Should You Share You Have Kids In Your Dating Profile? Yes!
There's a right way and a wrong way to share you have kids in your dating profile. Keep your kids off your profile photos. Instead, write about your children in your bio.
Don't hide the fact you have children on dating apps and never be afraid of saying you're a father in your bio. If you have children, mention you're a dad in your profile, but do it the right way.
Some men lie about having children.
If you have kids, own it. Don't hide you have children. The last thing you want is meeting a woman then saying, "Oh, I have two kids." The woman will feel deceived and it's game over.
Unfortunately, a lot of men hide the fact they are dads. One survey by WhatsYourPrice.com found 32% of dads lie about having kids in their dating profiles.
The younger the men are, the more likely they lie about having kids. Fifty-one percent of fathers under the age of 30 admitted to lying about being dads, while 12 percent of fathers above the age of 50 lied. Brandon Wade, CEO of WhatsYourPrice.com, said men lie out "of a fear of rejection by a potential date."
There are women who won't date men with children, especially younger children. The younger the kid, the more likely you are involved with them time-wise. It's an issue for some women who want a guy with more freedom. Don't let that scare you.
A lot of women are open to meeting single fathers and understand what dating a single parent means. Don't be afraid of sharing that you have kids.
Don't use photos with your children in them.
I suggest staying away from using photos of your kids in your dating profile. Safety experts warn against kids in dating profile pictures as well.
According to Statistics Brain, 10% of sex offenders use a dating site to meet people. You don't know who is looking at your dating profile. Odds are a predator or two may stumble on your bio. You never know, so keeping your kids off your photos protects them.
Also, you may not realize how easy it is to find your true identity online. People tend to use the same photos on their social media as they do their dating profiles. So, say you use a photo of yourself with your kid on Match.com. Someone could easily download that photo, upload it to Google images, do a search, and find your social media using the kid photo.
Digital cameras can give the precise location your picture was taken. Commonly known as Geotagging, your phone's default settings are generally turned on to give the coordinates of where an image was taken. Check your phone's camera settings and turn it off if it's on.
With Geotaggin enabled, Claudiu Popa, the chairman and co-founder of Knowledge Flow Cybersafety Foundation says, "That means specific geographic coordinate systems that can take anyone with a GPS right to your doorstep. So it’s always a good idea to ensure that the camera and/or the websites you use filter out EXIF data, but it’s an even better idea not to include children in pictures intended to be viewed by the public..."
Lastly, some people include photos with kids but crop their kids' faces out or cover their faces with a blur or emoji's. If you do any of these, it's distracting and takes the focus away from you. Cropping photos looks like you're hiding something.
Kids have their own right to privacy, so keep them out of your photos. Do you want good tips for your profile pictures? Visit my page here, What Are Good Dating Profile Photo Tips For Men.
What is the best way to share you have children?
Depending on the app, you have two options for sharing you have kids. If you're on an app that has settings that allow you to show you have kids, fill in the "has kids" option. Below is an example from Eharmony.
One option is filling in your profile section where you select that you have children.
The best way to share that you have children is by including it in your written bio. Women read your profile. Yes, they don't just focus on photos like men.
All you need is a sentence or two about your kids. Zoosk found that talking about your kids prompts more messages from women.
Pay attention to how much you write about being a dad. Women want to know if you're hands-on or hands-off. Don't write how your kids are "my world" or list everything you do with them. You may inadvertently scare women off because they think you don't have time to date.
Also, avoid negative statements when writing about your children. Don't write, "Don't message me if you don't like kids" or how you're a "packaged deal." It as easy as writing at the beginning of your bio, "father of two." Simple!
Mention you're a father in conversations.
If you don't mention you're a father in your bio, you best bring it up during your conversation on the dating app. Don't wait until the first date to mention you have kids.
Women may be taken aback that they are learning you have kids after meeting you. They invested all this time and only learned of children when you meet? That's deceitful.
The woman may think, "what else is this guy hiding?" You get no second chances in online dating, and if you hide that you have kids, it may not sit well with women.
Final Thoughts
If your'e a single dad, it's important you share you have children. Don't hide you have kids.
Will women bypass you because you had kids? Of course, but don't let that scare you off. Many women are open to dating men with children, especially as you get older.
Don't lie about anything on your profile. Hiding you have children to a potential partner is the same as lying. It would be best if you were upfront about children from the beginning.
I recommend including it in your bio. If you choose not to share that you're a father in your bio, you should bring it up once you start a conversation with a woman.