How To Start Conversations on POF With Women
It's easy to create messages which get responses on Plentyoffish. If you want to know how to start conversations with women on POF, the key is to comment on something in their profile to show you're interested in them beyond their photos.
There are plenty of ways to do this, but OkCupid has found some useful phrases which help boost the chances of a woman replying. If you need a little help, keep reading, and I'll share with you how to start conversations on POF, so you can finally get responses to your messages.
Why you don't get responses on POF
The reason men don't get responses to messages is because of zero effort. Too many guys send boring, lazy, non-engaging opening messages like this:
You can't expect to do well on any dating site when you send messages such as "hello," "hey," or "how's your weekend?" I'm amazed men continue to put little effort and wonder why they aren't doing well on dating sites.
Also, you need to have a good dating profile. If a woman looks at your profile and doesn't send you a message, your profile needs work.
Here are a few tips to help you put up a good POF profile:
1. What Are Good Profile Tips For Men On Plentyoffish?
2. What Are Good Photos Tips On Plentyoffish For Men? 10 Proven Tips
3. How To Take Good Dating Profile Photos For Men
4. How To Create A Good Dating Site Username
5. 10 Online Dating Profile Headline Tips for Men
What are good conversation starters on POF
As I covered in a previous blog post about OkCupid, 3 Good Conversation Starters for Online Dating Messages To Women, you can use 3 phrases in your message which increase the likelihood of a response.
OkCupid analyzed over 500,000 emails and discovered 3 phrases got the most responses from women. The 3 phrases that got the most replies are:
- "You Mention"
- "Good Taste"
- "Noticed That"
The reason these phrases work with women is that they show you made an effort to read their profile. Funny how that works; reading women's profiles helps your chances for a response? Go figure!
How to get responses to messages on POF
It's easy to get replies to messages on Plentyoffish; read a woman's profile and create an open-ended message about something... anything that catches your eye. Don't ask something that can be answered with a "yes" or "no."
Women hand you conversations starters, gift wrapped, on their profiles. It's your job to choose something and ask them about it. Let me show you how to do it.
In this example, this woman shared a variety of interests on her profile, but I zeroed in on her use of the word "foodie."
I wrote this message using one of the phrases, "you mention":
"You mention you're a foodie. Does that mean you can cook too? Or more of a restaurant type of person?"
The end result? I got a response.
In this example, the women shared a lot about herself, and I focused on one of her interests, "Breweries."
I was able to whip out this message using the phrase "noticed that":
"I noticed that you enjoy breweries. Care to recommend one? Belching Beaver up in Vista is amazing. The patio area is great and the beer is divine."
The message shows I read her profile and I engage her by asking for a recommendation of a brewery while also sharing a favorite of mine. The result? I got a response:
Do these phrases help start conversations with women on POF? Yes! Do they ever:
Just show women you read their profile!
The three phrases above show how important it is to read a woman's profile. You don't necessarily have to use the three phrases, just ask questions about something in her profile.
This woman shares she likes doing "anything active" which you can see here:
In this example, I use the phrase "I see" which shows I read her profile:
"I see you like doing anything active. Are you more of a land loving hiker or a water person?"
The phrase "I see" is essentially the same thing as saying "I noticed that." I asked a question about something she shared on her profile, she's active, and what do you know? I got a response:
What about women who have an empty bio?
How do you start conversations with women on POF who have a blank profile? Easy, choose something in her settings or photo. In the example below, the woman wrote nothing about herself except "ask."
I focused on her "basics" section and zeroed in on her answer to Pets. I saw she had "Cat & Dog" as an answer and asked her a question about that.
The end result was that I got a response and was able to start a conversation with her.
Final Thoughts
Starting conversations with women on POF is easy. Read their profile and ask questions. It's not hard. The more you use this approach, the better you'll get at it.
When you comment on something on a woman's profile, your message stands out (which is a good thing) because it shows you're interested in her beyond photos. You took the time to read her profile and ask something about her.
Whatever you do, don't comment on a woman's looks. I share why it's a bad idea in another blog post, "Why Men Must Avoid Physical Compliments With Women On Dating Sites."
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