What "I Can't See Likes" means on OkCupid.
Women write, "I can't see likes" on OkCupid because of how the app works. Only paid members can see who likes their profile.
If you like a woman and she uses the free version of OkCupid, she will never see your like unless she likes your profile as well. That's the problem with OkCupid.
Let's dive into likes on OkCupid, why women write, "I can't see likes." I'll also share why you should NEVER send a "like" by itself, and the only approach you should use on OkCupid to get a woman's attention.
An all too common phrase on women's profiles on OkCupid.
What are likes on OkCupid?
Likes on OkCupid are a way you can signal interest in a woman. You can like a woman's profile in "DoubleTake" by swiping right on her bio (see below)
Swiping right on OkCupid likes a woman's profile.
When browsing women's profiles on OkCupid, you can send likes by clicking on the star button or like buttons.
Clicking the star button sends a like on OkCupid.
Clicking the like button sends a woman your like.
According to OkCupid, "Liking people is a great way to let them know that you're interested!" If the woman likes you back, OkCupid lets you both know there's a "mutual like," and you can chat for free.
But there's one problem with OkCupid's like functionality. If you like a woman's profile and she doesn't like you back, your like sits in a virtual wasteland. She can't see it if she's a basic member of the app.
OkCupid A-List allows you to see who likes your profile.
When using a free membership, OkCupid allows you to see 1 free like and that's it. The rest are blurred out as a way to encourage you to join their A-list, premium membership.
Women can only see who likes them when using premium membership.
Of course, there's a cost to see your likes. Below is the cost for an upgraded membership on OkCupid. You see it's not cheap.
The cost for an A-list membership on OkCupid.
Keep in mind, if you use the premium version of OkCupid, women won't see your likes unless they are using the paid membership or like your profile as well.
Why women write ,"I can't see likes."
If it's not clear, women write "I can't see likes" because they are using the free version of the app or simply don't want to swipe through endless profiles to see which guys like them.
Women, especially attractive women, can receive 10, 20, 30, 40+ likes a day. Who has the energy to go through all that to simply see who likes them?
Why you must NEVER send like without a message.
On OkCupid, you must like a woman's profile before you send a message. So, always send an icebreaker with your like.
Sending a "like" by itself is low effort. I've shown you above that your like will probably go unanswered because of the huge volume a woman can receive.
Always send a message with your "like" on OkCupid.
And it's key to show effort in your approaches with women on OkCupid or any dating app. The ideal approach is commenting on something in a woman's bio.
Hinge found, "the best way to get a response is to ask a direct question about your match's profile while sharing your interests."
OkCupid points out, "talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection..."
Women receive a lot of attention from men on OkCupid. And also a ton of likes. You will NEVER stand out if your approach is just liking women and waiting for them to like you back on OkCupid.
There's a reason women write for you to message them in their bios. They are tired of receiving just likes.
Sending a message with your "like" moves you to the top. I can't emphasize this enough, always send a message with your like.
For message tips on OkCupid, go here, 3 Good Conversation Starters for Online Dating Messages To Women.
Final Thoughts
Never send a woman a "like" as your introduction on OkCupid. Always include a message with your likes. Always!
The woman you like may not have A-list or doesn't want to spend all her time swiping on files to see who likes her. It's a blunder if you just like a woman's profile.
There are a lot of guys who simply swipe right, or like a woman's profile, and leave it at that. You have zero chance of standing out if you do this.
To be fair, men also write, "I can't see likes." If you do this, please stop. Don't sit there and worry about who likes you.
Your time is better spent seeking out women you want to meet and messaging them first. That's how you succeed on OkCupid.
“If you like a man and he uses the free version of OkCupid, he will never see your like unless he likes your profile as well. That’s the problem with OkCupid.” Double standards
It’s the exact opposite of a double standard. The mechanism works if you fucking use it.
The idiotic thing about this is, that “I can’t see your likes” is such bullshit, overly repeated collection of nonsense, none of these people stop to think of the fact that the point is…if you both “like” one another theeeeen, ya fucking get a notification for that.
So, many people with only knee-jerk thoughts in their heads. p.s. “I don’t pay for this app, so I can’t see arbitrary likes”. Oh no, we might have to both be interested in one another.
Exactly Joey, this tactic of saying I can’t see likes so message me defeats the purpose of actually finding a match. I’m not one to speak but dating apps should not be in favor in 1 side when searching for someone. P. S I have free version, so I also can’t see likes.
Not being able to see likes is only an issue for vapid lazy fucks. A mutual like is not a hindrance, in actuality it’s the more positive and actual dating behavior.