How To Make Yourself More Attractive: Show You Save Money!
Curious how to make yourself more attractive to women online? A recent study found men who are savers are more physically attractive to women than spenders.
Too many guys focus on spending money to impress women. One study "Blatant Benevolence and Conspicuous Consumption: When Romantic Motives Elicit Strategic Costly SignalsBut is this a good long term strategy?" found men who are motivated to find a mate are "especially likely to buy luxury goods to signal their wealth."
We all know the guys who buy the luxury cars, wear the nice clothes, and expensive watches to attract women. I know a guy who bought a woman diamond earrings for the first date. Talk about overkill.
Men who spend their money on nice things in hopes of attracting women are "consumers" of goods; not savers.
But what about the guys who don't spend their money in an attempt to impress women? What about guys who save their money?
A recent study examined how saving and spending habits influence initial attraction to women. The results will show you how to make yourself more attractive on your profile; show you're a saver.
Study Looks At Spending Habits And Attraction
The study, A Penny Saved is a Partner Earned: The Romantic Appeal of Savers, examined the saving and spending habits of people are more “relevant to romantic relationships than to other types of interpersonal relationships.”
For example, you don't plan your finances with your buddies, do you? No, of course not.
But in relationships, saving and spending habits are very important. In fact, the most common source of friction in romantic relationships has to do with finances.
The study theorized that savers may be viewed as "possessing high general self-control which could carry over to other parts of their life; eating, fitness, and time management for example."
So, savers could be perceived as having greater general self-control than spenders, and thus they may also be viewed as more attractive relationship partners than spenders.
Who Is More Attractive? Savers or Spenders?
282 adults were presented with opposite-sex dating profiles of which 35% were female.
The participants viewed a profile which was targeted with what they thought was a "randomly selected question." Obviously, it wasn’t a random question because it was part of the experiment.
The question was "How would you describe your feelings toward spending money?"
The profiles that were viewed randomly answered the question with one of nine conditions.
In four Saving conditions, the target responded:
- "I guess people would say I’m a big saver"
- "I love saving money"
- "I hate spending money"
- "I have a hard time getting myself to spend money"
In four Spending conditions, the target responded:
- "I guess people would say I'm a big spender"
- "I love spending money"
- "I hate saving money"
- "I have a hard time getting myself to save money"
In a ninth condition, the target did not describe his or her spending habits, instead stating "I'm not sure how I would describe my spending habits."
When the four saving conditions were averaged together and contrasted against the four spending conditions, the study found that savers were viewed as significantly more attractive than spenders suggesting that saving increases attractiveness, whereas spending decreases attractiveness.
Who Is More Exciting With Women, Savers or Spenders?
In another part of the study, women look at men's dating profiles and were asked to determine how exciting the men were. Women then indicated the extent to which they viewed the men as:
- Adventurous
- Careful
- Cautious
- Confident
- Exciting
- Fun
- Outgoing
- Practical
- Responsible
- Risk-taking
- Timid
The study found women viewed men who saved as less exciting but were still more attractive than spenders.
Save Your Cash to Impress The Ladies
The study proves how to make yourself more attractive to women on your dating site; show you are a saver. The study found saving signals "future financial viability and the possession of general self-control, and both contribute to the preference for savers over spenders."
The study concluded the "possession of general self-control" appears to be the primary reason why savers are preferred over spenders.
Who would have thought that saving your money makes you hotter to women? It makes sense when you think about it:
- Savers tend to have greater financial resources.
- Saving money shows self-control which is related to healthy eating and exercise habits, better relationship quality, and smooth "daily interactions" according to the study.
- Spending money can signal rash behaviors like cheating and hostility.
What this means to you is that you don't need to get a tightwad but you can point out how you are saving for things on your dating profile;
"A few weekends during the month you'll find me working around the house and you may find me at my second home; Home Depot. I take pride in being a homeowner." You aren't bragging here. You are simply showing that you own a home and work to keep it in good order.
Or if you don't own a home you can write "One of my goals in the near future is to purchase my first condo within the next two years." This shows you are saving towards your future. Women love to see a man who plans for his future.
Whatever you do, don't post pictures of what you own on your dating profile. That's a no-no.
You can add comments to your dating profile about saving for travel, a home, a family, retirement, a vacation home, etc.. Just do it in a way that is not bragging and more "matter of fact."
Lastly, the study found women may find you less exciting so be sure to show your adventurous side to counterbalance the saving. It will only increase your attractiveness online.
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