5 OkCupid Intro Examples That Get You Results!
A top question from men is, what are OkCupid intro examples for starting conversations with women? Several approaches I recommend include complimenting a photo, asking for a pet peeve, and commenting on a woman's bio.
This post shares 5 OkCupid intros that are guaranteed to get you responses from women. Following the approaches in this post can get your "foot in the door" and start conversations with women instantly
1. Focus on a woman's bio.
The best way to start a conversation on OkCupid is by focusing on a woman's bio. You can use anything a woman shares about herself in your icebreaker.
Most men take the easy way out and send generic openers like "hi" or "hey." Below is an example I constantly see where a woman shares her frustration in her bio.
Women are tired of getting low-effort openers.
Instead of using a generic opener such as "hi," scan a woman's bio for your icebreaker. Women are more likely to respond because commenting on her profile shows effort.
Focusing on a woman's bio shows her you took the time to read through her profile which is a huge plus. Below is an icebreaker where I get a response by asking about Ashley's dog.
Focusing on a woman's bio is the best way to start a conversation.
Note in the message above how I share something about my dog after asking Ashley about hers. A good tip is to share something about yourself for the topic you use in your opener.
Mentioning a common interest can make the difference if a woman responds to your message or not. OkCupid points out that "talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection..."
2. Compliment something in a photo.
Another way to start a conversation with a woman is to compliment one of her photos, then ask a question about it. Below is an example where I compliment the view and then ask for the picture's location.
Complimenting a woman's photo can start a conversation.
Complimenting a woman's picture can open a lot of doors. Everybody likes getting a compliment, which makes this approach so effective.
Be careful - don't compliment a woman's appearance. NEVER do this because most men compliment a woman's looks, and this approach almost always fails.
Instead, look for a photo that grabs your attention. Once you find a good one, compliment the picture and ask something about it.
3. Ask for a favorite weekend activity.
A great tip for starting conversations is asking a woman about her favorite weekend activity. This approach gives insight into something the woman finds enjoyable in her free time.
Everyone has favorite weekend activities!
Why is this an effective opener? First, all women enjoy doing something in their free time, so they will always have an answer to this question.
Secondly, the icebreaker puts a woman in a positive frame of mind. She will think about something fun, which puts a smile on her face, regardless of how her day is going.
Asking a woman for her favorite thing to do on the weekend is highly effective at getting responses. It's a simple and effective way to open doors on OkCupidd.
This approach shouldn't be one-sided, so share a few of your favorite weekend activities. Keep them light and fun, and include things women typically enjoy (i.e., wine tasting, dancing, concerts, etc.).
Icebreaker Tip: Look at the woman's photos/prompts for clues and include those in your interest. For example, if a woman has pictures at the beach and another of herself out with friends having drinks, you could write, "I enjoy relaxing at the beach, stand-up paddle-boarding, drinks with friends, concerts, and trying new sushi spots."
4. Ask for a pet peeve.
A pet peeve is "something that a particular person finds especially annoying." Everyone has a few pet peeves, so a clever way to start a conversation with a woman is by asking her to share one.
This icebreaker is very effective at starting conversations with women on OkCupid. Probably because it's an approach men rarely use in icebreakers.
When asking a woman for a pet peeve, share one of yours. Below is an example of how I use this approach to start a conversation.
Ask a woman to share a pet peeve in your OkCupid icebreaker.
Icebreaker Tip: Keep your pet peeve light. Don't share a pet peeve that may offend women or rant about anything, politics, for example.
Being negative in an opener isn't appealing to women. Fun and friendly is the key to connecting with women on OkCupid.
5. Ask for a guilty pleasure.
You probably have several guilty pleasures, and, it's likely, the woman you're messaging does as well. A guilty pleasure is "something, such as a movie, television program, or piece of music, that one enjoys despite feeling that it is not generally held in high regard."
A good way to start a conversation on OkCupid is by asking a woman to share one of her guilty pleasures. It's a fun and unique way to break the ice.
While most men struggle with openers, this is a great approach to add to your messaging arsenal. I get great results with this approach, as you can see below.
Break the ice by asking for a guilty pleasure.
As with other OkCupid intro examples on this post, share something about yourself in the icebreaker. Doing this ensures the conversation isn't one-sided and boosts the likelihood of a response from women.
Final Thoughts
It's easy to start conversations with women on OkCupid. Use the OkCupid intro examples on this post as a guide to get responses from women on the app.
Each of the icebreakers on this post is some of the best I use on OkCupid. Copy them directly or customize them to your liking.
For more help on OkCupid, visit my blog post, The Best Tips for OkCupid. You'll find tons of tips for your bio, photos, and messages.