Common Dating Profile Mistakes Made by Men

The list is long when it comes to mistakes men make with their dating profile.

I send a weekly email out with tips for online dating. I’ve created numerous blog posts including a post about online dating red flags according to women on Reddit. I’m even creating a course to help men create the best dating profile possible.

Men make mistake after mistake on their dating profiles. After seeing all of these dating profile mistakes, I decided to help you by creating a list of the top 5 dating profiles mistakes that men make in online dating.

Saying Nothing

Have you heard the phrase “Silence is golden”?

That may be true under some circumstances, but it’s definitely not true when it comes to your dating profile.

One of the most common dating profile mistakes for men is writing nothing about yourself on your dating profile.

Below are examples that took me SECONDS to find on Match.com and POF. Note how they say NOTHING about the person.

When you write about yourself share your passions. Describe it, don’t just show it.

Paint a picture to show your varied interests which will generate interest in your dating profile.

Your Longest Relationship is Too Short

Dating sites like POF have profile settings that show your longest relationship.  If you are in your 30’s and your longest relationship is a year, you’ll scare women away.  This screams commitment issues to women.

I was one of these guys who didn’t have relationships that lasted longer than a year when I was younger.  Relationships to me were like Kryptonite to Superman. Yeah, I had issues.  Every single woman I went on dates with would ask me “What’s your longest relationship?”

I’m sure you’ve been asked the same question on a date. It’s the “go to” question for women which they all ask at some point on a date.  I would always respond that I was focusing on my career which left little time for dating. That explanation always worked.

So tread lightly when discussing your longest relationship if it’s a year or two.  You can get around this saying you were too busy focusing on your career, or focused on education, went on adventures, were in Greenpeace, etc…

You Are Out of a Recent Relationship

Mentioning that you are fresh out of a relationship is another entry on the list of dating profile mistakes that you need to avoid.  Never share that you just ended a relationship on your dating profile.

Don’t be the guy who writes this:

“I recently ended my relationship and am not looking for anything serious…”

or this guy;

“I ended my 3-year relationship last month and am here to check things out..”

If this is you, remove it immediately.

Women don’t want a guy on the rebound. She will simply pass you over for some other guy.  You need time to heal so it’s best to focus on other things in your life right now.

This goes both ways, though.

If a woman mentions she just got out of a relationship or is going through a divorce, you should pass on her if you are seeking a serious relationship.

Most women in that situation aren’t ready for something serious and you may risk hurting yourself in the process if you are actually seeking a relationship.

On the flip side, if you are seeking a hookup, these are the women you want to contact because they typically aren’t seeking anything serious right away. Be aware that women who say they aren’t looking for anything serious will receive a ton of emails from men so you’ll have your work cut out for you.

You Are Negative

Negative comments on your dating profile are another example of dating profile mistakes made by men.

Plentyoffish found that users with positive identifiers in their profile received 23% more incoming messages.

Avoid anything negative in your dating profile.

Here are examples of negative dating profile mistakes from actual profiles:

“….however if you’re a vegetarian or have any objections to zoo’s, marine life parks and aquariums we probably aren’t a match…”

“….If you are a smoker or drug user, I am not interested….”

“In short, I’m not here to waste your time, so please don’t waste mine.”

“I am done playing games, looking for genuine people and quality not quantity.”

You can see by the language of these dating profile mistakes that they are negative. You don’t need to list what doesn’t interest you, or tell someone they aren’t your match or focus on negative qualities you aren’t looking for.

Focus on the positive traits you seek in a woman.

Not Enough Profile Pictures

One of the most common dating profile mistakes is having 1 or 2 pictures in your dating profile portfolio.

Below are two profiles from POF:

You want to have 8 – 10 pictures on your dating profile.

The more profile pictures you have, the more likely you’ll receive messages from women.  Plentyoffish users with at least 10 images on their profile receive 8 times more messages.

48% of women pick a date based on looks according to a study by University College London.

You should have 8 pictures minimum.  And you should have no selfies, no pictures of any women in your picture, pictures of objects like cars/boats/motorcycles, pictures of pets.  You should be in every picture on your dating profile.

Final Thoughts

• Your dating profile says nothing about who you are.
• Your longest relationship is too short.
• You just got out of a relationship.
• Your profile is negative.
• You don’t have enough photos on your profile.

Please leave a comment below because I’d like to hear what you think about this post as well as any dating profile mistakes you have made in the past.