What are red flags on men's Tinder profiles?
The top red flags men make on Tinder include bathroom selfies, not using photo verification and a lack of effort in bios. These types of mistakes impact your results negatively.
This post shares 10 Tinder red flags that cause women to ghost you, swipe left or unmatch with you. The good news is everything can be fixed, so check if you make any blunders below.
- Bathroom selfies are a huge red flag.
- Not smiling in photos is a huge turnoff.
- An empty bio shows that you're lazy.
- Women in your photos don't help you on Tinder.
- Sharing social media in your bio is a blunder.
- Don't use photos with children in them.
- Negativity is not an attractive trait.
- Your bio has clichés.
- You don't verify your photos.
- You never ask women out.
1. Bathroom selfies are a huge red flag.
One of the top red flags on Tinder is the bathroom selfie. These photos are proven to hurt your results, yet men still choose to use them.
Holding a smartphone in your photo in a bathroom is a no-no. Does this type of photo give insight into who you are or help you get more matches? The answer is no.
Selfies, in general, scream narcissism and that you don't have friends that can take your picture. Women want to see your lifestyle and interests in your photos - there's nothing authentic about bathroom selfies.
You are also judged by your environment - women look at everything in your picture. Using photos where public toilets/urinals are visible is an instant swipeleft.
Do you think it's OK to snap a photo in your bathroom at home? Nope. Women will look at your toothpaste, sink, hair products lying around, and towel hanging over the shower.
There are better ways to flaunt your body than standing in a bathroom. Surfing, kayaking, stand-up paddle boarding, etc., are better for showing your physique.
Bathroom selfies are a red flag on Tinder.
2. Not smiling in photos is a huge turnoff.
The first thing women look at in men's photos is their smiles. A great smile is a perfect introduction - it shows you're friendly and likeable.
Unfortunately, a huge portion of men chooses to stare into the camera emotionless. Below is an example.
Not smiling in your picture is a huge red flag on Tinder.
You're making a huge blunder if you don't smile, especially in your primary photo. You may not realize that your expressionless face hurts your results.
Photofeeler, a site that analyzes dating profile pictures, found "most men who look threatening in their dating pics aren't aware that they do." You may think not smiling is OK, but it's not.
Tinder found people who are smiling in their pictures are 14 percent more likely to be swiped to the right than those who aren't. Don't make excuses for not smiling in photos.
I hear men often say, "it doesn't feel natural," or "I don't like smiling in photos because it's awkward. Nonsense! Women don't care why you don't smile in pictures and don't want to hear your explanation.
Always smile in your profile photos on Tinder. Women will react positively when they see your smile and may swipe right because of it.
3. An empty bio shows that you're lazy.
There's a myth about Tinder that only your photos matter. That myth is 100% wrong - women read your bio.
The key to success on Tinder is a balanced profile - your photos and bio are critical for success. Ignore your bio at your own risk..
Many guys choose to put up an empty profile or write a handful of words, expecting it's acceptable. You won't create attraction with women using a low-effort bio.
A lack of effort in your bio is a huge red flag on Tinder because it shows you're not serious about meeting someone. Below is a typical example of a man's bio on the app.
The guy above puts zero effort into his About Me section.
Creating a good bio on Tinder is simple. Here are a few tips to help you write about yourself:
- Share a few of your interests - Make sure women enjoy them. Hiking will help connect with more women than video games.
- Include a guilty pleasure.
- Write about your favorite weekend activities - Examples that connect with women include concerts, sushi, farmers markets, road trips, etc.
- Include something currently popular - A show or movie everyone is talking about is a good choice.
- Describe what you want in a partner - Your bio can't be all about you. Briefly share a few things about what you're looking for.
Women react positively to a well-written bio. You'll get more likes, matches, and women may start conversations if you're bio stands out.
A great profile will get you matches on Tinder.
4. Women in your photos don't help you on Tinder.
Never use photos on Tinder with women in them. They distract women viewing your profile and add no benefit to your results.
There's a myth that women in your profile photos elevate your status and boost your desirability. This is 100% false - women in photos cause some women to swipe left.
Standing alongside a woman takes the focus away from you. Women viewing your picture will think, "Who is that?" That's the last thing you want on Tinder.
It doesn't matter if your sister, friend, a waitress at a bar, etc. - no women in photos! Aside from one group photo with male friends, you should be the only person in all your profile pictures.
Photos alongside women add no benefit on Tinder.
5. Sharing social media in your bio is a blunder.
Many men put zero effort into their bio (see #3 above) and choose to include their social media handles instead. Sharing your social media benefits you less than a great bio.
The problem with including your social media in your bio is it's an instant turnoff for a percentage of women viewing it. Not all women will swipe left, but some will, so it's risky.
Sharing your social media adds no value. You're better off sharing your interests and passion in your bio instead of your Snapchat username.
Sharing social media in your bio is a blunder.
6. Don't use photos with children in them.
Using photos alongside women adds no benefit. Women will not swipe right on your profile because they see kids in it.
I guarantee a huge percentage of women instantly swipe left seeing kids in profile pics. There are better ways of showing you're a good dad - write about it in your bio or let it come up in a conversation.
Protect your children's anonymity by keeping them off your profile photos. Facebook is OK to share photos of kids with your friends, but Tinder is not.
Do not show kids in your profile photos on Tinder.
7. Negativity is not an attractive trait.
A huge red flag on Tinder is seeing negativity in profiles. Negative comments show you're angry, jaded, and not attractive to women.
A huge blunder men make on Tinder is taking their frustrations out in their bio. They make statements that are instant attraction killers, including:
- Swipe left if you voted for (a persons name).
- I'm not here for games or drama.
- We're probably not a match if (some reasons).
- No, I don't want to follow you on (OnlyFans/Instagram/Snapchat).
- Please swipe left if you wear a mask.
- Don't waste my time (for some reason).
- Please be able to hold a conversation.
If a woman sees "I'm not here for drama" in your profile, she won't think, "WOW, I'm not looking for drama either! We're a match." She will think you bring the drama and swipe left.
Negativity in your bio turns women off and hurts your results on Tinder. Have some self-awareness about how you present yourself.
Positive profiles perform best, so remove anything negative in your profile. Confidence, humor, a great vibe, and shared interests connect with more women than negativity on Tinder.
Negative comments are attraction killers to women.
8. Your bio has clichés.
A cliche is a saying or expression that has been so overused that it has become boring and unoriginal. Unfortunately, men on Tinder use them often in their bios.
If you use a cliché, you may as well write, "I'm boring, unoriginal, and have nothing to say about myself." Typical clichés men use in their bios include:
- I'm fluent in sarcasm
- I love to laugh
- My kids come first/My kids are my world
- I work hard, play hard.
- I like going out, but also staying in
Phrases like the ones above do not help your results on Tinder. It may be difficult writing about yourself, but including your interests, hobbies, and passions are more likely to connect with women than overused meaningless phrases.
9. You don't verify your photos.
Tinder offers photo verification, and you must use this feature. Verifying your pictures shows women that you look like your photos and aren't using a picture from 5 years ago
Women are skeptical of men using outdated pictures or catfishing. It's common to see women tell men to use recent photos in their bios.
Why should you verify yourself on Tinder? Simple - you'll get more matches with women.
It takes minutes to verify your photos on Tinder. You can find out how to verify yourself on Tinder here.
Once confirmed, a blue badge will appear on your profile. It's worth the effort to get that badge added to your profile.
If you choose not to verify your photos, you can expect women to request them before matching. Below is what you'll experience if you're not currently verified.
Women requesting photo verification is commonplace.
10. You never ask women out.
One of the biggest frustrations and red flags for women on Tinder is men never ask them out. These men, commonly known as "pen pals," are a huge red flag for women on Tinder.
It's so bad some women take out their frustrations in their bio. Below is an example of a woman sharing her frustrations.
Women aren't looking for penpals on Tinder.
Men who string women along appear clueless. They talk and talk while annoying women for their inability to make a move.
Guys who are successful on Tinder ask women out - they get results. Don't hesitate to ask a woman out once there's a good conversation.
Your goal on Tinder is to meet someone and not endlessly chat. Mark my words; a woman will lose interest if you take too long to ask her out.
Final Thoughts
You must avoid red flags in your Tinder profile. The examples in this post are common mistakes men make on the app.
If you make any of the mistakes above, fix your profile today. The longer you delay, the more likely women will bypass you for someone else.
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