7 Things You Ought To Do On Your Dating Profile To Attract Women

7 Things Every Guy Should Do On Their Dating Profiles

Don't risk putting up a dating profile filled with bad photos, cliches, poorly written full of grammar errors, or worse, incomplete. Women have options. A lot of options. It's critical you have a great (not just good) dating profile, so you stand out.

Most guys don't put in the effort; using a few photos which are mainly selfies and write nothing about themselves. The amount of effort a guy puts into his dating profile speaks volumes; it tells women who serious he is about meeting someone.

Avoid the mistake the majority of men are guilty of with their dating profile. Here are 7 things all guys ought to do on dating profiles. Following these tips will boost any guys results.

Join the right dating site

Before getting to the list, there's one critical step; make sure you are on the right dating site. There are a TON of options; Tinder, Match, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, POF, Eharmony, Jdate and the list goes one.

All dating sites have plenty of female members, but which site is right for you? Which site is easier finding the type of women you want? Depending on what you're looking for, you might do more work on some sites than others.

Take this example, assume you're 35 years old and want to settle down. You want a family. You want a partner who has a career, doesn't have kids right now and is educated.

Sites like Zoosk and Match.com have filters which allow searches for EXACTLY what you want. The photo below is the search tool on Match which has several filters allowing you to filter a woman's appearance, education, kids, body type, hobbies, religion, etc.

Use a dating sites search filters so you can zero in on your ideal match.

What if you're a member on Tinder? Good luck! Tinder's allows you to filter distance and age; nothing else.

Some dating apps allow limited, as is Tinder's case, filtering mechanisms.

Assume another guy is 35, wants kids with a woman who doesn't have kids, and is educated and employed, but is instead on Tinder. He must swipe right on a ton of women (hoping they reciprocate and swipe him back) and then initiate conversations and bring up these things quickly, so he isn't wasting his time:

Do you want kids?
Do you have kids?
What do you do for work?
Did you go to college?

This guy has his work cut out for him. You see it's more work for him finding and excluding women. These are easy to discover on sites with filtering mechanisms though.

Lastly, I know "free dating sites" are appealing because they don't cost money, but, if you're serious about finding a partner; paid dating sites are the way to go. And "free" doesn't mean they are really "free."

I cover that in this blog, Why Paid Dating Sites Are Better Than Free Sites For Meeting Women.

1. Know what you want.

Always include a few sentences describing the type of woman you are looking for at the end of your dating profile. One study found guys who do this on their profiles receive better results.

The study, An evidence-based approach to an ancient pursuit:systematic review on converting online contact into a first date, found if you make your profile only about you, "this will attract far fewer responses than a combination of who you are and what you are looking for."

When you describe your ideal partner, be honest. Avoid cliches and anything you think women want to hear. You know, how you're looking for your "best friend" and someone who "lives life to the fullest." Save the Hallmark card crap and write what you want in a partner.

Describe her and don't focus on physical. All too often I see men making it all about being hot. Instead, describe character traits, lifestyle choices, and values. You'll stand out.

2. Avoid using non-confident words.

A lot of men use words on their profiles which shows a lack of confidence. Men who know what they want, and write it on their bio, fare better with women than guys who are unsure of themselves.

Examples of non-confident words include "if," "maybe," and "would." Exclude using these words, or words like them, anywhere on your profile. I see statements like this on men's profiles all the time; "If you're interested, send me a message."

Take this example from POF:

Avoid using words which shows a lack of confidence in your profile.

Do you see how unattractive that statement is? Read it out loud. "If your interested." That's as non-confident as it comes. Also note, he uses "your" instead of "you're which is bad grammar. I cover the impact of misspelled words below.

Assume women are interested and finish your profile encouraging them to send you a message; "I look forward to your message" shows much more confidence then "If you want to know anything else, just ask."

3. Choose the right photos.

No doubt you understand the importance of photos. Photos are the first thing you're judged on, and your primary photo is the most critical.

I'm amazed at how often guys choose terrible photos. Half naked mirror selfies, no smiling, photos of a pet, quotes, food, etc...

It's simple. Look at the camera and smile. Done. Next, take a few pictures of things you enjoy; hiking, cooking, painting, playing an instrument, playing with your dog, riding a horse, volunteering, participating in a race, kayaking, playing softball, etc.

Here's a fact; people who have pictures of themselves doing something interesting have a 40% higher chance of receiving more messages, according to a study by OkCupid. This means no selfies in front of the mirror, on your couch, or in your car.

Always add photos doing something fun. If you don't have these type of photos, it's time to take some.

Grab a friend and have him take pictures. If you're out and about, don't hesitate to ask a stranger to take a photo. I do this all the time and jokingly say, "Hey do you mind taking a photo of me? This would make a great photo for my Tinder profile!" No one ever refuses to take my picture.

For a overview of photos, visit my blog post: How To Take Good Dating Profile Photos For Men.

4. Fill your profile completely - Then double check it.

Never leave any section of your dating profile blank. Women go through your profile with a fine-toothed comb, and even something as simple as a profile setting has an impact.

Take this example from Match.com. I created my profile and made a mistake in the "About Me" section where I selected the option that "I want kids" and wouldn't date a woman who has kids.

Women weren't responding to my messages, and I didn't know why. I sent a second icebreaker to a woman, and she responded and told me why she ignored my first message:

Check your profile settings before messaging women. I filled my "want kids" setting wrong and never realized it until this woman told me why she didn't respond to my message.

Oops! I filled a setting wrong. Had I double checked my bio I could of spotted this error. I have no problem dating someone with children, and immediately fixed my bio and things went back to normal.

Make sure you complete your profile, end-to-end, and double check it when you're finished. Tips include:

Use several photos showing various hobbies and interest.
Answer all major questions covering if you smoke, do you want kids, your height, education, etc.
If your dating site has a username or headline put effort into these and don't type random letters or numbers.
Take time to write about yourself. Read it out loud when finished. If it doesn't make sense reading it out loud, rewrite it because it doesn't make sense while reading it.

The amount of effort you put into your dating profile shows women how serious you are about meeting someone. Don't think women swipe right if your bio is empty and you use 3 photos, all of which as selfies.

5. Don't overdo it.

When you list every single thing you enjoy, women reading your profile ultimately stumble on something they don't like. You don't know what's a turn-off to women, so it's best to avoid the details for your taste in music, movies, and books because it makes you less desirable with women.

Maybe you include a few movies the woman reading your profile thinks is stupid. Perhaps you like rap, and the woman doesn't. Or maybe you watch a show she hates. These are NOT deal breakers on their own, but collectively they add up, and women think, "Wow, I have nothing in common with this guy" when the reality is they are meaningless.

Science backs this up. The study Less Is More: The Lure of Ambiguity, or Why Familiarity Breeds Contempt found the more details you list, the less likable you become. The study theorizes when people exchange a lot of information, they find more reasons to believe they are very different.

So, when you start listing your favorite activities, TV shows, music, books, movies,
etc., the woman reading your profile may turn away because she is telling herself you
both have less and less in common as she reads through your interests.

There is a way around this; add a little mystery. Write enough to pique a woman's curiosity with your choice in movies, music, and books. Instead of listing each movie you love, write a genre. Write about how you enjoy "action movies" and "comedies" instead of specific movies.

Here's how you do it. Maybe your taste in a movie comedy is The 40-Year-Old Virgin while hers is Hitch. So, if you write on your profile "I love romantic comedies" a woman reading that will think, "Wow, I enjoy romantic comedies too. We have something in common" even though your choice in movies are different. You create similarity with women reading your profile doing this trick...and it works.

Whereas if you write, "I love romantic comedies like 40 Year -Old Virgin," she may think, "That movie is stupid" and you've created zero similarity in her mind.

6. Answer "how," "what," or "why."

Men have a hard time describing themselves in their profile. Guys typically list facts and leave it at that. They offer no proof of what they say they enjoy.

Take this example from a profile on POF. The guy writes "cooking is one of my passions and vacationing and traveling is a must for me!". Yawn. Where's the proof?

When listing interests, answer "how," "what," or "why" when describing them.

Whatever you say you enjoy, you must prove it. The ideal approach is answering "how," "what," or "why." For example, the guy above lists "cooking" so answer one of the following:

What do you enjoy about cooking?
Why do you enjoy cooking?
How do you enjoy cooking?

Make sense? Instead of writing "cooking is one of my passions" he could have written this; "I'm an amazing cook. Some people can burn water, but luckily I'm not one of them. You haven't lived until you've tried my grilled salmon or basic chicken pasta (from scratch). I love experimenting with different foods and the creativity that comes with it."

Which is more likely at catching women's attention? My description. Women are more emotional and respond to descriptive bios over ones which only list facts.

Men write profiles like this; "I work as an engineer, enjoy cooking, wine, Netflix, and traveling." This is snooze-inducing and won't catch a woman's eye. And the sad thing is, most men write their profiles in this manner. If your profile is written like this, change it.

It's easy. Just list 4-5 of your hobbies, passions, interests, or goals and write a few sentences about them. You like painting? What do you enjoy about it? Do you volunteer on the weekend? Why do you enjoy volunteering? Maybe you love the outdoors. Describe how. Make sense?

7. Check your grammar.

Bad grammar is the kiss of death. Here are a few facts about how grammar impacts your results on dating sites:

Match.com study revealed 96% of women think grammar is essential.
Zoosk found that spelling errors in your dating profile result in 13% fewer messages from women.
Poor spelling and grammar mistakes are the biggest turn-offs according to Elite Singles.
An analysis by Grammarly, a proofreading company, revealed that a man with two spelling mistakes in his online profile was 14% less likely to receive a positive response from women viewing his profile.

Let these facts serve as a warning; check your grammar. For an overview of the importance of the impact misspelled words and bad grammar has on your results, check out my blog post, Why Grammar Is Critical In Your Dating Profile About Me Section.

Copy and paste your profile into Microsoft Word or an online grammar tool and check for errors. It may make a difference for women contacting you or not.

Final Thoughts

Your results on dating sites are directly tied to your dating profile. When you send a message to a woman the first thing she does is checks your profile. If it's terrible she'll delete your message and move on. If your profile is good, she'll respond. It's that simple.

Make an effort! If your profile is really good, women initiate conversations like this.