The Top 7 Qualities Women Look For In Men On Dating Apps

What are the top qualities women look for in men on dating apps?

The top qualities women look for in men on dating apps include kindness, honesty, and humor. It's not all about your looks. Sure, good photos are important, but women looking for long-term partners look for signs that you're a decent person with depth and values.

While most guys put little effort into their bios, you can separate yourself from the masses by highlighting traits most women want in a partner. Here are 7 important qualities women look for in men and how you can show them on your dating profile.

1. Kindness

Caring for others is an attractive trait with women. Elitesingles surveyed 400,000 singles and found 82% of women rated kindness as "extremely important" in finding a long-term partner. Kindness was more important than sexual attraction, emotional connection, and moral values.

Who wouldn't want a kind partner? Kindness is a great trait because it means you are friendly, generous, and considerate of others.

How can you show you're a kind person? Through your actions.

For example, having a pet shows kindness because you're capable of taking care of something other than yourself. You clearly show concern for other living creatures, especially if you rescued your dog. Here are a few facts about dogs:

• 35% of single women have been more attracted to someone because of their pet.
• 72% of single women say that a dog is the "hottest pet a guy could own."
• 59% of singles agree that finding out your date had adopted rather than bought their pet would make them seem more attractive.

Another act of kindness is volunteering. Women find men who volunteer attractive. Time is precious, and giving your time to causes shows incredible selflessness.

One study found women preferred men who were selfless more for long-term relationships. One surprising find in the study was less attractive men who displayed "high acts of selflessness" were more desirable than handsome men who showed low concern for others.

Yep, volunteering makes you hotter with women. I cover that in this blog post here: How To Make Yourself More Desirable To Women On Dating Apps: Volunteer!

So, don't just write on your bio how you are "kind," paint a picture of your lifestyle, demonstrating your kindness to others. It can be volunteering your time, donating things, picking up litter at the beach, participating in causes, etc.

2. Adventurous

A survey from AskMen.com found one of the top qualities women look for in men is "adventurous." Being adventurous doesn't necessarily mean doing extreme sports.

Sure, you can show you're adventurous side on your dating profile using pictures; sky diving, zip-lining, bungee jumping, scuba diving, etc. But you can also show you're adventurous by writing how you enjoy "trying new restaurants" because you enjoy "experiencing new cultures that food presents."

AskMen.com pointed out "adventurous didn't mean the women necessarily wanted a man to skydive with..." and instead it meant the women "wanted an open-minded man with a worldly view."

Adventurous in this context means openness and willingness to try new things and broaden your horizons. Women love seeing this in men.

Being adventurous shows a woman you're up for anything; going dancing when you aren't really good, taking her to a play she's always wanted to see, or taking her on a date to a painting class when you aren't a good painter means they probably won't be stuck in a rut with you. You demonstrate you're open to exploring.

In all relationships, things are bound to get stale, but with an adventurous mindset, you can create a long-term happy relationship.

3. Intelligence

OkCupid found 70% of the participants in a study found "intelligence is a definite turn on" while Tinder found when looking at partners, "education was important to 96 percent of online daters."

One study found women want men "with a similar equivalent of education levels..." Also, if you have a college degree, the study found you can expect "an increase of 35% in the number of first contact emails from women."

A recent survey of 1,700 singles on EliteSingles found 85% surveyed believe that being well-read makes you more appealing. I discussed this in a previous blog post; How To Make A Favorable First Impression With Women On Dating Sites.

All these facts show women dig smart guys. So how can you prove you're intelligent on your bio?

One way to show you're intelligent is easy; not having grammar mistakes in your profile or messages. Keep that in mind. Your results on dating apps drop if you appear uneducated.

You could also write in your bio how you enjoy reading books and mention books you're currently reading, or maybe how you enjoy visiting museums, or are continuing your education. Mentioning art and playing an instrument also shows intelligence.

A sneaky way of showing you're intelligent is by adding a photo of yourself reading a book. A picture is a much better way of showing you read than writing, "I enjoy reading" in your bio.

Women find men who are smart sexy, so highlight that in your bio, and you'll stand out.

4. Positivity

You want a positive bio because nothing kills attraction faster than negativity. Plentyoffish found that users with positive identifiers in their profile received 23% more incoming messages while EliteSingles found 22% of members found negativity to be a turnoff.

For whatever reason, a high percentage of men show negativity on their bios. Here's an example I quickly found on POF:

The last thing you should do is write what you "aren't looking for" or include things you "dislike." Your profile should highlight your strengths in a positive fashion. The quickest way to turn women off is showing hostility or negativity.

Showing positivity also includes your photos. Not smiling in your photos is a huge red flag. The first thing women look at in your photos is your smile. What do you think a photo like this says to women?

Photo feeler found neutral expressions are an attraction killer. The site shared "most men who look threatening in their dating pics aren't aware that they do" and neutral expressions (i.e., not smiling) are "risky in pictures because they can be interpreted so many ways."

So smile in your photos! It's infectious and helps get responses with women.

5. Honesty

A recent study by Badoo, found honesty is the most attractive trait on dating apps. It doesn't mean write you're "honest" on your bio. Instead, include things that make you unique.

Baddo found people who present a "more polished version of themselves were found to fare badly" when it comes to getting a date on dating apps, but people who are honest "about themselves do well on online dating sites."

Don't put up a bio which shows you're perfect. You aren't fooling anyone; women know perfection doesn't exist and you'll fare better including things (not too embarrassing) about yourself like these:

• One of my guilty pleasures is taking a bath, having a beer, with classical music playing. It's bliss.
• I'm the type of person who wants to do a lot of things but trapped in the body of someone who wants to sleep a lot.
• I've been known to make up plans so I can stay home and binge-watch Netflix; especially zombie shows.
• I recently lost 30 pounds through hard work and revamping my diet. It wasn't easy, but I've never felt better (but I do still dream of donuts).

It's OK to share things like these in your bio and you should; keep them positive. It's little things like this that women appreciate seeing in your bio.

6. Confidence

Confidence is sexy. A confident man knows what he wants and writes it on his bio. A wishy-washy guy hopes women choose him. Know the difference.

Here are a couple of mistakes which shows a lack of confidence. A confident man doesn't let others speak for him like this guy:

Instead of writing "People say" or "I've been told..." write what you are. When a woman asks you, "tell me about yourself," you don't say, "Well, my friends would say..." do you? Nope. Don't do it on your bio either.

When it comes to messages, a confident man doesn't "like" a woman or add a woman as a favorite without sending a message immediately. Sending a "like" without sending a message is low-effort.

Also, if you match up with a woman on Tinder, for example, don't let her sit in your message queue like this:

I can't tell you how often I see women share their frustration with men who don't send messages on their profile. Here's an example from a woman on Tinder:

You're a man and expected to make the first move. Send her a message and don't let her sit around waiting for you.

You can show women you're confident with your bio as well as taking action in your messages. Remember that.

7. Sense of Humor

It's no secret women love funny men. How often do you see a woman write she wants a guy who "makes her laugh" like this woman on Coffee Meets Bagel:

When a woman writes she wants someone who makes her laugh, she means it. One study found 58% of women want a man with a sense of humor who can make them "laugh."

You want to put a smile on women's faces as they read your bio, so inject some humor. Don't overdo it. It can be as simple as writing how you "enjoy board games and crush it at Hungry Hungry Hippo" or how you're "handy around the house, but learned the hard way to hire an electrician."

Don't tell jokes on your bio or write "I'm funny" and leave it at that. A lot of guys write how funny they are while their profile has no humor whatsoever.

You want a little humor in your bio, but don't force it. If you play your cards right, women will respond more and in some cases start conversations with you because of your humor like this woman on OkCupid:

Final Thoughts

The key for you succeeding on dating apps is showing you're a man of character. There are a lot of qualities women look for, but if you can show several (hopefully all) of the traits below, you will stand head and shoulders above all the other men who are competing with you for women's attention.

• Show kindness.
• Be adventurous.
• Highlight your intelligence.
• Positive profile only.
• Honesty goes a long way.
• Exude confidence.
• Display your sense of humor.