The Top 7 Things Men Never Lie About On Dating Profiles
Topics men should not lie about on dating profiles include their age, interests, and appearance on their dating profile. Women are skeptical of dating apps because so many men lie about themselves. One study found 81% of online daters lied about their weight, height, or age.
It's gotten to the point that women are on the defensive on dating apps. Wary of bad experiences because they meet men who aren't who they present themselves as online.
Don't lie about anything. One lie is all it takes, and you're done. You can't meet a woman and expect to charm her into liking you after she finds out you lied to her about something on your profile.
Here are 7 common things men lie about on their dating profiles. Just one can doom your chances.
1. Don't lie about what you're looking for on dating apps.
Don't say you're looking for a relationship if you're only looking to hookup. A lot of men say things they think women want to hear because they want casual sex.
If you want a relationship, great. If you want something casual, that's fine too. Just be honest about your intentions. You will fare better if you tell women what you want; trust me on this.
Women are looking for casual relationships on dating apps. Some are open to non-monogamy. The key is being upfront with your intentions.
If you're unsure what a woman wants, ask her. A simple trick is asking a woman what she's looking for. Women will tell you what they want, and 99% of the time will ask you what you're looking for. This is where you answer honestly.
A good tip is to ask women what they are looking for.
It's also important to be on the right dating app. If you're on Match.com looking for something casual, you're wasting your time. If you're on Tinder looking for your soulmate and want a family, you're on the wrong app.
The key is joining the right dating app. Want to find out the ideal app for you to meet women? Take my quiz, What Is The Best Dating App For You?
2. Don't hide that you have kids.
Never hide that you have children. Sure, someone women don't want to date men with small children. While others are parents themselves and could care less. As with everything, it's important to let women know that you have children from the outset.
Maybe you think you'll bring up that you're a parent at "the right time." That's nonsense. You don't want to blindside a woman by telling her you are a father on your first date.
Don't add photos of your kids to your portfolio. Never do that. Protect their anonymity and keep them off your dating profile. It's better to write about having kids.
Zoosk found that talking about your kids prompts more messages from women. It's best to show you're a great dad by sharing things you do with your kids.
If your kids are teenagers, you can tack that onto your bio, because it shows you have more free time compared to men with younger kids. If you don't feel comfortable writing that you have kids, at least fill select "yes" on the "children" option. That's all you really need to do.
If you have children, always fill this option.
3. Don't lie about your age on your dating profile.
Never lie about your age. Ever. I get it, you're worried about your age gap with women you're interested in.
Maybe you're 51 and fall outside a woman's range of 35-45, but REALLY want to meet her. Don't finagle your birthday so you can appear in her search results. Seriously, don't do this.
Yes, some women are not interested in men your age. However, zero women want to date a guy who lies about his age.
Also, avoid writing, "I look younger than my age" in your bio. First of all, no, you don't. It's a meaningless statement. How do you think this helps you meet women? It doesn't.
When you share how you "look young" for your age, you draw attention to your age anyway. It's better to share your youthful spirit though interests/hobbies.
Traveling, an active lifestyle, cooking, concerts, and wine tasting are how you connect with women. Not writing, "I look young for my age."
4. Don't lie about where you live on your dating profile.
Don't put up a dating profile in one city where you live 75 miles away from. Fortunately, some apps use GPS, so you can't do this, but several allow you to simply enter a city or zip code.
You misrepresent yourself when you lie about your location. If you start a conversation with a woman and spring it on her that you live 100 miles away, it may come back to haunt you. Even worse if you tell her on a first date.
If you're visiting from another city. At least be honest about your intentions in your bio. I see this often on Tinder, and this is fine. The point is, don't say you're from an area you don't live in to meet women.
5. Never lie about your appearance in your profile photos.
Possibly the biggest thing men lie about on dating profiles is their appearance. Don't use photos from 10 years ago, 25 pounds ago, or when you had hair. First impressions are everything, and your pictures must be accurate.
First, look in the mirror. Then look at the pictures you want on your profile. If you don't look like the photos, don't use them. The biggest issue with women is outdated photos on men's profiles.
A study in 2013 by Pew Research Center found "54% of online daters have felt that
someone else seriously misrepresented themselves in their profile." The main culprit
is people using old photos.
If you have a beard, it's also a good idea to not mix pictures on your bio. When you have pictures with a beard, and pictures without, women wonder which set of photos are current. You NEVER want women to shift to thoughts of, "I wonder if these photos are recent."
Next, don't cover up your face. Don't hide behind sunglasses or wear a hat in all your photos. These make you seem unapproachable.
For example, wearing sunglasses in photos. Sunglasses are a bad idea because they block and cover your eyes. Zoosk found people who wear sunglasses get 63% fewer messages.
Keep hats off your profile as well. If all your photos are you wearing a hat, women will think you're hiding that you don't have hair.
And if you happen to be bald, who cares. There's nothing wrong with showing you don't have hair in your pictures. In fact, women may find you hotter!
One study found women find bald men more dominant, masculine and confident. You can read about it here, Why Women Think Bald Men Are More Dominant And Confident.
Men should never wear sunglasses in profile pictures
6. Don't lie about your hobbies/interests in your profile.
You must share some of your hobbies in your bio. Your hobbies and interests provide insight into your lifestyle. They also act as hooks because then can serve as catalysts for women responding to your messages. And sometimes, women contact you first because they read about your interests in your profile.
Avoid writing activities you never actually do just to impress women or land dates. For example, never write how you "love to travel" when you only travel once a year. Or how you live an active lifestyle when you mostly sit on the couch watching TV or play video games.
It's simple, jot down a few of your hobbies that you actually do often. Then write a few sentences about each on your bio. Depth is key. If you don't have many hobbies, maybe it's time to find new ones.
7. Don't lie about your relationship status on your bio.
Always fill the relationship option if available on your dating app.
Another thing men lie about on dating profiles is their relationship status. I can't believe I have to write this but never lie about your relationship status. If the app you're on has a relationship option that shows if you're single, divorced, never married, etc., fill it out honestly.
If you're married, it goes without saying you shouldn't pretend you're single. And you shouldn't be on Match.com or eharmony if you're married. There are better apps out there for married men.
This doesn't mean you have to write on your bio how you're single. It's pretty much implied, yet women are still cautious. An example is below where a woman on Tinder writes how she's not interested in men going through a divorce.
Women are not open to date men in the middle of a divorce
If you aren't single, it's going to be tough to meet someone on dating apps. Not impossible, though. Here are a few casual dating apps that I covered: