way to meet other people. This isn’t about joining Meetup to date. It’s about joining to get out there and be among other people who like doing similar things.

These are all great ways for how to get over your ex girlfriend.

5. Hang With Your Bro’s!

If you are like me, you probably spent less and less time with your friends while in your relationship.

Hey, it happens.

Your true friends will understand this as I’m sure they’ve gone through this as well.

Now’s your time to reconnect with your friends. Your close friends will be there for you.

It could as simple as getting together for a few beers at a pub to golfing or hiking to seeing a movie.

Your friends will also listen to you and have your back in times like these. Lean on them to help get you back on track.

6. No Jumping Into Another Relationship

Another tip for how to get over your ex girlfriend is to NOT dive back into the dating pool and start looking for another long term relationship.

This is the worst thing you can do.

It takes time to get over an ex girlfriend.

You are in not in the proper mindset to jump into the dating pool right after a breakup.

Don’t jump into dating again until you are over your ex.

7. Learn from Your Mistakes

Relationships end for a reason.

Get over the finger pointing and the “blame game” and sit down and think about what didn’t work.

How could you have handled things differently? What went wrong?

Write these things down. Commit them to memory so you don’t repeat them.

Another tip for how to get over your ex girlfriend is to learn from your mistakes and promise yourself to never make the same mistakes again.

Remember this:

Life is NOT short, life is LONG.

I hate it when people say “life is short” because it’s not. You have a long life ahead and you can learn from your mistakes so you don’t repeat them again.

8. Watch Swingers

Here’s a tip for know how to get over your ex girlfriend? Watch Swingers!

Swingers is required viewing for every man who’s going through a breakup.

Every time I go through a breakup, I dig through my DVD collection, dust it off and watch the movie. I always feel better about myself after watching it.

Below is a great scene from the film where Mike sits around depressed over his ex girlfriend and his buddy Rob cheers him up.

One thing Rob says that rings true about going through a breakup is; “You wake up every day and it hurts a little bit less, and then you wake up one day and it doesn’t hurt at all….”

I couldn’t of said it any better.

The pain you are feeling after a breakup will go away. I promise.

Every day gets easier.

You WILL move on.

You WILL be a better man.

Your next relationship WILL be stronger.

And there you have it, 7 simple tips for how to get over your ex girlfriend.

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