5 Ways You Can Succeed On Dating Apps
If you want to succeed on dating apps, there are a few easy rules you must follow. Make sure you're on the right dating app, create an awesome profile, put some effort into your message, and don't become a pen pal.
It's not rocket science - it's just online dating. Yet, most men mess up, making mistakes in their bio's or never escalating their conversations and asking women out.
Follow the tips below so you can fix mistakes you might be making. Here are five tips showing you how to succeed on dating apps.
1. Join the right dating app.
Are you looking for a relationship? Avoid Tinder. Want something casual? Don't look for that on eharmony. All too often, men join the wrong dating app making them stumble out of the gate.
If you want a relationship, you should look at Match.com, OkCupid, Plentyoffish, Hinge, Zoosk, etc. Want something casual? Join Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Facebook Dating. You have options!
There are a lot of dating apps. Maybe too many. But which is best for you boils down to these key points:
- Do you want a relationship or something casual?
- Are you willing to spend money and join a paid app?
- What's your age, and what's the ideal age for women you want to meet?
- Where do you live? Some apps are best for larger cities, while others are not.
These are things to consider when joining a dating app.
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2. Create a killer dating profile.
A major key to succeed on dating apps is a great dating profile. It's not all about your photos - you need an end-to-end magnetic dating profile.
Women spend 50% more time analyzing profiles than men. Nearly 70% of women contact you based on your written bio. What does this mean? Women want to see an effort in your profile. A great profile helps you stand out from the hordes of other men.
Sit down and take the time to share what makes you unique. Your hobbies, passions, and interests. Tack on good photos of yourself doing things you enjoy; outdoors on a hike, a vacation picture somewhere, out with friends, etc. Most guys never put effort into their bios and fail miserably.
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Women will reach out if you have a great dating profile.
3. Match up with the right women.
A common mistake I made early on was matching with every woman possible. I'd swipe right on a woman's profile without reading it. I would message a woman just because she's hot. If you do this, you won't get the best results.
Focus on women that you share common interests because that's what they do. Yep, women gravitate towards men who are similar to them; education, income, lifestyle, religion, politics, etc.
Factor in where you are in life and what you want. If you don't want kids, don't contact women who want kids. Are you a world traveler? Then avoid women who are homebodies. Maybe you're a homebody; you won't fare well contacting active women.
If your app has a search filter - use it! You can include (or exclude) traits you want (or don't want) in a partner. You'll do better when looking for what you want in a partner.
Be sure to contact women who are on the same page as you.
4. Send a good message.
Your opening message is critical to succeed on dating apps. You want to make a lasting first impression, and a great icebreaker does that.
Put some thought into your opening message. Similar to your dating profile, women want to see effort an. Avoid sending short messages such as, "How are you?" or "Anything fun planned for the weekend?" Even worse, "Hi" or "Hey there." Guys who send those types of messages fail miserably.
Your best chance for a response is asking about something in a woman's bio and then sharing something about yourself for that topic. EliteSingles found "find something in their profile you both share and talk about that.
Finding something in common and commenting on it not only helps you establish your shared interests but also demonstrates that you read their profile and paid attention to their hobbies." Thus, it's a good idea to show you have common interests instead of saying, "Hey, we have a lot in common!"
Here are a few tips for your icebreaker:
- Show curiosity about the woman
- Stay away from physical compliments
- Check your grammar - it matters
- Compliments work wonders (avoid complimenting looks)
- Inject humor and confidence
Sure, it's more effort to read a woman's bio and think about your approach. But the reward is you will get more responses.
Putting effort into your messages results in MORE responses.
5. Ask the woman out!
A common mistake men make on dating apps is to send message after message - never escalating. It seems a lot of men are content becoming pen pals.
Women join dating apps for one reason; to meet someone. Some want relationships, while others something more casual. Yet, a common complaint from women is men who have no intention of meeting.
Or worse, some guys lack confidence and just drone on endlessly. Don't think you're the only guy a woman's talking with on the dating app. Fail to make a move; you may lose out to some other guy who steps up.
Once you feel a connection, ask for the woman's number so you can plan a date. I don't recommend asking a woman out on the dating app. It's better to get her number so you can talk/text and figure out when to meet.
Avoid endless messaging on dating apps - Ask the woman out!